Tonight my DH was getting ready to go meet up with some friends for a little "gurl" time. My 3 year old has been brought up around Elayne and we do not make a big deal about it. She always ends up in the pics that Elayne takes of herself and wants lipstick too darn it! Anyway tonight was a new one for us. She asked Elayne if she was turning into mommy. I had to laugh and Wayne just said "no that is your mommy." She then watched Elayne getting dressed up and asked if she was wearing mommy's panty's. We again shrugged it off and Elayne said, "No mommy usually steals mine." Out of the mouth of babes.
Some may not agree that we are open with the 11 and 3 year old but our view on this is if we do not make a big deal out of it then it will always be accepted. Not to mention the fact if they find out as teenagers and have more of a reason to hate us. So now we just have boundaries with them. It is not in the face of the 11 year old as much but she is very accepting not to mention she raids the closet.
Hugs to all
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Lisa (SO)
*The rewards of love are always greater than the cost.*
I agree with you Lisa. Not making a big deal of it all, and being open and forthright with your daughter should make it easier for her to go with the flow.
I agree with you. I am totally against keeping it a secret from kids to "protect them". In my opinion keeping it a secret is the same as saying it's wrong. It promotes deception and lying. My hats off to you.
Thank you Donna and Elizabeth. I sometimes second guess myself as there are those that say I am doing more harm than good. Then I remember that we teach our children not to judge or lie and I feel we are doing the right thing. I just love how the 3 year old goes from Daddy to mommy when Elayne dresses . Molly even met Elayne before she passed.
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Lisa (SO)
*The rewards of love are always greater than the cost.*
Lisa, I think what you and Elayne are doing is wonderful. Your kids will grow up learning there is no shame in crossdressing and it is nothing to hide. As they grow older, they'll likely understand it's okay to develop their own opinions, just so long as they respect others'. IMHO, that's a very good thing.
Thank You Kathy! We feel the same way yet our 11 year old has a respecting-her-parents problem but that is the age!!!! Maddie though, Wayne can do no wrong. When she is in trouble she says "I don't like you anymore" but that lasts 5 minutes at the most. The perils of being a parent.
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Lisa (SO)
*The rewards of love are always greater than the cost.*
Someday you'll have children of your own..... The worlds oldest blessing and the worlds oldest curse, all at once. Sounds to me like you are doing the right thing.
Absaroka
everything under the sun is in tune
but the sun is eclipsed by the moon
I had to laugh and Wayne just said "no that is your mommy." She then watched Elayne getting dressed up and asked if she was wearing mommy's panty's. We again shrugged it off and Elayne said, "No mommy usually steals mine." Out of the mouth of babes. 
So now we just have boundaries with them. It is not in the face of the 11 year old as much but she is very accepting not to mention she raids the closet. 
. Molly even met Elayne before she passed.
