Getting out

[Leelo]

Hi all

Well since I signed up on the sight I have been having quite a good time with my coming outness.
I have taken quite a few car rides and been on lot of walks (always at night I dont quite have the guts to go in daytime yet)

Anyway tonight I decided I would go and get some dinner from a local fast food drive through.
I placed my order with nervous anticipation my man voice giving my sex away or so I thought,the girl completed my order and she did seem to notice that I wasnt the same as her but she didnt seem to be to offended.
So after that I went to a local corner store to by a drink, and the young man who served me was kinda cool about everything.
I am sure he could tell I was Tranny but he was pleasent and wished me a happy new year.
So I was realy plaesed with that.

next thing is to go to the mall or something but I am really nervous about this as know one else in my life really knows about my crossdressing.
I have found out that there is a local transgender meeting every Sunday at the Gay and Lesbian Society.
So I think I will try and venture out to this meeting on Sunday, in the hopes of meeting some like minded people to go shopping with.

Wish me luck.

Leelo

[Angela]

Good luck with your future "out and about" trips. I absolutely adore going out fully dressed, it's such a wonderful feeling.

[DonnaT]

Have a good time, Sunday. Heck, the girls may even have plans for an outing you can join in on.

[JoAnnDallas]

Back in 2005, I was kinda like you. Going out for walks and car rides. Then one night, I went to the Shell station and filled up the car. After I filled it up, I decided to walk into the store and buy a soda. As I walked in the person at the counter was talking to a customer. They both stopped talking, turned their heads, and looked at me for a just a moment. Then turned back and continued their conversation. When I walked up to the counter with my soda, the guy just told me what I owed and then as I walked away, said, "Have a nice evening MAM". Boy I was on cloud nine. On the way home I realized that I had turned a corner and from that point own it has gotten better and better. Today not only do I go out in the daytime, but wife and I do go shopping together with me fully dressed.
Just take your time, don't rush yourself, and one day you will notice that no one seems to really care or notice. enjoy the out Sunday and I hope you meet some other TG people there.

[Leelo]

I finally went out today in the daytime .

I went out early this morning and bought myself a new outfit (sweater,pleated skirt,bra and realy cute panties,)
I felt so Fem it was crazy.

Anyway I went to the local trans gender meeting at the Gay and Lesbian Society.
I met some really wonderful people there, including a fabulous lady in full transition{ ooh I think Im in love)

It was truly liberating experience to finally talk to someone with the same feelings and issues that you have.

Anyhow I just thought I would post an update with Leelo's progress.

Thanks again.

Kisses.

Leelo.

[Virginia]

HI Hon,

We are nice folk aren't we?

I am glad that you went to the meeting and hope you will continue to go, as just the physical understanding that you are not alone is a great comfort.

As for the mall trip. First, unless you know for sure you can pass and have the confidence to take on ANY challenge that could possibly arise, I would highly recommend that you steer clear of the malls at least until you find "enlightenment!"

The mall harbours our worst enemy!!! That being a pack, defined as two or more teenage girls. These girls hang out at the mall for one reason and it is not even something that they are aware that they are doing! They are seeking roll models!! If you watch them closely (while en drab) notice that they will check out virtually every adult female that they see. Again, they are seeking information on how to be female, sit, stand, walk, hand gestures, smile, touch things, and on and on.

Now comes you and they spot you and I can assure you that most of us can not pass their scrutiny. They will read us in a heart beat and what they see is usually something so alien to their universe that they are drawn to us like magnets and not knowing how to handle "us," they will announce our presence to not only people in the mall but sometimes to all adjacent zip codes. It can be a very, very humilitating and embarrssing situation to be in because there is no where to hide.

There is an urban legend about this type of situation happening to one of our sister's and how she handled the situation is probably beyond what most of us could conjure up. She simply waved the girls over and they gathered around her like what they are, children. Then she explained who/what she was and began asking them questions like how did they "read" her and what could she do to be passable in their eyes. Well she left with all kinds of good information and made some good friends as well and also educated some of the "great unwashed!" If you still feel the need to venture out to the mall, I would recommend that you do it when school is in not out!

Remember our motto here, "baby steps, just baby steps!"

Good luck and ...................

Go forth Woman and BE!!!!

Virginia

[Leelo]

Many thanks for the advice Virginia.
I will watch out for the dreaded teens.

Leelo

[Anita]

It's great that you got to the meeting. It can be very nice to talk to others who understand much of who you are, right from the beginning. I have suggested branch libraries for first outings==but I'd also say, go during the hours when school is in session.

I always liked going grocery shopping, and felt comfortable there from the beginning. But from posting about it, I found that some people considered it a real challenge, as bad as the mall.

You'll find the types of places where you feel comfortable. Have fun!

[JoAnnDallas]

Well Well we have been busy, I see. Congrads on going out in the daylight and going to your first TG meeting. I remember back in 2006 when I approached the local Tri-Ess chapter. After I was accepted, I went to my first meeting. Like you said, it was wonderful. It was only the second time I had met anyone like us. The first was going to Holiday EnFem 2006 which just happen to be held here in Dallas, Tx where I live. That is a story in itself. LOL