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Have you ever been mistaken for a woman while en drab? I never thought I would be mistaken for a woman while en drab. However, over the past year or so, several people have apparently mistaken me for a woman even though I was dressed in my normal male attire.

Now I don't feel that I look particularly feminine when en drab. However, about a month ago I caught a reflection of myself after several hours in the hot sun during a muzzleloader shoot. My first thought was that I looked fairly feminine. Was wearing a floppy bush hat, khaki tee shirt, sunglasses, and small silver ball ear studs. That reflection got me thinking about how feminine I might actually look while en drab.

Several months ago, I got a haircut. Went from 3-5 inches long and naturally wavy to a crew cut. My boss' wife, when she saw me after the haircut, asked if I got my hair cut because I was tired of being mistaken for a woman. Prior to that, a couple of customers in the store had called me Miss or Maam.

About a week ago, I was waist deep in a product window zoning groceries. My head was hidden and my butt was sticking out in the aisle. A customer addressed me as Miss, and asked if I could help him find something. He quickly apologized when I stood up and answered him. Apparently if I hide my head and stick my butt out, I can pass even en drab!

Last Saturday I attended a football game with my wife. At one point I bent down to do something. Someone passing us said, "Excuse me, ladies!" Another quick apology as I stood up.

These events have made me rethink how feminine I apparently am even en drab. Its very flattering to be mistaken for a woman while dressed totally as a man. Makes me believe that I could quite easily pass en femme.

Love ya!

Alana

Once, if I heard the waiter correctly. I had let my hair grow a bit, and it is naturally wavy in the back when I do. So the waiter apparently came to the table from behind me, and said "Good evening ladies."

I remember on time when I took my wife and sister to the Casino, we stopped for breakfest and the Wateriest addressed us as "Ladies" and kept asking us ladies if we need anything else. Then at lunch it happen again. This time my wife looked at me and said, "Guess we are all ladies today". All three of us got a good laugh out of it.

I frequently get called "ma'am" when I'm alone, and my wife and I are often referred to as "ladies." This has been going on for more than 20 years - starting a few years before I started cross-dressing. I wondered at first why it didn't bother me (in fact I always found it kind of flattering) but now the reason is pretty obvious. These days I find I can increase the frequency with a few subtle touches in the way I'm dressed (and what earrings I'm wearing ... anything beyond simple studs seems to make things more confusing for people.)

I'd love to think it means I could pass easily, but I suspect it's more indicative of how little attention people in service industries pay to their customers.

No sorry this old lady isn't that lucky.

Nope but I've mistaken other men in drab for women.

Absaroka

I wish, but nope, I don't think that will ever happen.

It has happened a time or 2. The odd thing is most of the time it happened was before I had started wearing womens pants.

..i think id rather call it "see as a ladie" not so much "mistaken"

Eureka wrote:..i think id rather call it "seen as a lady" not so much "mistaken"

... except that the point was being read as feminine despite presenting as a male. I guess you could claim that the feminine side was simply showing through and you were actually a woman in a man's body "cross-dressing" as a male.

It's all so confusing.

Most people in the service ind., waitresses do call us ladies when we enter a resturant. They do not look deep or are very polite. I've gotten stares onlky twice after a few dozen trips out . AnnS

Mostly it is when I am out with my wife, that someone may mistake me for a female. Once while waiting to be seated at a restaurant, the manager on duty came up to seat us and mentioned "ladies". He was surprised when I turned around and he seen how wrong he was. Another time was while we were at Walmart looking at cards. A gentleman walked by saying "Excuse me ladies" and was really taken aback as he went by and I had looked up. He just kept on walking and apologizing all the way. I just said no problem and was snickering as he walked off, but my wife said to me that I was getting a hair cut if it happened again ( she hates my long hair ). I have been letting my hair grow out and it is past my shoulders now ( waiting to get it to the middle of my back ). It is naturally wavy and I spend lots of time making sure it is perfectly straight. My wife says I spend more time on my hair than she does with her's, . So from the back/side I suppose I do look female ( have had a fellow co-worker say it wasn't right that I had "girl's" hair). But after I usually turn around and they see my mustache, that they see their mistake. But I do like the complement for being mistaken, .

If anyone ever mistook me for a lady a few times, (heck-even once) I'd seriously rethink my current gender status. Passable I'm not but if someone thought I was in drab..............

DonnaT wrote:Once, if I heard the waiter correctly. I had let my hair grow a bit, and it is naturally wavy in the back when I do. So the waiter apparently came to the table from behind me, and said "Good evening ladies."

The same thing happened to me. I was having dinner with my mom and dad, after the waiter took their orders, he turned to me and said "And what will you have young lady?". We all had quite a chuckle.

It happened again last Sunday. My wife and I were out at the mall. We had just gotten back to the car. She was inside and I was going around to the driver's side when another car pulled in next to us and the two passenger side doors opened.

As two boys started to get out, their mother told them to wait a minute and let that lady, uh, gentleman get in his car first.

Again, I had short hair and had on male clothes, so don't know what it is that gets me taken for a woman at first glance. The only thing I could think of was that my silver ball earrings, dark glasses, and somewhat younger than actual appearance may create a feminine appearance at first glance. Anyway, I like it.

Now I need to try going out in public enfemme and see if it holds up.

Love,

Alana