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Hi ya,

Yes,yes I have more questions but believe you me they help me to understand the crossdressers mind a little more each time I ask a question.

What is it that you don't like about your gender.

Hugs Penni

Nothing, actually. Well, maybe the hair. You know, the beard, the hairy back, chest, belly, etc.

The fact that it was assigned to me, without my consent, based merely on my genitals.

Definately the hair. Missing in some places, over abundant in others.

I am with Donna and Lisa on this one.

DonnaT wrote:Nothing, actually. Well, maybe the hair. You know, the beard, the hairy back, chest, belly, etc.

I never really like shaving, did not make a big deal out of it when I started to. My hair grows so fast by noon I have 5 o'clock shadow. I sweat a lot and the hair just makes things warmer, holds the sweat, dirt and bacteria that makes me smell even more. As if guys need help in this area. Pass the perfume. And my under arm hair grows so long it balls up pulls on the hairs. So I have learned to keep those trimmed.

But hair and many of the fashionable tops do not get along at all. Like a tank top with fur sticking out the top sides and under arms. Sorry now you are all grossed out. But hey I will leave it in......LOL

My wife does not like face or back hair, I found out recently. But most of the rest is off limits to get rid of. I did get 1 short repreve on my feet and ankles once for a trip to LV, and now on my second repreve, for a halloween party, on my upper chest hair to keep it just below the higher neckline tops. Even if I had a chance to show any cleavage it does not go well with fur..... there I go again. Yuk.

I did shave my legs once like about 10 years ago. And my wife said that was enough of that. And since then she has made several comments over the time to the fact it was still off limits to coming off.

But I am also not sure what I would do for hair removal if I had the choice and how or how often I would take it off. As I can be a lazy guy when it comes to many things. Oh I am a guy..... hee hee hee.

KimberlyS - CD

Hi Penni
I just never liked being a guy. I just feel more comfortable dressing and doing things that women get to do. Make up,pretty dresses, nice smooth legs and all the other things you lucky GGs do! I'm not letting you have all the fun!
I'm quite ambivolent about "The Boys". They're worthless anyway Penni. All they do is hang around and do nothing all day! What are going to do Hon. The parts department made a mistake! It happens!
I just go with the flow at this point in my life and let the chips fall where they may. I'm so much happier now. I have to go do my nails Hon. Love your smile and that short sassy do! Hugs and have a great weekend!


Love
Jeannie

Hi Penny,

Is this a trick question? My gender is female, my body is male. If you mean what do I hate about having a male body, the answer is, everything. If you are asking what is is about the male gender that I dislike, it's virtually everything. I hated having to pretend I was like other guys, when I for sure was not. I don't play sports, I don't work on cars, I don't hunt or own guns, I am afraid of most animals, I am afraid of motorcycles, and I don't like beer or drinking really. I mean, I can drink really sweet stuff like strawberry margarita's or daqueries, but even then, I am just a sipper. So I don't really hang out with guys and never have, for obvious reasons. Being TS makes me different from most crossdressers who like at least some parts about being a guy. I really don't like any part of it.

Love always,
Elizabeth

I like my hair. I like my beard and I like my ponytail. I like my body generally although I don't always like what aging has done to it.

The stuff I don't like about being a guy are mostly societal. The fact that some men find it hard to talk about their feelings. I've been lucky that I have been able to find a number of men over the years that I can relate to in a way that I am comfortable with about feelings. It is different from the way I relate in this area to most women. A lot of the emotions guys have can be a bit uncomfortable to many (not all) women where another guy might not feel comfortable with them.

I've had probably half a dozen "best friends" in my 50 odd years who knew just about everything about me and who I could be myself with in all important areas. Cding is a less important area that none of them knew the whole truth about. They were about evenly divided between men and women.

I disliked having to be the sexual aggressor, the whole idea of men ask the woman out and initiate a lot of things. Not always true of course. I absolutely hated as a teenager and in my early 20's the whole idea of if I didn't hold the door and pay for the evening it wasn't a date and I didn't get a kiss goodnight or anything else. That has changed over the decades thankfully. One of my solutions by the way is to hold the door for everyone including other men. I learned that from guys. But the whole men want sex, women say no, men feel guilty for feeling needy or pushy thing is another thing I really hate. Again it's not about men and women it's about what society teaches us. I also dislike (even as I am enjoying having it done to me) the whole leading a guy around by his hormones thing that women sometimes seem so good at.

In short I don't like the societal rules about men and women negotiating over sex.

I would probably like them even less if I was a woman I think. Sometimes the grass seems greener on the other side but the whole would men still talk to me if I was ugly thing would I think leave me very bitter.

Absaroka

There is nothing about being male that I dislike about myself. I do however dislike the general male population and the training that Men don't cry, play with dolls, etc that is pushed on them at a early age. I never understood that thinking. I did not grow up with a really strong male role model so it is easier on somethings to see it from a female perspective.