Crossdressers-Haven.com

I have only been on this site for less than a week and I appear to have inadvertently upset and alienated several members already.
I am obviously confused about what I am or why I do the things I do. I am sorry for any offence I have caused to members. I must try and work out where I went wrong and why ............

Don't worry too much Debbie. Everyone has an opinion, which seems right to them, but may not be right to someone else. That's life in a society.

Note that women tend to stick up for each other, and rightly so, especially when it comes to feeling another SO has been wronged. Think of it as a teaching moment.

One reason for the forum is to learn from each other.

I concur with Donna. We are human and we all do something to upset someone in our lives at one time or other. Everyone should learn from each other's mistakes and successes to all gain progress.

I will have to agree with Davita and Donna, I too at one time or another have upset someone over something.

Keep going, Debbie. I think maybe you had a bit of the "pink fog".

Dear DebbieB,

You've made an apology, and accepted. Understand that I harbor no animosity toward what you do. There have been members here that were posting obvious fantasy stories, yours sounded similar in sexual thrills.

So we understand each other, allow me to explain my perspective.

I was born a girl, grew up female in all respects. Never did I have thoughts of being partly male or wishing I were a man. I married a man. After years of wedded bliss, I found that my guy likes to dress female on occasion.

Through long discussions and research, accepting wives or GFs come to understand that cross dressing is less of sexual thrills than simply that the CD brain is wired slightly female. The general public does not understand this. Society sees CDs and TGs as much the same, sexual perverts not to be trusted.

I hold my husbands secret in trust that she acts as a proper lady in public. When going out with other girlfriends, they are Ambassadors for the CD/TG community and act as such. They may interact with curious patrons in a fun and informative way. In protecting the husband's reputation, if ever discovered, and the community in general, I'd hope that the public sees these gals as safe and respectable.

Wearing another person's intimates for thrills has little to do with cross dressing. Do as you like, I shouldn't judge, but still have an opinion. The major concern myself and other GG's have is sharing intimates with another woman. That's cheating on a wife, plain and simple. Accepting a husband's CD activities is hard enough. Another woman's bra as part of the collection is absolutely out of bounds. Photos too? Might as well pack up and go live with her.

I've come to love this community and it's diversity, so many guys that understand, or try to, women's daily life. The ladies I've met, I can't imagine them as men, they are sisters to me. Never do they drive around partially undressed, if they have, they don't mention it.

Eileen

Eileen (SO) wrote:I hold my husbands secret in trust that she acts as a proper lady in public. When going out with other girlfriends, they are Ambassadors for the CD/TG community and act as such. They may interact with curious patrons in a fun and informative way. In protecting the husband's reputation, if ever discovered, and the community in general, I'd hope that the public sees these gals as safe and respectable.

Well said!

Eileen -

Very well said and I agree with it 100%.

The only difference between you and I is that I knew about Virginia ahead of time - and that's because we met through a mutual friend on this forum and yes, it was love at first sight for both of us.


- SL

AMEN!

Well, I agree that, if you're married, wearing another woman's bra is too much. Honestly, though, if I were in Debbie's position, I'd feel very insecure here after the sandblasting I'd received - which, it has to be said, is rather uncharacteristic of this site.

Eileen (SO) wrote:
The major concern myself and other GG's have is sharing intimates with another woman. That's cheating on a wife, plain and simple. Accepting a husband's CD activities is hard enough. Another woman's bra as part of the collection is absolutely out of bounds. Photos too? Might as well pack up and go live with her.

Yes Eileen, this is EXACTLY my problem with Debbie's post. Cheating is cheating and I draw a hard line in this area, CD or not. A married man has no right to share anything so intimate with a woman who is not his wife.