out to dinner with gf

[Bobby]

i was underdressed with tennis shoes jeans and stockings. the woman in the both across from us could see my nylon covered ankle and anklet. she spent the whole time giving me dirty looks. whats going to happen if i wear my open toed sandels with painted nails and stockings? i'm so sad.

[Carol Ann]

Me I don't pay attention except when I am called out, far and few between

[AJ West]

Carol Ann has good advice. There's always going to be someone who won't or doesn't understand. Unfortunatley, when they are faced with that they tend to point, stare and laugh. Mostly childlike behavior.
You'll be fine.

[Majella St. Gerard]

I go out dressed all the time, either in a mix or full femme, I never wear a wig and only a little make up. Do people look? Sure they do, I'm a man in a skirt, I expect it. If someone has a problem with it, than that is their problem not mine. As long as they don't lay a hand on me, and if they do, well I am still a man and I'll fight for my right. Some people were not taught manners by their mothers, what can you do? Just smile and wave. Don't be discouraged, get out there and hold your head high.

[Anthony Simon]

... she spent the whole time giving me dirty looks...i'm so sad.

I had years of a variant of this from my mother when I was a child and it's awful. The result is I've also had decades of thinking about it. In the end I've come to the conclusion that it's just a load of old rubbish.

This is because there's something about the way it was done that says to me "lying bastard". Like there's something about the viciousness of it that says this is not something that comes from any sort of moral place, but somewhere much less reputable.

And that perception carries on whenever I occasionally get it in the outside world. These are not moral, decent people.

[Ralitsa]

I agree with you Anthony, this behaviour is not characteristic of moral and decent people. My ex is a good example of that. While she puts great effort into the her public appearance of being ultra-religious and pretty much more riteous than anyone, she is completely dishonest. Enough about that though.......

I find it hilarious that the woman at the other table was giving you dirty looks when you were at dinner with your gf. If your gf doesn't care what you're wearing, then why would she think that her making of faces means anything at all? That is just so inappropriately interjecting herself into a relationship which is not her concern at all, that it is laughable. Perhaps she didn't approve of your menu choice either.
This sort of silliness amuses me. Unfortunately they never understand how silly they are, and if enough of them gang up they can be despotic. The label of terrorist gets overused quite a lot now, but in certain instances I think it can be applied here.

I've had plenty of people ask me about it, and talk to me. Almost always it's from curiosity, sometimes idle and sometimes genuine, but nevertheless benign. On a few rare occasions some people have been obnoxious, but others who were present took them out. Sometimes people think it's really funny and act rather immature about it, and that's annoying but not damaging. As Majella says, I expect it, after all it is not a typical sight and it's normal for attention to be drawn to something unusual.