when I found out that I loved feminine things

Barbra · Post by **Barbra** » Sat May 29, 2004 4:55 am

Beauty,
Yes she is beginning to change a little. Tuesday she suggested that I buy something for myself and yesterday she was with me when I bought two dresses. I am beggining to let her lead the way instead of pushing. It works better.
Barbra

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Sun May 30, 2004 7:37 am

Hi Barbra,

AWESOME!!!!!

Beauty

Barbra · Post by **Barbra** » Mon May 31, 2004 5:16 am

The ice is begining to melt, I am now looking foward to shopping with her while dressed. Maybe soon. In the last two weeks I have bought two pair of panties, a pair of shoes, two dresses and a blouse while she was with me.
Barbra

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Tue Jun 01, 2004 6:30 am

Hi Barbra,

How long has she known about this again?

Beauty

Barbra · Post by **Barbra** » Wed Jun 02, 2004 4:17 am

Hello Beauty,
She has known about this for at least 30 years.
Barbra

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Wed Jun 02, 2004 6:32 am

Ok, I remember. I agree that you should let her do things. Very smart.

Beauty

Barbra · Post by **Barbra** » Thu Jun 03, 2004 5:42 am

Actually i should have told you that for over 25 years I have tried to suppress this feeling so she was not directle involved. Now the feeling is so strong that I have to do something but I don't really know what! Any Ideas? Sometimes I feel like I am going to explode. Her feelings are so unpredictable, Some times she is favorable toward the idea and sometimes she is firmly against it am I nuts?

Barbra · Post by **Barbra** » Fri Nov 05, 2004 6:36 am

Haven't heard from anyone in quite a while now but here is an update. My wife and I are talking a lot more now. She tells me that I can dress anytime I feel like it but it is still hard for me. Why? I still have that feeling of shame and embarassement. I do wear shoes and panties most of the time and sometimes thigh-hi stocking also a silver neckless and a ladies watch but that seems to be as far as I can go, not because of her but because of the way I feel around her. What do I do? Please, somebody help!
She even cleaned out a closet for my things and I have all my clothes and shoes in it, I also have a chest with my other things in it. I guess I just have a hang-up but what do I do now?
Barbra

Post by **DonnaT** » Fri Nov 05, 2004 10:11 am

You are not alone in your feelings. I've read where some CDs have found it unacceptable that their SO was accepting. It's apparently due to the fact that the CD has felt that what they were doing is wrong, and can't understand how someone else does not.

You have to accept yourself for who you are. You have to accept yourself for who you are.

You cannot change who you are. Your wife has now accepted that fact. Therefore, there is no need to be embarassed for bing a CD.

Make a vow to yourself, that at least three times a week you will dress completely. Then, sit with your wife on the couch and just hold hands or cuddle. Soon, you'll not feel uneasy anymore.

Barbra · Post by **Barbra** » Sat Nov 06, 2004 7:16 am

Donna,
The problem is that even tho my wife has accepted the fact that I am a cd, she says that she doesn't want any part of it, so, in effect I am a stranger to her when I am dressed. It has taken a long time to get to where I am so I feel like I have to go very slow now. I am just introducing more things to her slowly. Yesterday it was a camisole and black tights. Today it will be something else, maybe a pair of new shoes that is currently on sale at the local dept. store. I can't wait until I can just confortably wear a dress. She has asked me if I want to go out in public fully dressed and I told her that I did but not in our hometown. I guess that her acceptance is so long in comming that it now puts me in an embrassing position. I just really don't know what to do.
Love,
Barbra

Barbra · Post by **Barbra** » Mon Nov 08, 2004 5:42 am

Yesterday my wife and I went to the dept. store and I did buy the shoes with her blessings (I hope.) I was wearing all women's under garments, even thigh-hi stockings and a nice slip. Of course I was also wearing a shirt and pants with ladies trouser socks and men's shoes but a short month ago I couldn't have gotten away with even that. Things are definately improving for me.
When we got home, I put on a nice skirt and sweater but of course she didn't see me wearing them but she will in time. I am sitting here now fully dressed and debating whether to stay dressed until she comes down or change like I always do.
Oh well, wish me luck.
Barbra

Barbra · Post by **Barbra** » Sat Mar 26, 2005 8:00 am

Last Saturday, for the first time ever, I checked into a motel in a town not too far from home, dressed, drove across town,(about 11 miles) and up the mountain to a gender identity meeting. I was very nervous at first but soon forgot that I was even doing anything out of the ordinary.
My wife knew that I was going and I talked with her on the phone a few times while I was dressed. I had a very pleasant time and I don't think my wife minded too much. I am planning to do it again soon.
Bobbie

Post by **DonnaT** » Sat Mar 26, 2005 10:37 am

Wow, congratulations Bobbie/Barbra

So, how's things on the "dressing-in-front-of-the-wife" front going?

Elandra · Post by **Elandra** » Sat Mar 26, 2005 2:40 pm

Hi Barbra and welcome to the forms

Have you shown your SO the site here yet? There are a lot of SO's that post and i know it has been this site that has helped Charlie accept this all in me, knowing i am not the only one that does this, and a lot of the things that i do are done by so meny people.

When i came around the corner as Elandra and Charlie first saw me, she fliped, constant reasureing i am not gay and wanting to change my sex helped, also the thoughts of Hmmm do i realy want to have this in my life from now on, it is not easy for them, and i think understanding SO's are very special people.

I dont think i will ever go out in puplic, though i do desire to try, i am a 6'3'' tall man with a deep voice and all dressed up i dont think i can pass, practice makes perfect LoL

Best of luck sister

Kristen · Post by **Kristen** » Wed Mar 30, 2005 12:59 am

Barbara, I just found this thread and I am so happy that you are accepting yourself, the more you accept yourself the more your wife will. Hope she can find the way to this site. I know she will l be helped greatly if she can.

Sounds like a hoot driving to the meeting. I can see why you want to do it again.

I hope your wife is still on the up swing. Some days are so great, it's hard to be consisent when your accepting something new and strange.

My exwife has told me ( after 4 years of her new marriage) that she misses our shopping days. we would shop for each other with our preschool daughter with us. We also would have evenings of dressing for dinner and try to outdo each other. She said she felt intimidated by some of my outfits. She is a good looking girl with a very nice shape. She also said when we were married that the sex was better on these evenings that we had. She left because I am bipolar and she couldn't deal with the ups and downs. The dressing didn't help but it was not the reason she left.

I hope you and your wife can deal with the issues of cd'ing and have many years of fun filled shopping and dressin. Keep smilin,keep dressin, keep postin...... Love always, Kristen

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