Gender Shifting

[Anne Bonny]

I have been thinking about this as being for me a better way to describe what happens inside my head and to my desires. Some stimuli or perhaps just a mood change or a need to dress because it has been too long pushes me from my masculine identity to wanting to identify with women and the feminine feeling which sweeps through my soul. Of late I have just recognized I am part (a sliver, or in some small part) female. I have of late begun to think of women's clothing and the artistry of making up (beauty) as just clothing and something this part of me does. I cannot say that my emotions and sexual feelings do not fluctuate on occasion but sometimes I simply think gee, wouldn't it be nice to just be able to dress female out of comfort, or because I simply want to. Inother words there is not always a craven driven sexual compulsion or a thrill, it just is. Our thinking alters daily. Why can't I have glossy pink toenails and smooth hairless legs and wear pink panties? Well the weather is cooler so I can without criticism, with impunity, and not a single person knows but me, and once dressed I frequently forget about it because other things are on my mind - work for one - granted that is caring for my wife, the house, the bills etc, but back when I had a job it was the same way. and I have even worn bras in sweater and jacket weather because no one can see the outlines of the straps.

[Davita]

Sounds to me that you are moving on to the next phase in your life. I swear we all have a similar pattern. It manifested sexually with me at first then to the "why can't I just be me" to now, "I could be comfortable being a woman." I'm quite comfortable not having to pretend to be a man. Just relax; go with the flow. Who knows how exactly your journey will end; it does have more to go if you're any more like me.

[Latanya]

similar experience i call it tg integration
the sexual part has goen away but the desire to dress is one of need and comfort.
i do it cause it makes me feel good and feels right. i have come to the realization that i am male that has a strong female side that needs expression.i am trqnsgender fluid a make up of male and female. transitioning would therefore not solve the problem just reverse the issues. in fact my fem side is a nice and better side of me. in that regard i have let my fem side out as much as possible with the idea that i would drag the he side towards her. and so far it has worked. i hve learned after fighting with it for most of my life that this is me part male part female for better or worse.

[DonnaT]

I have of late begun to think of women's clothing and the artistry of making up (beauty) as just clothing and something this part of me does.

I've been doing this for quite a while now, probably because I can dress more often when I want. But if I can't dress for a time, the urging comes back and has a nag at me.

[Ralitsa]

it seems to me like trying to come up with an explanation for the seemingly inconsistent interests that a person has, is a quest that is doomed to fail. Well I like wearing pretty dresses whenever I can, even for no special occasion, but I understand the utility of jeans, etc. I don't like sweats, leggings, and that sort of stuff that seems to be so popular with women now. There are some interests I have which may be considered female, but I have a very male, linear and literal personality. In all honesty, most women annoy me, but then again most men do also. I really don't relate to either gender very well. I like shopping, but I also like physical work. I'm not interested in most sports, nor am I interested in gossip and babies.
I'm guessing that most of us here are something like that, sharing some interests with either side but not really fitting anywhere. That's OK for me, I don't need to fit in and I don't care to have a label or an accurate analysis of myself. I like what Latanya said:

transitioning would therefore not solve the problem just reverse the issues

maybe we think about it too much, try to over-analyze it, and come up with answers when we don't even know the question.

[Anne Bonny]

I agree with that, it's just who we are as people. Some men are naturally feminine the way they speak, gesture, move and think, even in their manner of dressing but I am not overtly feminine either, I am just my regular guy self no matter what I am wearing with the exception that Dresses and heels do change your walk and how I sit legs crossed or together or one foot behind an ankle it is just part of the etiquette or the proper way of wearing dresses and skirts, if you choose to do so. Otherwise you would just be crude sitting bent forward leaning on your thighs with your hairy legs apart. So if you do wear female clothing you have to shave your legs and at least buff up your feet and nails.

[MichaelaR]

I have to agree with Anne. I just want the freedom to be who I want to be and dress how I want to dress. I happen to love being (mostly) hairless, even though it takes a lot of effort. I just want the freedom to wear a skirt and heels one day, and jeans and a t-shirt the next. For me, it's become more of a comfort thing as opposed to sexual. Sure, dressing can be a turn-on, but that happens in guy mode, too. It's more of a mental state than anything.
I think in time, society will become more accepting of the "alternative" lifestyles. Look how far the LGBT community has come already.

[Ashley Rose]

I tend to agree with Anya... at least for myself. The sexual aspect is gone. Now it has become just another part of me and who I am, not what i do. And talk about a strong female side...it gets stronger every day. I love "Transgender fluid, a makeup of male and female." That is wonderful. I have drug the other side along and he is happy too. I've gotten to the point of not caring much anymore about how it looks or what "You" think. I have to be happy and so I make myself happy. Hugs

[Kerra]

I've noticed this as well, but it's very hard for me to be able to go all the way though sometimes I crave it. Other times I'm ok just being male me.

If left alone I would also shave, I do paint my nails, I just like it, even as a guy. But by myself I usually gravitate towards wearing female attire. My wife is fine with the nail painting, well, she doesn't exactly like it but she says if it makes me happy then it's ok and she's fine with wearing leggings too.

There is a part of the dressing which stimulates sexuallity but that too is complex as it has more to do with really feeling and looking femine. To me anything really tight (bodysuits) once the sexual feeling calms down make me feel very feminine.

I'm not quite certain where I fit in. When I was really young - like 9 or 10 I used to wish I was a girl very heavily, but I was dealing with crap from school so I also don't know if that was an escape from being male and having to deal with the situation and kids causing it, or if the stress of what I was dealing with triggered the desire.

Still trying to answer these questions.

I also have a family - wife and daughter, well respected in my field and not wanting to publically be female, but in private yes, I dress and work dressed. I feel calm, I feel good and it's almost a relief too sometimes.

I am ok being a guy and I wish I was a girl but dont' want to change. Sigh I'm a contradiction

[Karen Marie]

it seems that many of us go through the same transition.
for myself,it has become more psychological.the whole
aspect of feeling feminine gives me such a sense of calm-
ness.i'm more in touch with myself.not to be constrained
by societies expectations of gender is a huge relief.i have
been so blessed having a totally supportive spouse,who
has helped me be the real me. love,karen