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Well girls, it’s been a while since I posted or replied but sometimes life gets in the way. While I have been having femme time everyday to one degree or another, Finding time to visit with all of my girlfriends here on the forum has been more and more difficult. I can safely say, “I sure have missed you all”. This may be a bit of a ramble so forgive me in advance, but there is so much catching up to do.
Mama Bear, (MB) has been such a dream come true. We have been shopping together for clothes, cosmetics, lingerie, and just plain “stuff” over the last month, both in the stores and online. We’ve picked up some capri’s, several tops, and some really nice cami’s. I’m still looking for some satin-y nighties but haven’t really seen anything that I just couldn’t live without. All in good time. I did buy three pairs of all over lace cheeky panties from Avenue and they are absolutely wonderful. They are now three of my favorites. Coral, Royal Blue and “Holy Crap” Red. MB has also been helping me with a lot of fashion tips. (That top doesn’t go with that skirt, try this one, or Here, try this necklace. It works better with that color top.) She has also been helping me pick out my own make-up. Not a lot, mind you but mine just the same; some powder blush and a great brush for it,(it was an $11.00 brush but she said "I'll only buy you good stuff for you to have." WOW), some mascara, some lipstick, some eye shadow and some nail polish. I’m looking into getting some O.P.I nail laquer. (Thanks Kimmie). I have a GG who cuts my hair and she can get it for me at cost. That’s plenty for me for now. I don’t go out dressed except outside the house, but I find that those occasions are becoming more frequent whenever our son and d-in-law and kids aren’t around, (usually Sunday afternoons and evenings and every other Tuesday night when they go to their bible study). That’s when Ashley gets to really enjoy her femme time to it’s fullest. (There is some talk of them going to Florida for ten days at the end of July. Boy, I can’t wait for that.) I’ve been doing MB’s nails for her since Mother’s day and she loves the pampering time we spend together. In turn, she does my nails and keeps my cuticles in good shape. (For a machinist).
Here is one dilemma I have encountered though. MB has taken to calling me “Jane” (long story.) My dilemma is this...Do I change my forum name to Jane, or keep it as Ashley Rose??? While I love Ashley Rose, I have also come to love Jane as it brings a heightened level of acceptance from MB. (You all remember our favorite “Forum Mantra”, don’t you??? BABY STEPS ... REMEMBER ... BABY STEPS!!!) Also, I don’t know what the appropriate protocol is for such a thing. Is it allowed to happen, this changing of femme identity. (A little help from the admin. Staff on this one, if you please.) I also don’t want to screw up those relationships I have developed with some of my closer girlfriends , (Like those on the chat, and you all know who you are.) Give me some feedback girls and feel free to call me Jane if you choose to. I am liking it more everyday. She knows of the forum but not Ashley, as I really never saw a need to tell her. She has no interest in coming onboard so it became a moot point to me. Maybe sometime in the future, who knows.
I’ve been going to church in cami’s and thigh highs and lace panties under my “dude clothes” to no objections. She just can’t understand the thigh highs in the hot weather, but I told her that I just love the feel under my jeans. She says, “What ever makes you happy, Jane.” I also haven't worn a pair of "Dude Briefs" in well over a month, even to the V.A. Clinic for my bi-weekly visit for my "hiney-shot" and all of the girls at the clinic know of my toe-nail polish. I change it every time I go just for them. They love it. She also tells me that I’m such a girl, and how now it takes me longer to get ready to go ANYWHERE than it takes her now. I just tell her that we apparently have slipped into that parallel universe thing, and we both just laugh.
Well ladies, that just about gets me caught up to some extent. Help a girl out with some feedback here. I look forward to your comments. I’ll post again soon. Hugs to all.

Why did she start calling you Jane?

If it was just off the top of her head, and she has no attachment for it, then ask her to call you Ashley, if you like it more than Jane.

She'll may ask why Ashley. So, why Ashley?

Ashley wrote

Do I change my forum name to Jane, or keep it as Ashley Rose???

PM a request to SilverLady if you decide to change your name on here and she will handle it. Like Donna, I think I would like to hear the story of why the name of Jane, but if it is to personal I guess we will have to guess.

As far as your friends on here remembering you, if you mention MB we will know lol.

It sounds like you and Momma Bear have really been enjoying yourselves and each other.

Leeza

Ashley - your comments about Mama Bear brought a tear to my eye - it was lovely to hear that she is so accepting and able to help you explore yourself in such a healthy way. Thank you for sharing that with us.

Hugs Ginny x (x and that one is for mama Bear! )

OK, so for the inquiring minds out there concerning “Jane”, here’s the deal. MB and I have been getting clothing catalogues in the mail and doing some window shopping and some real shopping too. One day at work, we were on the phone and she announced that we received another catalogue and we could look that evening to see if there was anything cute that we liked. After a few minutes she says, “Hey, maybe we’ll get one with some costumes.” . I said that would maybe be fun and she says, “Yeah, but this time I want to be Tarzan”, to which I reply, “Cool, I get to be Jane.”. Well ever since then, I have become Jane to MB, and she says it with such love in her voice. There is absolutely no mocking or malice in her tone when she says it. It’s just as if she was saying Hey Hon, or Hey Baby, or any other term of love and affection. I’m sure we all have those special names for each other,( Like Mama Bear for her and Papa Bear for me) only now I have become Jane, and I love it. It’s as if she has come to terms with the girl I am and has attached an identity to “her”. While I love Ashley, it has no special significance to me except that I like the name a lot. But Jane has become a real person with a real identity. We have developed a closeness that we didn’t seem to have before. I have become more aware of her needs since I came out to her and attend to those needs much more now than I ever did before, not that I ever neglected her before. I just seem to be more in tune with her since I have been looking through my feminine eyes, and I look through those eyes all the time now. When my smart phone sends an e-mail alert, my usual response is, “Oh boy, something is on sale somewhere”, and we both laugh. I love being her husband and would never trade that for anything, even Jane, but i love the girl kind or relationship we have developed over the last few months. It’s so special to me and to MB also. So there you have it, ladies. That’s my story, and I’m sticking to it. I love you girls and look forward to hearing from you on this subject. TTFN. Hugs.

Maybe you could add "Jane" to your current name - something like "Ashley Jane Rose".

I love it. It is so rare to have that knod of relationship. Treasure it as I know you do.

Leeza

After all I have read about other SO's you can be sure I do...every day...every hour...every minute. Thx for the encouragement and support. You gals rock hard. Hugs to all.

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