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I am home alone today. My wife had to go babysit the grandkids. So I asked, "What do you want me to do around here today?"

She replied that it would be nice if I could "pick up a bit".

And I replied, "What should I wear?"

She said, "Be comfortable."

That is her way of saying, put on whatever you want, as long as you get some housework done.

So, this morning I have been cleaning house wearing a skirt, slip, bra, panties, blouse, and brightly painted nails. She'll be home soon, and hopefully pleased with what I got done.

I'd clean house more often if I had a bigger wardrobe. What I have on is quite damp from perspiration from all the work finished. Oh well, it is washable, but we did the wash yesterday so it'll be a few days before I have clean fem. clothes.

CE

Isn't it fun?

Yeah!

I saw no mention of footwear. I started doing the same thing, but in heels and the major reason was that it helped me develop more feminine movements, stooping rather than bending from the waist, pushing a vaccuum cleaner and trying to remain graceful. Reaching up to move things and dusting, etc. All those things done in heels can keep you aware of who you are and that with practice it can become part of your natural feminine movements.

Good luck and what is the old adage, oh, yes, "cleanliness is next to Godliness!"

Love ya,

Virginia

Virginia

Wow, Silverlady certainly has you well trained!

Stephanie

Stephanie W wrote:Virginia

Wow, Silverlady certainly has you well trained!

Stephanie

a great idea...i'll see if she's interested

I love that you're cleaning, but WHY en femme? Am I totally an idiot here? For me, it's easiest to clean in grubby sweatpants and a t-shirt. I'd never DREAM of cleaning in a skirt, and CERTAINLY not in heels!

Of course, I think my husband may be developing a much more feminine wardrobe than mine.... I don't really wear dresses or skirts anyway. But still.... Seems to me like getting dressed up to clean is a bit silly.

I guess if you're having fun and getting it done, it doesn't really matter that much. Just seems strange to me.

-Tiffany

I think a lot of that comes from that TVLand fifties Mrs. Cleaver/Donna Reed model where everything is so clean that she has time to bake cookies for Timmy and Lassie in pearls!

Of course, fact being somewhat more mundane than reality, Barbra Billingsley - Wally and the Bev's mom - wore those pearls all the time because they covered up a scare in her neck. True story.

But if I had anyone who wanted to clean, I'd let 'em. You want to clean as a furry? Let me find you a care-bears outfit or a My Little Pony costume.

"but WHY en femme?"

Because I hate cleaning house. At least this way I had a little fun while doing it.

CE

PS: No shoes - just the pantyhose on my feet.

Hi all,

Shamrock Faerie wrote: Seems to me like getting dressed up to clean is a bit silly.

Well, it may seem so, SF... until you remember that, even in this day and age, many men--especially those of a previous generation--are thoroughly reluctant to do household chores, which they associate with what used to be called "women's work." The solution? Do the work en femme. While it's true that most GG'S will vacuum and clean while dressed in sweatpants and a T, the problem for CD's is that sweatpants and a T-shirt are items they can wear as their male selves and not feel as though they've adopted a female role. Often, CD's need to go that extra step (heels, skirt, makeup, etc.) in order to feel they can "perform femininity" adequately.

The feminist in me cringes when I see people equate household chores with femininity... even as I recognize such a long-standing association in my own mind. Patriarchal conditioning runs deep.

This is what cooking and cleaning while wearing heels and a skirt used to entail:



A good way to counter this brainwashing is to do the household chores regardless of your sex or gender and by doing so while dressed appropriately for the task at hand--just like women do. Only up until the 1950's did women have to present themselves as fantasy companions catering to their husband's every whim with over-the-(stocking)-top seduction and style. It's passé. It's of another era.

Of course, this may just be me, here, but I find that what makes a woman attractive is not the shoes or clothing she wears but the confidence she exhudes when she chooses not to hide her intelligence and wit and warmth. This gives her power, grace, and beauty. No Manolo Blahnik heels nor Liz Claiborne skirt necessary. (Especially not while ironing or vaccuming.)

Just my rant-of-the-day, folks.

Love,
CJ

CJ,
Honey, do you carry that "Good Wife's Guide" around with you as a reference???

I don't know how I missed it, but that is the first time I have ever read that -------------- un-f#$%^&* believable!

Things like, start a fire, take 15 minutes to fix your make-up, offer to take off his shoes? Say what?! Be gay???? Who??

Enough, anyway, I think everyone got my point in wearing heels, etc. It is simply a way to practice your "transitional moves" in the comfort of your own home so that when you get out amongst the great unwashed and you spill your purse, at least you will repackage your goodies with some sense of presentation.

Oh, it too early for this blond to be thinking - I need another cup of coffee!

Love ya,

Virginia

CJ - If that article wasn't so sad it'd be funny. How unfortunate for my grandmother! "A good wife always knows her place"?!?!?!?!? WTH?!?!?!? I know my place.... It's wherever I feel like being at the moment doing whatever I want to be doing.

I understand equating chores to "women's work" and so dressing en femme to help you "get there" mentally..... It just seems quite impractical, and I guess since I am female and have been subjected to the whole "women's work" stereotype, I also find it to be sort of a "step backwards" that men (of any stripe) would feel that in order to perform household functions they would have to dress impractically. I guess since women are currently embattled in trying to fight those stereotypes, I don't want ANYONE to feel or perpetuate them.

However, I'm ALL FOR men doing housework, no matter HOW you choose to dress. I say, if you want to clean, you can do it in the nude singing showtunes with clown makeup on for all I care, as long as it's 1 less thing I have to do! LOL!

-Tiffany

ShamrockFaerie(SO) wrote:However, I'm ALL FOR men doing housework, no matter HOW you choose to dress. I say, if you want to clean, you can do it in the nude singing showtunes with clown makeup on for all I care, as long as it's 1 less thing I have to do! LOL!

Amen, Tiffany, Amen!!


- SL

Hum,

I'm a bit late but I find this very interesting. When I clean I am dressed not fancy just a skirt and blouse to be more comfortable then anything. The wife could care less what I look like as the house cleaning is getting done.

Now in the beginning I did try to wear heels as I worked but found out very quickly that mopping the kitchen floor and heels just don't go together.

No, I don't believe the women of the 50's done house work in heels.

I am comfortable wearing my leotards and tights when doing laundry, cleaning, sweeping, vaccuuming, etc.

You can wear whatever you want around the house, as long as the job gets done!

Maria