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Spotted this and thought I would share

http://fashion.telegraph.co.uk/columns/ ... dfire.html

SO what would happen in Tom Cruise turned up in a dress?

No matter how she dresses, she still looks like a girl.
No matter what Tom Cruise wears, he'll still look like a male dude.

Hugs,

Lydia

It looks sloppy and not at all attractive.

Andrea

Well it just goes to prove the old saying, " a women can wear whatever she wants and nobody saids nothing". Now let a man wear a dress and you are an odd ball.

Some suits can look really good on women, but not that one.
OK, I think I look better in a dress than she does in that suit.
But I'm biased anyway, I don't like men's styles in clothes, that's why I don't wear them. And I really wish women wouldn't try to look like men, because men don't look very good.
It's very strange to me that women want to look like men, who really don't have any looks to brag about, but men are afraid to look like women, who are very obviously orders of magnitude more attractive.
How does that work?

Carol Ann wrote:Well it just goes to prove the old saying, " a women can wear whatever she wants and nobody saids nothing". Now let a man wear a dress and you are an odd ball.

Unles he's a a good looking cross-dresser of course.

hummm... that was yuk. It was a sloppy fit on a too skinny girl. A properly fitting suit be it a masculine-influenced or a fem one, will look good. Her's did not.

Johnny Depp would probably be able to pull that off. And not look like a rumpled sack of hammers.

Andrea

Women are women and can wear anything and get away with it, if it looks good or not because they are women. Because we are men and want to emulate women we have to really try to look like a woman, if we dont try hard enough we get strange reactions from those who dont get what we are doing, hence, usually if we stray too far from trying to pass as female we will be spotted and labeled as quirkie or worse! -- and thats the way it is !

I went and looked in my closet, slid a few things aside and discovered clothes similar to those...

I think I might be a cross-crossdresser.

She has nice shoes

Hugs Vivian

"It's very strange to me that women want to look like men, who really don't have any looks to brag about, but men are afraid to look like women, who are very obviously orders of magnitude more attractive.
How does that work?"

Ralitsa, you're asking a question that I just cannot answer.

I had a female work colleague who wore trousers, a shirt and (more telling) a tie to work. No one said anything. Even cut her hair short.

Joan

April Rose and Ralitsa,

I am privileged to parcitipate in an organization where almost everyone except me is either gay or lesbian. What I sometimes notice is that many of the younger gay men are far better groomed than the average straight man, and many of the lesbians pay less attention to looking sexy and attractive than straight women. Not all of course, but there is a trend. What I've come to understand is that men are more visually oriented in terms of attraction. Therefore in this setting the men devote more attention than usual to their appearance, the women less. The men will sometimes bemoan their weight or lack of youthfulness saying it makes it harder to attract other men-the same things heterosexual women say.

This is also I think part of what is at the root of peoples fear of us. By trying to LOOK attractive we are acting like someone trying to attract men, and by presenting as female we offer the additional possibility of trickery. If we look like a guy trying to pass we additionally offer the threat of male aggression combined with female attractiveness.

Now obviously these are all stereotypes and do not apply to everyone. But it is something that at least in this setting, where everyone is very comfortably out, is noticeable.

There have been a few TG people in this group from time to time. In general folks there seem very protective of them.