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Hello Ladies-

I've been thinking how one might define their level of t-ism. As I'm sitting here with my flower dress on, and feeling very pretty, it occured to me that I would like to be no other place doing anything else, but this. I just feel so at peace. So I guess the question would be, 'What would you give up rather than quit dressing?" Would you pass up a party with your regular friends? Would you pass up a golf game with your buddies? Fishing trip? Bowling? What is the one thing you could not give up, given the choice between dressing and that? (Not including giving up your family).

For me, I would give up :

Golf- and I like to golf
Beer and Wine- and I love both
yard work- I love to do gardening
Playing sports (this has always been my 'other' passion)
Sex- yep, even sex (and I love my wife dearly) What I mean here is- given a choice between the two- I would definitely dress.

I don't know what this means as far as my t-ism goes, but it sure seems to say something. Anyone else?

Nicole

Well Nicole,

I even gave up a family. I can’t think of anything that I would not give up, that I would have a choice about.

Hi Nicole,
Like my Sis, Darlene, said some of us have given up our familiies, not necessarily our choice, but it happens. For example, my wife, who's request was to never meet Virginia, dressed! I respected that, yet she saw my wardrobe and that alone was enough for her to not accept me, after 28 years. I came out to her almost two years ago now, as when my feminine side came out one of the first things I heard and study about was not hiding the fact from your spouse, so I did not -- anyway, beyond that I have not really given up anything as I have said before, I am Virginia, she is me and I do not have to be dressed in order to share the gift she has given me.
Virginia

Hi Nicole. I often wonder if I have given up marriage because of being CD. Jane.

Interesting question.... really makes you think.
I would say it comes down to prioritizing what's most important in your life. What is most important and/or gives you the most pleasure.
For me, I would give up most things if it came down to the choice between them and dressing.
As Virginia puts it.... you are who you are. Repressing your feelings is not healthy in the long run.
Paulie

p.s. - I would give up golf easily... but, maybe that's just because I'm not that good at it!

There is little I would give up. Everything else takes priority in my life (can't remember last time I dressed, some time last year).

Pretty much the same as Aeryn. (But I do remember the most recent dressing chance was back in June 2004, not that it matters that much)

Now, on the personal level, I have never claimed to be a "T" something. *grin* So that kind of leaves me out of the question.

Personally, I would never change my family/job/friends for a chance to dress. But I don't see that as represing who I am.

Gaby

i also when i came out to my wife she said that she never wants to meet phylisanne and as she lets me be who i am i dont have to give up anything .my wife has come to an understanding that i am a woman sometimes and she is living with it hugs phylisanne

Given the choice between dressing and hobbies/friends, by hobbies and frineds. I already know I can't give up dressing, no matter the circumstances.

I would like to think that it is not worth giving anything up for but the truth is already I have given up a certain level of honesty with my wife and friends who I conceal it from. Not a good thing.

Andrea

I would agree that I have already given up a degree of honesty and openness, but I know that my wife can not deal with any more right now. So every day I am faced with the choice, and the anxiety that goes with it - tell her all or quit the part that she does not know about.
As a safety valve, she knows about and somewhat supports my preference for panties and other lingerie. This is quite complex, and I will present it in length a bit later.
This means that instead of the usual two personalities, I have three.
what the public sees is all male, what my wife knows is presenting as all male but feminine underthings, and what I do on occassion is more than that.

I hope she never makes me choose, because she is the only one for whom I would have to make the choice. There is no question I would choose her.
I know that I could give up the act of crossdressing if I had to, but I also know I will never give up the desire, and I will probably find more subtle ways to meet this need.

shenica

No need to give away my male hobbies because they aren't as masculine as once thought-

RAILWAYS , TRAINS , INFRASTRUCTURE - there are many women in this country that are involved in this interest , some of them post on a popular rail forum but keep their identity hidden so as not to attract men requesting dates.

EARLY 1900's TELEGRAPH EQUIP'T - this is a recent hobbie of mine , locating old long since disused telegraph poles ( mainly in the open country ) and collecting the porcelain insulators off them , I am currently looking for a particular one that has been stamped " Australian Wireless Assosiation 1944"

A google search of telegraph insulators brought up -- YES!! ---unbelievable -

'INSULATOR GIRLS " , girls doing exactly what I'm doing


all I need to do is put on a skirt and pursue the same hobbies