Dealing with a suspicious comment

Merinda · Post by **Merinda** » Thu Jan 05, 2006 2:31 pm

With shaved arms and long nails I have caused a bit of suspicion at work

One of the guys said to me something totaly irrelivent to the conversation, "Yeah its hard having to be a man all the time isn't it"?

My reply to him was , " why are you having trouble being a man" ?

He shook his head confused and walked off.

Throw it back at them , thats how you deal with comments of suspicion.

Kerri · Post by **Kerri** » Thu Jan 05, 2006 2:38 pm

Hi Merinda,

I had comments like that last summer from women I work with in the office. One asked what colour my wig was when I dressed up as a woman. She just laughed when another woman asked her for her reason, she answered that she thought I was a bit girly, and that I wasprobably a crossdresser. I answered that my wig is auburn, which it is, as a matter of fact.

Kerri

CJ · Post by CJ » Thu Jan 05, 2006 5:49 pm

Hi all,

Heh. Good one, Merinda! It strikes a chord with me as I've had a (male) colleague ask me the very same thing last year. My reply: "Not as hard as being a man who's a woman some of the time!"

Love,
CJ

Rikki · Post by **Rikki** » Thu Jan 05, 2006 11:53 pm

10 points, Merinda!!!!!

Jan W · Post by **Jan W** » Fri Jan 06, 2006 2:15 am

Dear Merinda,

Could it be possible that he is one of us and was fishing?

Jan

Merinda · Post by **Merinda** » Fri Jan 06, 2006 2:41 pm

Jan W wrote:Dear Merinda,
Could it be possible that he is one of us and was fishing?
Jan

Hi Jan,

Its quite possible he was fishing for an answer that would confirm his suspicions , however as far as being secretly one of us I have to say that this guy would have to be a most unlikely candidate.

Absaroka · Post by **Absaroka** » Mon Jan 09, 2006 7:07 am

you were there and I wasn't but it sounds like maybe he was trying to bring something up. and so many of us do appear unlikely candidates. But who knows?

Absaroka

Kyra · Post by **Kyra** » Wed Jan 11, 2006 10:11 pm

Way to go Merinda! Shut 'em up quick. I love it!

Hugs,
Kyra

Jeannie · Post by **Jeannie** » Sat Jan 14, 2006 5:39 pm

I would bet that Justice Clarence Thomas has matching bra's and panties with thigh highs under his robe. What a great cover. You could go to work fully dressed and no one would know. That's my one regret about telling others about me. If I were ever nominated to the Supreme Court I wouldn't stand a freakin' chance. It would be a very short hearing!

Big hugs!

Love
Jeannie

PS. I just could hear the first question. "Sir we see you have a Victorias Secret credit card,could you elaborate".
Senator "I can't recall"

Elizabeth · Post by **Elizabeth** » Sat Jan 14, 2006 8:25 pm

Hi Merinda,

You know? All my years in construction and this kind of comment is very common. Kind of a "macho" thing. I remember when I was an apprentice a journeyman said to me "it's a man's hammer, but don't worry it won't hurt you", when I asked to borrow his hammer for a moment.

There is the always popular "don't get your panties in a wad". Who could forget "you got any naked pics of your wife?"........"come over to my house, I'll show you some". "The women's restroom is nextdoor". "Tell your wife if she wants a real man, call me".

It seems challenging one's manhood is very common among men. At least that is my experience. I used to always laff inside when someone would say "don't get your panties in a wad". I was always thinking to myself, "if only they knew?".

In any regard. I beleive this is just the standard manly challenge. I don't think it was anything they may think about you. I know that my own manly front was very convincing. Most people thought of me as being very manly, but I truely had to work at it. I always remember thinking stuff like "what would a man say in this situation?" "how would a man act right now?". Pretty much everyone who used to know me was quite surprised by my coming out.

Anyway, I loved your comeback, sounds like something a "man" would say. I bet he does not make such a comment in the future, based on how quickly you came back with a better remark than his own.

Love always,
Elizabeth

Chrissie · Post by **Chrissie** » Wed Dec 06, 2006 12:18 pm

Merinda wrote: One of the guys said to me something totaly irrelivent to the conversation, "Yeah its hard having to be a man all the time isn't it"?

My reply to him was , " why are you having trouble being a man" ?

I'd agree with your reply, except that perhaps he was fishing..in one way is question is very real and sympathetic. He may or may not have meant it that way, but I always think it's good to respond kindly...

What if you had said, "Do you find it that way?" That could have allowed him to open up a bit more, if that's what he wanted.

TracyQ · Post by **TracyQ** » Wed Dec 06, 2006 8:05 pm

I feel sorry for most of you, I really do (and that is an expression of sympathy, not a put down).

While my life is no bed of roses re: the "transgender thing", at least I don't have to go through the mental gymnastics that are regularily revealed here. I did do that for the first 35 years of my life, and it was hell.

"Do they know?" "What would a real man say to that?" Over and over and over. Never revealing myself, always afraid that someone would "find out".

What finally made me reveal my true self to anyone who would "care to care" was the thought of myself on my deathbed, never having had the courage to be the "real" me. To live a life of deceit, because of fear, seems such a sad thing to me.

Yes, I know, the excuses are legion why you can't reveal yourself, but, in the end, you only hurt yourself, and you lie to those with whom you interact, be they friends, co-workers, family, whoever. You are not true to yourself.

Maybe that's the best you can do, but it is a waste, IMHO.

Crossdressers-Haven.com

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