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Hello all in this chaotic world of ours,

My question to you is???
What are your greatest strengths as en femme,you can compare these with your man mode if you like.
If you can answer this you will be giving me great insite into your life as a crossdresser.

Hugs penni

I have such a feeling of Deja Vu....

En femme i would say that i feel far more comfortable, far more relaxed,
the troubles of the world seem to disappear for a few hours.

I think the en femme side has always made the male side more understanding.
For some reason, i seem to be able to relate well to how my SO is feeling.
Give her the space she perhaps needs or the attention that she always needs.
I'm not sure if thats a strength mind you..


I am pretty handy with a set of tools though..

(Have i just said that ?)

I have that feeling of de ja veu as well Kari,

Thanks for posting on our site as well.
As I said in our forum,now compare your feelings etc en femme with your male side.

Hugs penni

I hope to someday be able to be more open about this with my wife. It's been suggested that I prepare the way by being more supportive, accepting, and helpful to her so as to avoid the all too common CD trap of it's all about me, my clothes, and you accepting it. In reality this has translated into doing the dishes more often and giving her more foot massages and that sort of thing. And she has noticed my efforts in this and commented on it.


Not sure if this counts since it is all a male thing.
Absaroka

I can't think of anything different. Probably because my "two" sides are well integrated.

I have to agree with Donna....

I'm pretty much the same person either way. The only real difference is how I feel when dressed. And then I feel much the way Kari explained.

I have always done much of the work around the house. I've never had a problem with cooking, cleaning, fixing things, etc. But, my wife also has the benefit of my doing the yardwork and the upkeep and cleaning of the cars too!

Hmmmm..... if you ask me, I think she's getting the better part of this deal!

I guess clothes don't make you who you are.... but, for us, we feel better about who we are when dressed.

Don't know if that makes much sense, but it was all I could come up with on short notice! LOL

Expressing myself as Maria at home and at transgendered events gives me the freedom that I am unable to do in male mode. I am able to express my emotions and appreciate things from a feminine perspective. I believe that by balancing male and female sides of yourself, you will become a better person overall. If I can pay my bills and work as a guy, I will be able to have the time to enjoy myself as Maria. Dressing up as Maria allows me to understand myself as a complete person.

Maria

My greatest strength is finding it easier to express my emotions. Little, if any noticeable difference in personality though as I too, feel the male and female are well integrated.

Thanks to Shania Twain, it also gives me the "prerogative to have a little fun' so I consider that a strength too.

Stephanie

Well Penni,
Although, Virginia made her presence felt in my life later in life, as I reflect back as my sisters here have "forced" me to do. I came to the realization that she was always there, but during a time of crisis several years ago basically said to me "You need my help you big lumox, so here I am." and my life has never been better. You may not know, but my soon to be ex-wife was one that "ran screaming into the night!" when I tried to explain Virginia to her! Well she actually ran screaming to her mother, where she always seemed to run at the slightest sign of any crisis.
As a side light, her father, now a retired minister, every Holloween for the nearly 30 years we were married dressed up as .............. yes you guessed it .. a woman! In full "battle dress." Wig, make-up dress, heels, nails polished, etc. When I pointed this fact out to "them" I got the expected reply, ".........but that is only once a year!" then I dropped the bomb! "How many times does it take?" Well funny thing it has never been mentioned since.
Anyway, I digress, basically, I am Virginia, Virginia is me and we will hold hands and with my totally accepting SO we will continue on our "Magical Mystery Tour" loving every step of the way!!!!
Virginia

Feel especially nurturing, caring, loving. Pet the dog twice as much when en femme. Course she's the only one who sees me dressed most of the time.

rr

I'm a bit more expressive en femme, but like Donna and Paulie, I'm really pretty the same person.

My wife tells me I have great legs.
My wife has become more tolerant of Imma.
After forty seven years together we have learned to accept each others quirks!
Wife has undergone recent hip replacement after a knee replacement.
She has allowed Imma to serve as a maid in her confinement to a wheelchair.
Imma

I'm pretty much the same person regardless of how I'm dressed.