Hear I be!!!
Posted: Thu Apr 08, 2004 3:37 pm
You know, Deborah, never did post under new member and at first I have thought about this but now I just want to say a few things as when I welcomed Pauline it hit me that I have derived most if not all of my strength from Deborah. Well here goes.
I came out to my wife back in December, primarily because of you ladies. I am not the type to hide and live in fear of "being caught." I realized that there had to be more to this new "me" than just nting to dress-up, so I began studying and continue to do so. (If you have not read any of the information posted by Danielle you are really missing something - what a great lady) Anyway I digress. I asked my wife of 27 year not to tell anyone, well you know how that went?! She told her mother, who told her father, (a 78 year old retired minister), then they told my brother-in-law, whether or not he told his wife I don't know. His main comment was, "if he hurts my sister, I will kill him!" ( what an idiot- but that's another story). My wife then told my daughter, who told her husband who said that he did not want me to be alone with my grandchildren, (he being a former institutionalized drug addict - did not want me around my own grandchildren - yeah! right!?)Now my wife asks me to go to a counselor - I do and flat told him who I was, that I enjoyed being Deborah and if he did not like it tough - Hell, I told him He could be wearing women's clothes under his suit for all I know. I told him of my relationship with my wife's family and that they have MAJOR problems and he thought that they needed counselling more than me. He said I need not come back unless the specifics that I was to ask them for as to how to improve my family relations were contrary to what I might expect.
To date they have given me only two 1. don't be late for family functions 2. go back to church. Anyway what followed was a four hour discussion between my in-laws and me. I held the winnng hand, because when the time came and it did. I simply pointed out that every Holloween, my father-in-law dressed up as a woman, fully - wig, dress, "war paint" etc. His reply was typical - "That's only one day - one time a year!!!" The BOMB was then dropped!!!!!!! I said. "How many times does it take?"
The expression on my mother-in-laws face was, shall I say, "to die for!"
Funny thing - they have not brought it up since!!!!
AS for my son-in-law and brother-in-law I won't even go into the crosses that they have to bear!! But, if asked, pressured or whatever (we have not confronted eachother since all this came to light) I am taking the position -"You don't like it -SCREW YOU!"
Well,that is where Deborah and I are, lost a lot of trust in my wife who is still in therapy, but not for my CD'ing. She feels too much stress from her job and our son ( now 19 but married at 18 to a 17 year old right out of high school ) He is a cook in the Army and they are in Texas. Kids playing house! Yes, we tried to talk them out of it - evidently did not do a very good job of it. But that's another story. For me I am loving my "Magical Mystery Tour" and I am thoroughly enjoying all my sisters hear. Love ya ALL,
Deborah
I came out to my wife back in December, primarily because of you ladies. I am not the type to hide and live in fear of "being caught." I realized that there had to be more to this new "me" than just nting to dress-up, so I began studying and continue to do so. (If you have not read any of the information posted by Danielle you are really missing something - what a great lady) Anyway I digress. I asked my wife of 27 year not to tell anyone, well you know how that went?! She told her mother, who told her father, (a 78 year old retired minister), then they told my brother-in-law, whether or not he told his wife I don't know. His main comment was, "if he hurts my sister, I will kill him!" ( what an idiot- but that's another story). My wife then told my daughter, who told her husband who said that he did not want me to be alone with my grandchildren, (he being a former institutionalized drug addict - did not want me around my own grandchildren - yeah! right!?)Now my wife asks me to go to a counselor - I do and flat told him who I was, that I enjoyed being Deborah and if he did not like it tough - Hell, I told him He could be wearing women's clothes under his suit for all I know. I told him of my relationship with my wife's family and that they have MAJOR problems and he thought that they needed counselling more than me. He said I need not come back unless the specifics that I was to ask them for as to how to improve my family relations were contrary to what I might expect.
To date they have given me only two 1. don't be late for family functions 2. go back to church. Anyway what followed was a four hour discussion between my in-laws and me. I held the winnng hand, because when the time came and it did. I simply pointed out that every Holloween, my father-in-law dressed up as a woman, fully - wig, dress, "war paint" etc. His reply was typical - "That's only one day - one time a year!!!" The BOMB was then dropped!!!!!!! I said. "How many times does it take?"
The expression on my mother-in-laws face was, shall I say, "to die for!"
Funny thing - they have not brought it up since!!!!
AS for my son-in-law and brother-in-law I won't even go into the crosses that they have to bear!! But, if asked, pressured or whatever (we have not confronted eachother since all this came to light) I am taking the position -"You don't like it -SCREW YOU!"
Well,that is where Deborah and I are, lost a lot of trust in my wife who is still in therapy, but not for my CD'ing. She feels too much stress from her job and our son ( now 19 but married at 18 to a 17 year old right out of high school ) He is a cook in the Army and they are in Texas. Kids playing house! Yes, we tried to talk them out of it - evidently did not do a very good job of it. But that's another story. For me I am loving my "Magical Mystery Tour" and I am thoroughly enjoying all my sisters hear. Love ya ALL,
Deborah
