Thera's beginning

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It all started for me when I was @ 12ish. I tried a pair of Mom's pantyhose and I just loved the way they felt against my then hairless legs. After that I went dormant for many years thinkings that deal was over with. I got married, am now raising a family and was living what I thought was a normal until here recently this (PINK FOG) hit me again and this time with a vengance. Now I've joined a couple forums and have realized that Im not the only one with this pink fog attack. I found that many men are leading lives just like mine and some have told thier wives and some have not. At this point my wife does not know of my little hobby and wieghs heavily on my heart that I keeping secrets from her and she deseves to know. Im afraid of putting another load on her shoulders since we have been through alot of rough times together and she's stuck to me. The last thing I want to do is hurt her emotionaly in any way so at this point the secret must remain with me. I feel that if GOD wants me to reveal this He will make it happen by putting it in my heart to tell her.So at this point we will move forward and see where this leads me.

Thank You for your support

Thera




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[DonnaT]

It's a tough decision to make.

Some can hide it forever, and some get caught with devastating effect.

[Kimberly Kael]

It is definitely a tough decision and even though being open and honest is quite clearly the right choice, it doesn't mean that there's no wrong way to go about it. It's also no guarantee that your partner is going to understand and appreciate your honesty. So yes, it's an awkward spot to be stuck in and there are no shortage of people here who have been there, or are still there. While cross-dressing in private was something that I found it relatively easy to share in relationships it took me decades to admit to myself that it went deeper, much less share that observation with my wife.

I am dubious about the abdication of responsibility entailed in waiting for your deity to compel you. Do you really not believe in free will? In the ability to make good decisions and bad decisions? I certainly can't advocate a specific course of action but I do think it's important to own your choices. Let your faith inspire you, by all means, but recognize that in the end it is up to you.

[Anthony Simon]

At this point my wife does not know of my little hobby and wieghs heavily on my heart that I keeping secrets from her and she deseves to know.... I feel that if GOD wants me to reveal this He will make it happen by putting it in my heart to tell her.

Well, I think you probably know that there's nothing "little" about your hobby. That's why it's a heavy weight. I'm not a believer, so I don't look at it as God putting stuff in my heart. On the other hand, I do take my instincts seriously and if they tell me to do something, then I probably should be doing it.

The problem I have is that, in the most difficult situations, they sometimes don't speak particularly loudly or in any sort of prolonged way. It can be just a vague feeling I get - a kind of warning - that just happens once and then it's gone. It's very easy to over-ride or otherwise not take seriously. I don't know that that situation would happen with you and God. But maybe He doesn't always speak as loudly and insistently as you might like - or in such a way as to make the decision easy for you.

[Thera Home]

At this point my wife does not know of my little hobby and wieghs heavily on my heart that I keeping secrets from her and she deseves to know.... I feel that if GOD wants me to reveal this He will make it happen by putting it in my heart to tell her.

I'm not a believer, .

Im so sorry to hear that beloved, I know HE works in my life. All these years his shielded this *Hobby* from the ones I love just for the fear I had of embarrasment and I know that for sure. Ive had many a close calls and never been busted. Now maybe he's moving me in new direction. Maybe thats why Im hear talking to wonderful people like you. We'll just keep on keeping on. But on the rest of your comment *I feel your pain brother*.

Thera

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P.s. Anthony, I love your signature. That is so me

[Anthony Simon]

...on the rest of your comment *I feel your pain brother*.

Thanks, Thera. I was trying to help you out and I got a bit of help in return. There's a moral in that...

[DonnaT]

Make sure to read the thread at http://crossdressers-haven.com/forums/v ... f=17&t=107" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;

[Leeza]

Donna, so glad you brought up that thread. It is very good.

Leeza