Early memories and some advice needed

[Lisbeth]

I've been thinking of growing up and the many different times that I dressed up in something feminine. Things I haven't thought about in years. I recall going to my Boy Scout meeting wearing a pair of my Moms stockings under my uniform. I had held them up with thin wire and they started to slip down and bunch around my ankles. I remember being scared that the other guys would catch me but being out of my mind with excitement. I tucked them in my socks and went on. I remember how I used to play for hours in my Moms big walk-in closet. She was living in Fla. and I was all by my self to be who I wanted to be. My Mom was the first one to know what I was doing. I had moved back to her house when I got separated from my first wife and took care of the place. I know Mom had found my "wardrobe" collection a couple of times but never discouraged me. She just loved me for who and what I was. This was not the case with my first wife, however. I started wearing her panties from the first chance I got. When she caught me in the backyard at night in her nylon one-piece swimsuit she didn't quite get the joke. At least not then. We have remained close friends aand raised two beautiful daughters, both married and happy. A couple of years ago I was having trouble putting on make-up and I called my ex and asked her if she could help. She laughed and said she would. I looked fantastic! I was so happy to be able to sit and become "me" with her help. My wife now knows about the panty part and I'm trying really hard to figure out how to bring her up to speed without totally freaking her out. I've never been so afraid of anything this much in my life. I'm hoping to get some help from the forum from CD's that have "come out" to their SO's. I'll take any advice you girls can give me. That's enough for now. I've got to get some sleep. Good night all, Lisbeth

[DonnaT]

Here's a good thread discussing the telling of one's SO/wife.

http://crossdressers-haven.com/forums/v ... sc&start=0

Be honest and don't make promises you can't keep.

[SilverLady(SO)]

Hi, Lisbeth -

Don't rush her, don't push her, start off slowly - she'll let you know how much she can handle, and if she thinks you're going too fast, you'll definitely be told!!

Keep the lines of communication open, be honest to yourself and in your answers to her questions. Be willing to compromise - that *is* a 2-way street - but don't issue ultimatums, or give in to them, either.

Most importantly, remember our Golden Rule: Baby steps, honey. Baby steps!

- SL