panties in the gym

Absaroka · Post by **Absaroka** » Sat Oct 07, 2006 1:32 pm

Yesterday I went to the gym. Under my jeans I had on a very austere pair of black nylon Vanity Fair panties, somewhat brief but not skimpy.

In reality except for the lack of a fly they could have been mens underwear. I changed into my gym shorts and it was a non event. Likewise getting dressed later even though there was another guy about 4 feet away.

I started to think later. Looking closely at other mens underwear in the locker room is quite a faux pas so most of us don't do it that often. It occured to me that quite a few of the men in the locker room could have been wearing something similar and no one would really even notice. Who knows maybe I have been watching men change into womens panties after a shower for years now without even realizing it.

Any thoughts?

Absaroka

Terri(SO) · Post by **Terri(SO)** » Sat Oct 07, 2006 6:27 pm

Absaroka,
Given your feelings about secrecy and the thrill of doing something unorthodox would knowing that men wearing women's panties is really quite common, would you not get such a thrill from it?
T.

Absaroka · Post by **Absaroka** » Mon Oct 09, 2006 11:01 pm

Hi Terri,

Yet another question that I don't really know the answer to.

I can tell you that with my wife away for three days I wore panties instead of guy underwear for most of the three days. After all my wife is the only person I would have any thoughts of having them stick their hand in my pants and discovering what I was wearing.....

It was fun and I enjoyed the feeling of getting away with something when I went to the gym. But there were other times when it didn't feel right. At rehearsal for our band a couple of times I remembered what I was wearing and felt like this was not really me, that I had allowed my clothing to say something (inaudibly to be sure) which wasn't accurate. And later in talking with some other friends I felt uncomfortable about having this little secret. As if I was being false with them and the answer was not to tell them but rather to not do something I wanted to be secretive about.

I felt strongly enough about this that I changed before my friend came for dinner (the woman in the thread about dietary habits in another part of the forums.)

Funny thing about her. We talk a lot about sex with the exception that I don't talk about sex with my wife to her, which has left her doing the talking and me the listening for a number of years now. She has told me about things she has experimented with that are somewhat more unusual than what we discuss here in this forum. She would probably be fine if I told her about CDing. But I feel that would be disloyal to my wife, to tell someone else a secret like that and not her. A sponsor and a therapist are different, they are people you are supposed to share your deep darks with. Plus of course I guess I am still afraid to risk it. And also very importantly no one appreciates being asked to keep secrets from someone else's spouse when all three are friends.

All of this is a long way of saying yes if it was openly accepted the thrill might well be gone and it wouldn't seem worth the bother.

And all of this is a completely different thing from something I am quite open about, namely yes my wife was away and I missed her so I wore her sweatshirt and I'm excited because it means I have lost weight.

Absaroka

Gaven McLaren · Post by **Gaven McLaren** » Tue Oct 10, 2006 12:28 am

I think that you should have told your friend. I have a feeling that she might already know. I also feel that your wife would understand that you told such a close friend. However you do know your wife better then I do.

Terri(SO) · Post by **Terri(SO)** » Tue Oct 10, 2006 8:03 am

Hi Absaroka,
I know this is bit off the track of the thread but the issue of telling your friend what underwear you're wearing... I agree it would be disloyal to your wife. I know I would feel a bit betrayed by Maria sharing that fact with another woman. Because dressing is very sexual for him, that would be tantamount to inviting her into his mental (if not physical) bedroom. My feelings are: if you're not sharing something like that with the woman you share your life with, don't share it at all.

btw.congrats on losing weight! and I think its really sweet you wore your wife's sweatshirt.