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With school back in, and my wife's support I have been able to dress from the early mornings through 1pm M-F and it has been wonderful!

I have been learning about putting an outfit together that looks good. I have noticed that women divide their torso by wearing their skirts and belts above the waist funny how small details dawn on us as we gain experience (wearing skirts and belts at gunslinger level "texas style" with belly haning out (under the waist-line is definitely NOT how women dress!) I do have a female wardrobe including various styles of skirts and tops, shorts, capris, and dresses. I also have my own jewelry, though limited it is enough, Wig, my own make-up, perfume (rarely wear it, but floral scented roll on secret Jasmin scented deoderant nearly every day unless I go out then it is Old Spice!), and many shoes from flats to heels of various styles, lingerie, I have more panties than I do men's briefs - attrition. I suppose I do need to keep a couple pair of men's briefs. It is wonderful to gain experience with make-up, how to trim eyebrow hair, but I still use mascara on my brows to darken them as my brows are very light. I have determined to keep at least my feet to the ankles and my legs from the knees up shaved year-round I love the feel of smooth legs! But, as I do not venture out I must have hair on my calfs in the summer because I do wear shorts every day and that would out me. But in the winter I shave my legs completely and paint my toenails red instead of clear - hard to go barefoot with glossy red nails infront of our teenage boys! or with flip-flops outside of the house or in public!

I do not go out and know that I can open the blinds because unless the lights are on (especially at night) the screens the blinds, and the glare make it nearly impossible for anyone to see in - I walked out to the driveway and could not see in. I do keep a set of "panic" clothes in our office just in case I have to dodge into the bath and change quickly if anyone happens to arrive unannounced.

The other day I was telling my wife that I could not understand why men like me are not allowed to be who we are openly in public. When you think about it are men in feminine attire given such derision because women are seen as beneath men and submissive? Is the Contempt because we feel equality with women something to be desired, or that we would willingly trade places with a strong woman (that's a personal desire, I feel I could be submissive, supporting and loving a strong woman, become the wife of a female husband "wearing the pants." who in turn would love and protect and provide for me -probably more of an erotic fantasy). Being able to wear dresses nearly every day for long periods of time is wonderful, my wife even told me a few days back that I looked good, (but she thinks I look best as a man). I am striving to find a sense of normalcy in my dressing. I am filled with pleasure that I can be the woman within, allow my female, my feninine side to be who she is - even if the moments are still stolen and she is scared because of the chance or the danger that she may be discovered and outed - Anne has a right to live....

I am "in the zone" of that elusive mind set which has allowed me to drop significant weight and the Weight Commander.com has been giving me the red flag warning me to slow down! I do not smoke or drink except on occasion and maybe not even more than monthly - BUT! I do over eat which is the third major unhealthy habit which can lead to all kinds of health problems. Not prefering to be digging my grave with my teeth, but even more so wanting to look good in a dress, I have been so tired of feeling lousy, and barely fitting into my fat size 38's, I will drop from 203.5 down to 176 where I feel I should be. so far I have dropped 6.5 pounds to reach my pre retirement weight, which was overweight without even exercising - I want a fiminine form, no bulking up just thin and slinder. Counting calories which includes portion control - works like nothing else, the weight just falls away even at 54 years of age!

I too have wondered why a man dressing as a women is not and excepted thing. When I get dress every morning I try to look nice not fancy or slutty.
When I get to go out I am still me and hurt or harm no one just go about my business.

Sometimes I believe we upset women because we take the time to look our best and don't go shopping in baggy jeans a t shirt and flip flops.

I think there are a couple of reasons. One is the aforementioned status thing, that back when these taboos were formed it would be a lowering of a mans status.

Another is sexual. Because for many this is a fetish, it's sort of like displaying your sexual desires in public. Additionally men are typically viewed as sexually predatory. You know, always thinking of just one thing.........dressing in womens clothing can be viewed by other men as a trick to get more sex. Who wants to go around hitting on attractive women but in the back of their mind thinking they might be men?

Zari

The problem is that North Americans are so up tight about sex. Yes, they have areas that are acceptable, like guys ogling any girl on the street, but for the most part we have some restrictive thoughts about sex. To much falls into deviant behavior. Now, don't get me wrong, I just think that if something is mutually agreeable between 2 consenting adults, then it is none of my business what they do. Why would one fetish be OK, and another one not?

As for dressing the way that you want, I see women wearing what they want, so we should be able also. It took women most of the 20th century to get to where they are today, so I see nothing changing for us on the horizon. What you do in your home is your business. The government, and the public has no business in your home or bedroom.

If your SO wants to wear the pants, or you want her to and she is willing, then go with your strengths. What ever makes for a happy family unit. Do whatever it takes to make it work.

Yeah...I am an anacronism, but do believe that much of society still holds this view - Women are fighting all the time for equal pay, promotions, and financial institutions still treat the second party on the checking account differently - I know from experience when my wife opened one of the accounts we have, even though much of the money in there was mine, the primary was given preferential treatment over me - hum...desiring submission should I be excited by that? -hahahaha.... A clarification my wife is quite conventional so I am the dominant person, I "wear the pants"
provide the support and my share of the love. I am though a very passive person which I believe relates to my TG nature, I tend to be nonconfrontational - beware my tolerence and patience can lead to an explosion so I am not really a door mat. I am an individualist, work best without direction and on my own, but I am not a leader but I do lead myself - I have always believed it is part of my nature (tg?)

OH! Did I say I am a Registered Nurse and spent twenty years in a "woman's career field?" Working under women and with women by and large - again.... fits in with my tg whatever - hum....

My father was there but worked hard, was gone from time to time on trips (but my father was I believe the ideal father - my hero, friend, and confidant- buried at arlington with full honors (years after retirement) so here was this very shy kid with my Mom, and my two sisters bouncing around the country throughout my childhood. I did have a few friends - but I have been surrounded by women all of my life. After we married I hung out mostly with my wife and her friends who of course were some very nice women. I still am just not equipped for making friends I had Asthma bad and acne when I was young so with all the teasing during physical education because of my limitations I developed no taste for competitive sports and to this day have no more knowledge about sports stars than most women.

Gaw...I should find a psychologist.