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I have been looking into the mirror as all people, women included, do and I have been thrilled which brings a smile enhancing my beauty. I have been applying make up enough to achieve a natural look which merely enhances my features, and with my beautiful wig ($45 and about 5 years old) and my gold hoops I am quite satisfied that I have achieved a beautiful feminine appearence that is very close to my potential. I can see my resemblence to my older sister as if I had been born a girl and truly was my sister's sister. I am thin, my dresses are fitting or hanging as well as is possible on me. Women have to work with the hand they are delt, it is the same for men. I have that "Farmer's Tan", Large hands and feet, the broad shoulders of a medium framed male, but in some dresses and skirts I do achieve the hour glass figure. It is quite remarkable. So I do believe I have achieved my natural potential and am satisfied. How about all of you? Are you happy or pleased with yourself in body and spirit? I need to add that our opinion of ourselves counts more than that of others. I make no claim that I am beautiful to the eyes of anyone but my own. So again, Are you happy, or pleased with yourselves, are you enjoying being a girl to the degree that is possible for us?

I love being a girl 24/7, but I have mixed feelings about my presentation. Soetimes I see an attractive mature woman, at other times I see an old man in a dress with very scary makeup. But I have had compiements sent my way at another CD site that I believe were genuine, and my new SO seems to find me to his likings, so overall I'm pleased with being a mature blonde on the go.

I reckon I'm satisfied with everything, except being overweight.

I am satisfied with what I see in one of my two mirrors. Well a lot of the time and from the front and from one side. From the other side, not so hot. When I take pictures, however, it's a disaster. But I'm not sure if that's just that I look a lot better in the mirror than I do in a photo - and I always feel awkward having my picture taken - Or if it's to do with lighting and effects specific to cameras. I mean I look like I look in many male photos only with rubbish makeup and a man-in-a-dress type appearance. The makeup does seem to change my face quite a lot when I look in the mirror. But when I look in the camera that change seems to have mostly evaporated or appears as a mask.

The other problem is I tend to vary in how much I'm "into" being a woman - and that can affect my look quite a lot. My shape is a whole other area, but there is definitely a "feminised" demeanour which I can see in the mirror but, again, I have been unable to capture in a picture.

NO, I'm not at all satisfied with my looks. My hair is a disaster, if I wear a wig then it's a lot better but I don't usually wear a wig. I think my boobs should be bigger, but the problem I have is that I want real ones and not just forms. I have a skinny butt and fat waist, so skirts and slacks are not filled out properly, either the waist is too small or the butt is too big. When I look at my reflection in a window or something as I'm walking by I think I look ridiculous.

But none of this stops me, I still do it.
I think I look better in a dress than anything else, so lately I've been wearing mostly dresses.

I think that like most of us, sometimes I am ecstatic about how I look, sometimes satisfied and sometime disturbed. There is a strange phenomenon that when we look in the mirror we see what we want to see and are happy, when see see a photo we see what others see, and that is often a shock, and less satisfying. On the whole I am happy, but sometimes I fear I can look like a hooker, or a clown, the one look I dread and try to avoid at all costs though, I do not want to look like a transvestite!

Well yes and no, somedays I look great other days not so great. My biggest problem it I see a beautiful outfit on a women and would love to wear it or something like it but I am getting to old to dress like I'm 30 or so again.

I like my figure in girl mode. And it's girl, not woman, since this is a playful thing for me. As for the complete package, since I'm unwilling to shave off my beard I can't say anyone would like my "feminine" look. I suspect it would make many very uncomfortable which is one reason my girl self is so antisocial.

As for my male appearance, everyone I know agrees with me that I look much better with a beard, which is why I keep it. Opinion is divided on my hair, some like it long and others, notably my wife would prefer it short. I'd probably look better if it was short, but long hair is less work, I just tie it into a pony tail and forget about it.

I'm happy with my figure in male mode too, although sometimes my guy side would like slightly smaller pecs. My girl side keeps doing more exercises to enlarge them at the gym though.

Zari

I'm happy with myself when I'm all ready to go out en fem. I'm okay right up until I see my first picture that is. I'm one of those girls who never quite trusts how she looks.

I don't know if my make up skills are up to snuff or not, but I don't go out, so I don't worry too much if I can't pass as a woman. When I am in feminine clothes I always strive to carry myself as a lady. It's odd, I guess, but I'm not as concerned about whether I look like a man in a dress, as I am that I present myself as a feminine man that "belongs" in a dress.

Yes I am.

I was out recently walking on my own when I got wolf whistled by some young men.

I really took this as a compliment

For the most part I am quite happy with my feminine presentation, as I often get complements on how i look when I am and out and about.However I am always looking to see if there is anything else I can do, ie tweak my make up, a more flattering outfit, maybe a better wig, etc. Nothing major though, I think I have the big stuff under control.

Susan wrote:Yes I am.

I was out recently walking on my own when I got wolf whistled by some young men.

I really took this as a compliment

That is really something to cheer about,

Wolf Whistled at - that had to be a thrill! Isn't it funny that many of us would be thrilled with such a "passing grade", while still being heterosexual and desiring female attention. One of those funny contradictions of being a crossdresser. Not to say some here would be thrilled by and desire such masculine attention but if we can believe all the consistant polling that would be a minority of crossdressing men, which would include myself - it has to be female attention!

That Lazy Crossdresser Book has really been helpful and talks alot about how we think about all of this. Good book.

So many good posts! Mirrors and Pictures are also like hearing our voice, and then hearing it on a recorder! Interesting. There are certain clothes we simply have to avoid - I have learned that while I like the sleeveless, open neck of many tops and dresses, I need sleeves and a smaller neck area to cover my farmer's tan. Make-up should be used primarily to enhance our natural appearance - was a key to improving my make up as this is how most women use make up - but there are places and evenings when make up extras and special touches can be used and be fine. We also have to learn for instance if we have narrow hips that a pleated or full skirt can give us the appearance of having hips, and certain tops can accentuate or deemphasize shoulders, and an hourglass can be achieved with the right clothing.