Hairstyle...where do I go?

[Anne Bonny]

I have a life long Regular men's haircut but I am going to endure the ratty shaggy awkward stages but I suppose I need to go some place that is more ... that does both men's and women's hair...tell the person what I am doing and have it trimmed but at what point should I go to do that? when it is at about the length I am shooting for or longer? Skip hair cuts for about a year then go?

[DonnaT]

Maybe let it grow for a few months, determine what style you might like, get it shaped towards that style, and grow it on out.

[Robyn]

One of the members our TG group was just talking about this last Saturday night. She's a school teacher and said she wore a ball cap through the (long) awkward process. Once she was able to tie it back into a ponytail without looking "chic" in male mode she was able to rid the cap. It took her over a year, but know she styles her own hair at our outings rather than wearing a wig like the majority of us.

[Anne Bonny]

In my male mode there is resistance to growing it out but Anne wants it - OK I do not have a split personality even though it sounds that way! I really do feel differently depending of which gender I am in, right now it is my male self. I am a huge conformist and most men my age, well, I am resistant but even in this mode I am taking Hair, Skin, and Nail vitamins at the recommendation of a Niece in law who is in my inner circle. I do like it "long" even as a man that just means I like to sweep longer bangs to the side and over the top.... When I go to a barber they invariably cut it short!! Even when I tell them to use the larger comb because I like wearing it long and just want a trim. Suppose I will have to go to a different place. Or perhaps once it grows out they would get a clue and stop buzzing until I have a whitewall over the ear!!!! Sorry I write so much because I am housebound providing care for my wife, I rarely get out as my life is being flushed down a rat hole. She is just hanging on and on and on...total care...not aware of who I am or anything else other than discomfort, speech largely unintelligible, hunched over as trunk muscles are weaker I use pillows to prop her up...eats good but has been on this plane forever. I know she has declined looking back over the past year but gosh we both need to be ... I need what remains of my life handed back over to me. She well she is just "existing" can do nothing at all but attempt to touch her nose on occasion or rock back and forth a couple inches when she is not conked out...17 hours a day in bed. I am a victim of my own good nursing skills, she eats, skin is all intact, and that is about all I can say. If euthanasia were an option .... well it would at least be an option. She eats and drinks what I feed her and is as comfortable as I can make her what kind of a life is that? Death is slipping into complete unconsciousness and once that happens you are not even aware unbeknownst to you that you are no more, she needs to be at peace, free of suffering anymore because her life is already over with no possibility of anything but worse decline.

SORRY...SORRY... Living like this makes me crazy.

Anyway...Suppose I should look at pictures of men with longer hairstyles somewhere between the earlobe and the chin then visit Fantastic Sams or some gender neutral salon....

[Robyn]

My sympathies go out to you, your wife, and all your family members Anne. I've read many of your posts and I cannot begin to assume I know what you are going through. Always sending best wishes and good vibes to those in need.