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dressing more...

Posted: Sat May 05, 2012 11:03 am
by Ashley Rose
I know this isn't such a big deal to the vast majority of you but since coming out th my wife a few weeks ago, I have been en femme at home every night with no adverse reaction from her at all. Peasent skirts with cute tops, or carpi's or some type of femme fashion. When I get home from work, it's a shower,and all the necessary things that go with it, and then it's girl time. It's so awesome to be living this way. While it'd be so much better to do this 24
/7, I'm glad for the time to do it as I am. Thx for letting me gush. Hugs.

Re: dressing more...

Posted: Sat May 05, 2012 12:23 pm
by JoAnnDallas
Just remember, "Don't over due it". It takes time for the wife to absorb all of this. It has taken me over two years before my wife was compy with me dressed almost all the time. If she asks that you dress as a boy for a day or so, do so. In fact it might be wise to tone back dressing en fem every evening. This will show her that your not going overboard with all of this. Some wife's could get the impression that you not only want to dress full time, but you may want to transition all the way. This can scare her and cause her to rebel against your dressing. Also remember to talk to her about all this. Communications is the key.

Hugs,

JoAnn

Re: dressing more...

Posted: Sat May 05, 2012 12:32 pm
by Carol Ann
!!!yes!!! with JoAnn as one time my wife told me to back off as I was starting to dress 24/7 and she didn't like it.

Now my wife will let me dress all I want but there are times I know I have to back off for a few days, as she said "I married a man not a women". You take the good with the bad. ``5

Re: dressing more...

Posted: Sat May 05, 2012 1:01 pm
by Paula G
You're lucky ladies, my wife will not continence anything to do with my cross dressing in the house, since she would rather I didn't dress I am definitely not allowed to anywhere near her.

Re: dressing more...

Posted: Sat May 05, 2012 5:11 pm
by Davita
Oh gosh that one line, "I married a man not a woman," just stabs me some days, but it sure gets the point across. Communication is a good thing; it will help you from taking steps backwards in any progress you're making. Always keep your ears open for any changes in how she is saying things or any comments that sneak into conversations. She could be trying very hard to keep you happy, but it could be a real chore for her. Tone and the occasional comment will give you cues about her attitude. Pay attention.

In the meantime. Good for you girl!

Re: dressing more...

Posted: Sun May 06, 2012 8:10 am
by Erica S
My wife has used that line on me " I married a man, not a women", and also in reference to wearing a bra, " you do not have any reaon to wear one". Her most recent thing to tell me is: " I love you so much". I just wish she could love the women in me so I could be more comforable and dress more. I just keep my hopes up!

Hugs,

Erica (--)

Re: dressing more...

Posted: Mon May 07, 2012 11:13 am
by Paula G
Erica, I think it is great that your wife wants to tell you how much she loves you, if nothing else does this should give you good reason to hope.

Re: dressing more...

Posted: Mon May 07, 2012 12:35 pm
by Millie
I also came out to my wife a little over a month ago and I find myself just dressing more as Millie than my male self. The SO loves Millie around the house. The only drawback is the time and effort to get to Millie.

Re: dressing more...

Posted: Mon May 07, 2012 12:51 pm
by Absaroka
I'm glad it's going well. Remember to express your gratitude often. Verbal is good, non verbal (like doing the dishes) is better. And remember to let her have the man she married when she wants him.


Zari