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I imagine this has happened to a lot of people here but it is still new for me.

When I first started dressing it was lots of corsets and similar sexy stuff. Quickly I discovered most of them weren't very comfortable and stopped wearing them after the sexual thrill wore off. I threw all but one of them out. I moved on to shapewear, much more comfortable but still confining and makes me feel both held and controlled by my clothing and still find it exciting sometimes but don't wear it that much anymore. Still own some of it though.

Then it was regular underwear with womens clothes with the accent on sexy but not revealing. I never liked the "slut look" on myself even though I enjoy it on women. Still a thrill but moving ever farther away from the confinement aspect and I won't wear them if they aren't comfortable. And I do like them sort of clingy still.

More and more though I find that I don't even like those as much any more. When I pick out my outfit for the day after my family leaves I have started to think/feel in terms of does this express what my female side would be like as opposed to what kind of a thrill does it give me. I guess you could say I am dressing like myself rather than as a sexual fantasy of some woman I would like to be seduced by if I was single which is what my earlier clothing schemes reflected. Now I dressing more like a woman that I might want as a buddy. I find I really enjoy mixing male and female clothing, with the casual skirt and guy teeshirt I wore earlier today a great example.

If find myself asking how does the clothing express the kind of person I would hope I would be if I was a woman, which is mostly like the kind of person I am as a guy? There are some changes from who I am now though. She would be less angry and less afraid of people. More cheerful and pleasant deep down inside. Except for the anger (that most acceptable of all male feelings) these are all things I have been happy to see decrease in my male persona anyway. And I'm glad anger is less, just don't want to say goodbye to it altogether yet. But what I think of as my female persona would have far less of it. People would find her easy to be around even as she made up her own mind about everything.

And BTW the more I think about this the more I realize that she is an awful lot like my wife.

Andrea

Hi Andrea,

Thanks for letting us know how you are progressing in your TG'd growth. It's good to see that you aren't afraid to say you still dress sexy, but it's not slutty. There's nothing wrong with dressing slutty if that's what you like, but it's also good to see those who don't get caught in a fantasy and want more out of their TG'd experience.

I guess I feel that way because I probably feel closer to you and can relate more than I could if you were stuck in a fantasy.

Good luck to you as you continue to grow to accept and understand yourself more.

Andrea,
I think most of us went through those stages in buying various clothing styles and gradually toned it down to something acceptable.
Me on the other hand, I have my style that I describe as "conservatively sexy." if I go out. Nice, feminine blouses, and knee length or longer tight skirts, and nice shoes. However, I think that Saturday night I am going to break with tradition, so to speak as I am going back to the local TG gathering place with another CD friend of mine. Actually it does not matter, as the gays (whether or not you pass) don't want to dance with a woman and the lesbians who come in have their own SO's so they won't be asking strange women to dance so I just go and interact with anyone and everyone! They are all sooooo friendly anyway. I am going to dress sexy, just for the experience. Not "slutty" (I don't think) anyway a nice mini- skirt, low cut blouse, and probably my highheeled calf high boots! As a side light I am also going to see if I can get the club to support November 20 since it is the 7th Annual "Transgendered Recoginition Day" There have been over 500 of our brothers and sisters killed since 1972, 21 just in the last twelve months and virtually every major college and university as well as high schools, churches, civic clubs, etc - even this web site are going to recognize that day!!!
Love,
Virginia

Virginia wrote: I am going to dress sexy, just for the experience. Not "slutty" (I don't think) anyway a nice mini- skirt, low cut blouse, and probably my highheeled calf high boots!

Maybe not on someone in their 20s.

Though when I was younger and crazier I might have favored dressing up like something of a Vargas girl, I've come to prefer a more practical approach. Boy mode or girl, I want to be reasonably comfortable, I don't want to make a project of getting dressed, and I don't want to be too conspicuous. Works for me.

-Celia

My weakness has always been, and I'm sure will always be, sexy lingerie.

I just love a sexy bra with matching panty, and thigh high stockings. I always wear those items whenever I dress. And, I can say, the stockings are not only sexy, but more practical than wearing pantyhose.

On the outside, I think I do a good job of just looking nice. A cute skirt and coordinating top, and matching heels. I think it's important to look age appropriate with the right styles and skirt length.

But, I just HAVE to know how pretty and sexy I look underneath!