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I need som advice I'm a 17 yr old guy I like to wear womens panties leggings pantyhose n sometimes camis. I love the feel of them and i even wear them in public under my cloths. I dont go complete woman though sometimes I wonder. I have one problem though I can't find friends or an SO who excepts me for it. Does anyone have any advise for either of these problems? Thank you.
Mr. Shawn

Be careful not to let the search for friends or an SO get you into any bad situations.

Take your time and feel people out with respect to their prejudices, before telling them about the dressing.

It may take quite a while to find someone, or not.

It not that I don't try and feel out the prejudices because it's usualy the people i'm already open with about my life as it is and then i tell them and well you get the idea.
Mr. Shawn

A blogger friend recently came across someone else in a situation very like yours, can I refer you to her response, I think it quite good http://jennyalto.blogspot.co.uk/2012/06 ... erson.html" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false; I hope this helps

There is an old Chinese proverb: "be afraid of your dreams because they come true". Now you may be struggling to find someone, but trust me as soon as it's the right moment for the devil, you find it too easy. One day I dated a beautiful lady who treated me as a woman. Everything was perfect except for the fact that I am married and committed, so I had to fight the desire to be her lover over and over again. I could find my perfect date now too easy but I do not even try due to the family commitments. I know you are single but there is always a sacrifice to pay for such "happiness". You don't necessarily understand what price you are paying, but you will understand it later.
The other aspect is that your play with female underwear grows. You can't get enough. Later you are happy only when you are fully dressed up and with make up full-time. Is that what you want? May be just stop it now if you can?

Wow Ivanka, I'm impressed. I've never found it that easy to date beautiful women who also accept me. What is your secret???

In my experience it is practically impossible to find the right person to spend the rest of your life with. No, let me restate that, it is completely impossible. That being said, probably you will be able to find someone who is a reasonable approximation of the perfect person.

But seriously Shawn, you are only 17 and I will tell you that you will see much more serious issues in life than just finding someone who will accept you. I think the attitudes of people have changed a lot in recent decades and it isn't going to be as hard as you anticipate to find someone who will love you as you are. So relax, you have time. And of course we are always here to talk to when you get too stressed out.

My wife IS a reasonable approximation of the perfect person, but she would not support Ivanka. She just has good classical values. she wants a husband, not a wife. She believes it's a sin and her support ofr Ivanka would harm both her and my soul. I sought support online having an ad at some free classifieds. You just need to have some good photos to make people interested. And like I said when a devil wants you, it will be too easy.

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"You don't necessarily understand what price you are paying, but you will understand it later.
The other aspect is that your play with female underwear grows. You can't get enough. Later you are happy only when you are fully dressed up and with make up full-time. Is that what you want? May be just stop it now if you can?"
And like I said when a devil wants you, it will be too easy.
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Latanya, you do not agree with all statements of mine here or anything in particular? I know I sound different. I know I sound dull. But this Discussion Forum is for everyone to say, right? I personally believe it's too true that our dreams come true, when you insist about them to come true, but at the end of the day it does not make us happy. Does it? I mean true happiness. With no concerns, no regrets. Otherwise, I might be happy about winning a million dollars in the lottery. But having got the million I am still a mortal who is going to face the God and my achievements that can mean something on Earth do not make me VIP for him.

Of course it may be a generational thing, but most women my age as far as I can tell want a man, I think that is probably true of most age groups! My GG friends who know about Paula are very supportive and I love nothing more than being a lady who lunches with them, but it is one thing when a man dresses, another altogether when Your man dresses! There are not many women out there who are will willing to embrace a cross dresser.

Is this from some innate moral code or is from the desire to be desired by a Man it may seem obvious to many that our masculinity is diminished by our cross dressing, and that reduces our usefulness, desirability, and attractiveness to most women. That's one of he many reasons why we tend to keep our little secret.........................

How can I give advice to you other than to say that you maybe expecting to much from those around. All relationships take time to build and you have to give yourself time for people to know what they want too. Just hang in there and you will find that someone that you meet will understand your inner self, just don't expect that it will happen in 5 mins. it could take years. So take each day as it comes try not to think about wanting to find a friend or SO to soon, enjoy yourself have fun and live a little, you are only at the starting blocks to a whole world at your reach don't rush in we all have to find a balance to our lives.

I will only add to this: do not pretend to be what you are not.

If you are a crossdresser, and are comfortable with that, and want acceptance, then do not pretend to be otherwise. It's true, there is a HUGE difference between women accepting CDing on a philosophical level and accepting it in "their man". My own interpretation of this is because women are inconsistent and fundamentally dishonest, but that is a whole different topic.

There are some, very few, women that are consistent, they will accept you, and they will be supportive. They are very few, and hard to find. But you have to consider, you do not need all the women to accept you, you need only 1. And so the problem is really no different that it ever was: to find the right one for you.

But this also means that you need to be right for her, and how can she know that if she doesn't have the complete information? If you want a time-consuming and largely unproductive mathematical excercise, you could review the calculation I did a while back about how many women in the world can meet your definition of perfect, and how long it will take to find one of them. Or you could just live honestly and openly and keep patiently searching for the one who will be your soulmate.