Im more than a girl then my gf

[ErinS]

The other night we were laying in bed talking and she throws out your more of a girl then me. So I ask her why you thik that. SHe tells me to think about it and starts telling me. Well starting at your toes you always have them painted you go get pedicures every few months witch she never does. You also wear skirts when you go out drerssd (2) times now and wear skirts around the house I have not seen her in a skirt in over a year. The underware you are wearing now is Silk and lace from Victoria secret and you dont even own any mens underware anymore. SHe telll me she dont even wear this kind of panties all she wear is plain whit hanes her way cotton ones. SHe hardly wears makeup and kinda of a joke betweeen us she told me one day I do my makeup better then she does. I wear earrings in my ears more then she does I own 3 dresses again wear at home but I have not seen her in a dress ever. TO bed i wear a pjs from VIctoria secret and a bra or a pink silk night gown and she wear sweats. And you go to the mall or a makeup store and have your make up done witch she will never do.SHe keeps going after our last trip to mall you bought another pair of jeans from Maurices and the gilr who helpd you knows you by your first name . You can walk in to Victoria secret and get fitted for a bra and try them on and you own a Victoria secret credit card . SO now tell why you do not think your are not more of a girl then me. SHe right I am more of a GILR then she is and i am lucky to have her in my life

[Leeza]

One of my daughters (Tomie) said to me one time

you are more of a lady than I am, but I am more of a woman

Leeza

[Millie]

Hi Erin
I have the same thing in my house. I dress more like a woman than my SO does. I think its more of a fantasy thing for us, so that's why we do it more often. I will have to say, that my SO is starting to fix herself up more now then in the past.

[PhylissH]

Hi Erin
I think this is true for most of us. I like you always wear skirts and dresses when I go out,wear skirts/dresses around the house, do more make up than her, and have more pairs of heels than she does. LOL. I love being and feeling girly.

[JoAnnDallas]

I do confess that I dress more as a woman than my wife does. My wire does not wear makeup. She hardly ever wears a dress or skirt. usually it is pants or capries and a T-shirt. Neither does she wear heels. usually sandals. For my wife it is understandable. She has MS which makes it very hard to wear heels and pants, capries, and T-shirts are a lot easier to put on than a dress or skirt. She does have some fancy pant suit outfits for those formal times that we do go to. She does help me with my makeup and does make sure my fashion sense is correct as far as accessories that I add to my outfits. I remember one day I came out of the bathroom and she took one look at me and said, "Hun, that just will not work". I looked at her and then at myself in the mirror. She then took me back into the bathroom and had me take off what I was wearing and she re-dressed me. She then put me in front of the full length mirror and said, "See the difference". I had to admit that I did look 100% better than I did when I got dressed myself. So now I usually will have her look me over just to make sure my fashion sense is OK. I am one of those very lucky TG's that has a very understanding wife. I also make sure NOT to abuse that understanding.

[Paula G]

Maybe we wear more make up, and more fem clothing because we have to, to express our femininity, whereas a GG just is, we have to show we are..................

[Rikki]

Even though I don't dress in front of my wife, I think it's safe to say that I spend more hours in skirts and dresses in one year than she has in 30+ years of marriage! I still love her and we have wonderful life. But in many ways, I too, am the girl around the house!

Rikki

[Davita]

My friends wear dresses, skirts, pants, wonderful heels etc. BUT, they all tell me I'm the girly one of them. It's not just the clothes, it's also attitude, feelings, and generally how you go about in society.

I too have influenced my friends. Every now and then they tell me they have changed something because of me. One of my close friends moved away from dull, dark colors and added brights and prints to her life over several years of being with me. Thank gawd we aren't competing over who can be the girliest; I'm just glad I don't scare anyone. uummm I don't think.

[April Rose]

I agree with Paula. My body is not femme at all, so I need the femme clothes to express the femininity I feel in my head and my heart. I really think that, if we became an androgynous society, transvestism would probably disappear altogether.

[Paulette]

April Rose said: I really think that, if we became an androgynous society, transvestism would probably disappear altogether.

I used to think similar things: that if everyone would only X, then we'd all be Y. The most famous version is "If everyone would only learn to play the violin, the world would be a better place," or something like that, from at least a century ago.

I was an isolated CD for so long that I assumed everyone was like me, or that I'd eventually become, or my compulsions would make me into, my worst nightmare of what CDs really were like. The reality turned out to be that I'm a fairly typical CD in most ways and quite different in a few others. (There's this annoying green tentacle, you know?)

