I hope a lot of you have read the post on "Getting Read." I mean really read them. Have we not the greatest group!? The posts are heartfelt! VERY intelligently written and most insightful. They are well written and I might recommend that these along with other area posts would make a great book!! I can not tell you how pround I am to be part of this group.
Think about this - not that it could ever happen - but what if we could all get together in one place at one time? Wow what a group! Just had to write this as I am so proud of all my sisters out there trying to make a difference.
Love ya all!!
Deborah
Sisters! congratulations, You Girls Rule!!!
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Virginia
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Sisters! congratulations, You Girls Rule!!!
First star to the right, then straight on 'till mornin!
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Kersten Lee
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Deborah,
Earlier, one of my three wishes was that we could all get together once every year.
Do you think we would be disappointed, or sharing this much intimacy
would guarantee that we could see past the physical.
Many years ago, I asked an acquaintence to join my wife and I for
dinner out on us. We had a wonderful meal but this man and wife
were constantly complaining about everything and with the waiter.
He ate like a hog and made the same noises as a hog. From then
on I could not separate my feelings about him from these
images and sounds. Today, I like to think I would feel differently.
(He also had food sloshing out of the sides of his mouth as he chewed).
Don't anyone take the above to mean anything. I still suffer from low
self esteem. I wouldn't want to think my friends here would look
negatively at me because I wasn't as refined as I see most of you.
I have lived in such a lonely desert for so long. All of you are my closest
link to what I believe the world should be. Many of you are now my
closest friends. And all this in cyberspace.
I get the best support from all of you helping me. None of you
"bring me down".
If all this confuses you, don't worry, it confuses me too.
I should not post this, but will. Anyone feel free to delete if you like.
If anyone is tired of me baring my soul, please let me know anyway
you like. I always am trying to be up beat but at times it escapes me
yet.
I love so many of you so much for what you all have given me.
For some reason Deborah's beautiful post opened a scar in me.
In this place, I became so fearful of loosing all of you. It
probably has to do with having good feelings, only to have them ripped
away from me.
Kisses and love from me,
Kersten
Earlier, one of my three wishes was that we could all get together once every year.
Do you think we would be disappointed, or sharing this much intimacy
would guarantee that we could see past the physical.
Many years ago, I asked an acquaintence to join my wife and I for
dinner out on us. We had a wonderful meal but this man and wife
were constantly complaining about everything and with the waiter.
He ate like a hog and made the same noises as a hog. From then
on I could not separate my feelings about him from these
images and sounds. Today, I like to think I would feel differently.
(He also had food sloshing out of the sides of his mouth as he chewed).
Don't anyone take the above to mean anything. I still suffer from low
self esteem. I wouldn't want to think my friends here would look
negatively at me because I wasn't as refined as I see most of you.
I have lived in such a lonely desert for so long. All of you are my closest
link to what I believe the world should be. Many of you are now my
closest friends. And all this in cyberspace.
I get the best support from all of you helping me. None of you
"bring me down".
If all this confuses you, don't worry, it confuses me too.
I should not post this, but will. Anyone feel free to delete if you like.
If anyone is tired of me baring my soul, please let me know anyway
you like. I always am trying to be up beat but at times it escapes me
yet.
I love so many of you so much for what you all have given me.
For some reason Deborah's beautiful post opened a scar in me.
In this place, I became so fearful of loosing all of you. It
probably has to do with having good feelings, only to have them ripped
away from me.
Kisses and love from me,
Kersten
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Cindy Barnes
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Deborah,Kersten & everyone,
The idea of online friends getting together is great !
I realy do believe you can get a good idea of someone's personality from knowing them through online comunication.
I also believe people are basicly the same no matter what they are wearing at any particular time .
I am attatching a pic from a January event, where I had met all but 1 there online in my favorite chat room. (2 even came from the UK for this get together),, but any dissapointments ??? NO WAY !!!!
Its just amazing to finaly meet somebody in person and instantly feel you have know each other forever .!!
HUGS!!
Cindy
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The idea of online friends getting together is great !
I realy do believe you can get a good idea of someone's personality from knowing them through online comunication.
I also believe people are basicly the same no matter what they are wearing at any particular time .
I am attatching a pic from a January event, where I had met all but 1 there online in my favorite chat room. (2 even came from the UK for this get together),, but any dissapointments ??? NO WAY !!!!
Its just amazing to finaly meet somebody in person and instantly feel you have know each other forever .!!
