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after reading so many posts about how people got started on their way to a cd life, i realised that many if not all started when they were very young. i did not start to dress until i was in my late 40's. i am now 55. i guess i would not be facing the issues with crossdressing now if i had realised i was cd much earlier in life. it was at the end of my marriage that i began to wear my wife's panties and found they gave me a thrill and i will be honest here and say it was purely sexual. after my wife left home i was alone and had the opportunity to further my exploration into crossdressing. i then met a woman who i was totally honest with in my crossdressing ways and supported me totally. it was fantastic. she bought all my clothes for me and gave me lots of advice. but we both kept our secret from the rest of the world. she left me after 4 years in the worst way possible. she outed me to her new boyfreind and made me out to be a total pervert and weirdo. i was shattered and gutted by that action.....and in a small town i felt very vunerable. now i don't dress at all after having a purge a couple of years ago and i am once again deep in the closet. que sera sera

Have only read a very few who didn't starte early in life. As far as it being better, I have been at it as long as I can remember and still have guilt. After coming out to my wife I have been trying to stop but don't know how well this is going. Being outed would be hard, but you are not alone, even in a small town there are others hiding. If someone knows then you can't change that but don't over react - others have worse things to hide. You sure aren't hurting anyone with it.

hi jill.....at the time my ex outed me i was gutted but i did get over it quickly.
i expect those who now know couldn't care less anyway and would probably think badly of her for outing me anyway. and yes i expect there are others in town here who are cd's but being such a small town, its pretty much impossible to find out who.

we are hurting for you but you will find a lot of love and support here. Being from a small town myself I fully understand your problem. Wish I could give you a big hug.

thank you claire for your kind words and wonderful support

Hi bronny--
That's a nasty thing to have happen to you--not only does the relationship fall apart, but the ugliest part of your former partner takes over, and outs you. I am sorry that it has driven you deeply into the closet, but that may change. After all, you're here, and I don't think you will want to read these posts for too long unless you're doing something similiar. This is not fun as a spectator sport--not if you've ever experienced it yourself.