ok, here it gose.

[Jenny M.]

Well let's start back 30 years ago, I met this girl we'll call her sue,We fell in love ,she moved in with me and we moved to Fl.. I came out to her and she was ok with it,But she did not understand, and I only dressed in private.This went on for 3 years until we broke up and she moved away. for a long time I was only in mail mode 8-10 hr. a day, found some good friends I could dress in front of. of cores I purged a few times but I always went back. Fast Forward 30 years.,I have to move to N.C. for my job. New place ,new people, so I'm dressing only at night. I met a nice cd. online . she was great, we had lots of fun. almost outed myself one night on a walk with her, someone I knew stop and asked if we needed a ride, wow was my hart pounding,we just said " No, Thank you " and went on....any way. she moved away and I was alone again.That is when I find(SUE) again after 30 years! she needed some help, so I let her move in with me. *Sigh*.. back to square one. she's not my girlfriend or anything , she has her own room, but I still can't tell her I dress.I'm in my room(dressed,) right now behind a locked door.

[Stephanie H]

Jenny M.
Sounds as of "Sue" who know your past and is now part of your present can be part of you Jenny M. future. She having known you for such a long time even though not contiguous most likely will be able to handle a discussion or two.

[Joanne T.]

Hi jenny,
It has been a bit of a rollercoaster for you, but now Sue is back in your life and she was aware of your situation I would have thought that a tentative approach to discuss things as they are should be of benefit to both of you. It must be an awful strain having to lock your door in your own home so the sooner you test the waters with Sue the better. The normal response is slowly slowly and baby steps but in this instance I think a fairly quick resolution is required.
Wish you all the luck you deserve
Hugs
Joanne xxxx

[Jenny M.]

Thank you. I have started to were " ifiy" close around her. Baby steps.

[Gina L.]

Hi Jenny, reading your post, you do not say whether you have strong feelings for this girl. You have been kind to help her, and I am sure she appreciates it. If you have feelings for her I would certainly take baby steps, but if it is a situation of just friends I would come out to her and tell her you dress in the house. From what you say I don't think she will object, both of you might be glad to have the company of each other instead of staying in your respective rooms.

[Requal Jo]

I echo the comments above. It sounds as if you have remained friends (or in contact) with Sue over the years since you parted for you to know of her problems and invite her back into your life.

It does take courage and confidence to come out to others about our dressing but the talk being conducted in a neutral and friendly environment can take a great burden off our minds.

While she may not accept, it is your house and you should be able to be comfortable in your own home, not sit behind locked doors.

[Davita]

Bad me would be saying, hey, how's this outfit and if you don't like it find another place to get help. Seems the wrong one is being the captive. It should be the audience in this case.

[Ralitsa]

Yeah, I agree with Requal and Davita. It's your house and you are the one doing her a favor letting her stay there. I would not be worrying about whether she would disapprove, she is in no position to tell you what you can do in your house.
Anyway, she already knows because you told her about it years ago, so I doubt that she cares.

[Anne Bonny]

I have found myself amazed by the women around me...but they have "seen it all" because they all work in the health care field. I do think people know there are men out there who wear feminine clothing, they may not know very much about us but I do believe people are more accepting and open than they used to be. Why not just come out with it and state sometimes I like to wear female clothing because I feel feminine from time to time. You would probably be surprised. The main problem we face are the ones we create in our own mind. It is not other people but we ourselves that prevent us from living openly.