HUGS!!
Cindy
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Josey
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Hi Y'all,
That would be a wonderful idea, everyone getting together. Of course, you are going to have to wait until I lose 75 more pounds and can get into some of my better things. I've only lost 25 so far!
Seriously, that would be a wonderful idea. Some life long friendships could be formed, not that they aren't already from this forum. This coming from someone who has only been out a few times and only then when I knew there was some refuge (like, Gee, it's Halloween! This is a dress up party!). I'm excited even thinking about it but could we do it around October 31st? (Beauty, do we have an Emoticon for a chicken???
) 
That would be a wonderful idea, everyone getting together. Of course, you are going to have to wait until I lose 75 more pounds and can get into some of my better things. I've only lost 25 so far!
Seriously, that would be a wonderful idea. Some life long friendships could be formed, not that they aren't already from this forum. This coming from someone who has only been out a few times and only then when I knew there was some refuge (like, Gee, it's Halloween! This is a dress up party!). I'm excited even thinking about it but could we do it around October 31st? (Beauty, do we have an Emoticon for a chicken???
) "The early bird catches the worm...But... It's the second mouse that gets the cheese"
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Bernice
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Ladies, I see my secret idea is already not only not a secret, but not even exclusively my idea. I probably wasn't even among the first to think of this. Yes, I'd love to meet my many CD forum friends in person.
Rather than ask group permission, I thought I would go slow (unilaterally), and meet just one of you. I will see how that goes, then hopefully meet another. Then another. By then we might have some kind of movement toward some kind of national gathering.
I know a couple (male and female) that met on the Internet, and actually got married. Not only that, but they are still married after several years. I think they have a real good chance at forever together. My point is basically just to echo Cindy's point - that we really can get to know someone surprisingly well, just by our written communications. But it does take time, and it does take a concerted effort. And then we all apprecieate the payback on our investment.
I think trust is earned by taking small risks, and by sharing consistent truthful information, and by pursuing only selfless motives. That happens a lot here, hence I trust many of you to a surprising degree.
Kersten: I am happy that you have acknowleged your self-esteem problem. That is a major early step to self acceptance and self actualization. Your sisters here (if I may be so bold as to imagine I can speak for more than just myself) have no reason to think of you as anything but another intelligent, caring, and sensitive human being - one who is worthy of as much love and respect as any of us. Keep baring your soul. It is one good way we can tell you are being honest, and it is also good therapy for you. My dear SO also suffers from self-esteem problems. It is frustrating, I know. It is not so simple to just suddenly change your self-image. (Or perhaps my SO just likes to fish for compliments, but I really don't believe that.) You need time (and a fair amount of personal emotional effort) to realize just how perfectly OK you really are. My wife needs my support, as you need our support. It is here for you.
P.S. I've read that Nebraska just isn't that far away, if that gives you any ideas.
Hugs to everyone,
Bernice
Rather than ask group permission, I thought I would go slow (unilaterally), and meet just one of you. I will see how that goes, then hopefully meet another. Then another. By then we might have some kind of movement toward some kind of national gathering.
I know a couple (male and female) that met on the Internet, and actually got married. Not only that, but they are still married after several years. I think they have a real good chance at forever together. My point is basically just to echo Cindy's point - that we really can get to know someone surprisingly well, just by our written communications. But it does take time, and it does take a concerted effort. And then we all apprecieate the payback on our investment.
I think trust is earned by taking small risks, and by sharing consistent truthful information, and by pursuing only selfless motives. That happens a lot here, hence I trust many of you to a surprising degree.
Kersten: I am happy that you have acknowleged your self-esteem problem. That is a major early step to self acceptance and self actualization. Your sisters here (if I may be so bold as to imagine I can speak for more than just myself) have no reason to think of you as anything but another intelligent, caring, and sensitive human being - one who is worthy of as much love and respect as any of us. Keep baring your soul. It is one good way we can tell you are being honest, and it is also good therapy for you. My dear SO also suffers from self-esteem problems. It is frustrating, I know. It is not so simple to just suddenly change your self-image. (Or perhaps my SO just likes to fish for compliments, but I really don't believe that.) You need time (and a fair amount of personal emotional effort) to realize just how perfectly OK you really are. My wife needs my support, as you need our support. It is here for you.
P.S. I've read that Nebraska just isn't that far away, if that gives you any ideas.
Hugs to everyone,
Bernice