Your mileage will probably vary, just like everyone else's. It's like the first rule of sociology: "some do; some don't." The difficulty is sorting out what's accepted/standard/usual from what's not; and every group and individual is a little different from every other. Acceptance and enjoyment of those differences in oneself and others seems to be the key. [/pontificating]

I'd like to develop a more androgynous look for everyday use, too. But I would certainly keep my most feminine clothing to wear for my own pleasure, even if I never wore it out of the house. And I'd probably keep several outfits for presentation as a female, even though I've never yet had the courage to try that in public. Maybe soon, though.

The majority of my clothing would remain "male" -- it's just easier, and usually more comfortable and practical. I still have a collection of performance clothing (juggling/clowning, period costume, ambient vaudevillian entertainment), that gets occasional use.

My wife's wardrobe is much the same: practical except for business or theatrical purposes - she does semi-pro cabaret, jazz, and musical stage work, including Rocky Horror roles and a few Gilbert & Sullivan pants roles. However, she's never had sexy lingerie, and I'd love us to explore that together. In that respect, yes, I'm more of a girl than my wife.

Paulette

[Ralitsa]

so I think this is a really interesting thread, especially because of the underlying premise that wearing pretty clothes is what makes one a girl.
I have this feeling that many women (perhaps most) wear pretty clothes because men like that, and they want to do things which men will like. We have all heard women complain about "having to wear a skirt" and at the same time we would just love to be able to wear pretty dresses and stylish skirts. Lingerie is maybe the best example, men love it, but almost no woman would wear it for herself.
So, is the desire for pretty things really an indication of being girly? I'm thinking just the opposite, that men like beautiful things and women are just trying to fulfill that demand.
And now that is has become PC for women to reject the expectation that they must look pretty at all times, more of us have decided that we want to look pretty ourselves.
I also am more girly than most of the women I know. But they seem to prefer wearing jeans and I prefer wearing skirts and dresses. Which makes me think that "girly" is to wear jeans.
I do agree with the thought that to a big extent we over-compensate, that we take a lot more trouble to look pretty because it is a lot harder for us. But I also think that we do it for ourselves, whereas the women that do it are doing it for their men.

[Paulette]

so I think this is a really interesting thread, especially because of the underlying premise that wearing pretty clothes is what makes one a girl.
I have this feeling that many women (perhaps most) wear pretty clothes because men like that, and they want to do things which men will like. We have all heard women complain about "having to wear a skirt" and at the same time we would just love to be able to wear pretty dresses and stylish skirts. Lingerie is maybe the best example, men love it, but almost no woman would wear it for herself.

Hmmm. I like lingerie on my wife, and on myself. She's never found that any of her lovers other than myself were interested in her wearing it, and therefore has almost none. She does have a tattoo around her waist of a vine in the style of Beardsly, which is decorative, but she's an artist and designer who loves his work.

I do enjoy wearing a skirt or dress around the house, but almost never see my wife in one. She wears simple sheath dresses to work for the most part, and accessorizes them with scarves, belts, necklaces, and brooches for variety. I wear female clothes in order to feel female and sensual. My wife wears them because they are expect business attire of a woman of her age and position. In previous jobs she felt she could "present" as a younger woman, wearing jeans, etc. Now, not so much.

[Ashley New]

Before I came out to my wife as a CD, she remarked more than once you are like a girl. But then she is more like a man. Seriously, it's like some sort of role reversal. An example of this is when there is a problem, I want to sit down, talk it out and find a solution. She does not like to talk things out, just ignore the problem. There are other things such as me being way more sensitive and emotional than she ever will be, but you get the idea.

[Karin]

Similar story here...

My wife never wears dresses or skirts, yet I do everyday she wears makeup only on occasion, which is the same for me save a bit of mascara for work almost daily. I keep my toes painted full time, yet she's on and off with that. I have femme coats, she wears dude ones hahaha
I have girly socks, she has dude socks. I collect dolls and do the sewing and she's collecting tools etc.. She doesn't want to BE a guy, but has always leaned towards guy stuff more than femme and here's me, usually cooking in a skirt and playing floofy stuff heehee

So um yeaaah, I've been told I'm the biggest girl in the house by both of my kids and the wife also

[Anna]

Hmm, so the upshot is, girls want to wear mens clothes, and we men want to wear girls clothes. Seems like a fair exchange to me! LOL