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Untill a few weeks ago my wife dident want anything to do with "Debra" aka Debbie. We have talked about it and I suggested she read-up about it as I dident want to hide anything from her. Untill now the subject was always met with scowels and short one liners refering to Holloween. Well lately she has been more open to what I am doing, even bought me two pair of shoes and a couple of blouses and no more faces.

I have always told her everything and answered all her questions, "no I am not gay, no I dont want to become a GG" (although I have thought about it and have told her so) I told her I liked to shop 43 yrs ago as I have 3 older sisters and got in on a lot of it.
This weekend I told her I wanted to dress and go out. I wore my new blouse and sandals and she offered to let me wear her new capries *-*what a doll ! Well I went out for the day and had a really great time when I got home and she got off work I showed her pics that I had taken that day and I have always showed her my pics, all of them She asked me why I took so many? I told her that I wanted her to see what I was up to. I think now she realizes that I just want to get closer to my femm side. She asked me what bra I had on as it looked natural, she had seen it before but was trying to ignore it. I realized what day it was as the "Lion King" was playing and she was going to go with her best friend Debra (how I chose my name,aka Debbie) but Debra was in the hospital so they cancelled, so I asked if she would still like to go - with Debbie: well it was too late they were all sold out but the acknowledgment was priceless!

She has tried on my wig (about to get a new one) bought clothes for me and today I noticed a sale and called her at work she said I should go by another pair capries we could share - salmon color. Thing are going smoother and its been good for me to share this. Any others have SO expierences. Huggs : Debbie

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Your one lucky girl, Debbie!! Mine wouldn't buy me anything fem to save my life! . "Throw me that pink life perserver". " Like hell I will"... Lol.

Great to hear, Debbie!

Bought her those flowers of appreciation yet?

Oh yeah - Out to dinner, and did I mention , shopping?

Debra Russell wrote:Thing are going smoother and its been good for me to share this. Any others have SO expierences.

My SO was instrumental with me going fully crossdressed. Before I met her I did all my dressing in secret, sorry to say in a very guilty way. I was married to another woman before I met her, and I used to try on my ex-wife's clothes when she wasn't home, all the while wondering how I could feel so guilty about something that just felt so...right. Anyway, my first marriage ended in divorce, I met my true soulmate, and I got married again (even after telling myself I would never marry again). Amazing how one doesn't know what love is until you actually meet the "right" one!

Back to the subject, one time my new wife had bought a beautiful silky nightgown and brought it home to show me. After she tried it on and modeled it for me (I was very appreciative!), she changed back to her regular clothes, laying the nightgown on the bed in front of me. Before I realized what I was doing, I picked it up and held it in front of me as if I were sizing it for myself (maybe subconsciously I was). She looked at me and said the words I will be forever grateful for- "Why don't you try it on?" So I did.

Since then I have cross dressed in front of her too many times to count (in the privacy of the bedroom). She encourages me, shops for me, occasionally helps put on makeup, and genuinely likes to hang out with "Rose" as much as she does with "her husband." She even says I should be more brave and go out of the house dressed up, although I am too tall, have too much of a man-ish face and voice to pass, so no thank you. Who knows, maybe someday.

Let's hope your relationship continues to develop along these lines, Debbie. It makes life so much more interesting, fun, and relaxing when the SO is on board. Good luck!

-Rose

Rose, maybe if you found a trans social/support club near you you could go out dressed to meetings, and possibly partake in some outside activities with them. Being in a group outing could increase you anonymity.

My Mrs. has been more than supportive. I must say I regret not telling her sooner and hiding it from her for many years but I did tell before we got married. That was more than 18 years ago but unlike yourself Debra, I'm still a homebody and don't venture outside much.

I wish you continued and growing support from your spouse.

Jodie

Rose said:

although I am too tall, have too much of a man-ish face and voice to pass, so no thank you. Who knows, maybe someday.

Never say never Rose. If and when you do, you'll never regret it. It's an awesome feeling and once you've done it once, you'll want to do it again and again. As most will tell you, passing is mostly about attitude and confidence. And with a supportive wife, you're already ahead of the game. Just do it!

Stephanie

Hi Debra--
I don't want to hijack your thread here, but I have to second (or third) the call to Rose. Never say never! It's amazing what can happen out there. My nose, chin, and Adam's apple are definitely male, and I'm 6', but it's like good theatre--people buy the role I'm playing, when I'm out there.

I'm happy to hear about you and your wife, Debra. Keep being as honest and open as you can be.

I was always concious of my height an consequently never thought of going out in public. Well a gg friend of mine encouraged me and I tried it a few years ago. I was so easy. we went to malls together and eventually I went off by myself. Never had a problem and b;ended easily by wearing flats. Try going to a mall during weekdays you will love it with her.
Janet

Thank you to everyone for your encouragement and advice. Like I said, perhaps one day.

Rose

Good news, It Is nicer when your wife accepts and becomes a partner. My wife has made the decision to be a part of my life and it feels so natural, when in fem.

I recently had a heart to heart with my wife and she agreed to skirt wearing. For some years I have worn lingerie and nightie. In fact today she is ordering me a new nightie. Next step is a dress and (clip-on) earring. Both have been ordered.

I wear femme with her most nghts now

You must be very lucky to have a wife supporting you that way. It must be a big step for her to take and it shows how much she must be loving you. I'm looking forward to having the same happening to me but I don't like to force anything.
Good luck and enjoy,

Congratulations Debra, Relationships take a lot of work and compromise,
She is most likely tired of feeling depressed over this issue and giving it a try, as I did. I'm glad I gave in for numerous reasons, first of all being I knew he couldn't change just cause I wanted him to, second is I love him very much and the person inside is who I married. We have fun together now and we talk a lot, even more than we used to. As a matter of fact I feel we have more fun together now. He does the things I need and I give him his due. We work together.