new experience....

[Claire]

Hey girls
not been on for a few days so just trying to catch up. My SO has became more and more curious as to what i want to do with my femme side. the other night she proposed i dress up all business like, asked me wear her knee length black skirt, white blouse, black thong black short waist jacket and 15 denier brown tights very silky smooth.... she said before i do this i HAD to shave my legs, which i did she then took out her makeup case and done my eyeliner, eye shadow, mascara, foundation, tweezed my eyebrows, and done my lip gloss bright red. also painted my toe nails and put false nails on my fingers and painted them too.... she made me take my jewellery off and wear some of hers to make it more realistc, to top it off i had on her black high heels on and her perfume.

I felt so good i was on cloud nine, my SO said she loved how i looked and it turned her on, now she said she is more accepting of the way i dress on occasion but if i am to do it then i had to do it properly, she also said that she would like to have more girlie nights in with me painting my nails etc which i think is a huge step forward in our relationship....

has anyone else had this support..??

just thought i would share one of the most fantastic nights i have ever had with my SO apart from the day i propsed to her

love and peace yall

claire
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[SharonRose]

Claire,

It sounds like you have a very special and undertanding SO.

My girlfriend is accepting and supportive too. She helps me pick out items when we go shopping together. So far its just been accesories when I was en drab. I hope to go out shopping for her while en femme sometime, but I'm not sure if she is ready for that yet.

Sharon Rose

[Virginia]

Alright Clair!!! way to go! Your adventure just raises a question, seriously, since you inferred that your SO knew you were a CD, but evidently had never seen you dressed, is there any possibility that she did this to see if she could embarrass you into stopping? If that is not the case and she honestly likes what she sees - have you got it made!!!!!! Just like sisters, going out to eat, shopping, travelling how wonderful! My SO claims to accept my dressing but she does not want to meet Deborah. I am beginning to think that she can not believe that I could look as good as I do or possibly that I could look better than she does - which would be a challenge as she is a real knock-out.
Now one last point and I hope it does not upset you, but next time you dress, look in the mirror, I mean look in the mirror and ask yourself:" Who do I see?" Is it a guy in a dress? or do you see Clair, a pretty girl that wants to be an emotional part of you? It could be a wonderful step on this "Magical Mystery Tour!"
Love ya.
Deborah

[Loretta Ann]

Hi Sis.

I wonder have you thought of the possibility that you wife may not want to see Deborah because she fears that you might indeed look better? Just a thought.

Hi Claire,

Lucky Girl !!!

[Claire]

thanks for the thoughts and the encouragement.

Hey deborah, I did look in a mirror, I saw a gorgeous young lady who is named claire, who is kinda shy, very feminine in how she looks, walks, acts and thinks, it is like when I am dressed as a guy i am craig, who does all the masculine things, when i am dressed I AM CLAIRE and there is no two ways about it she is a part of me and thats what i love about myself and doing this. it kinda sets me free and apart from all those people who have not yet discovered thereselves yet if that makes sense. As i write this my SO is sleeping, she left me out a pair of her tight underwear to wear this morning as well as her tights, and a pair of tight jeans so that shecan look at my butt, i know we are bi-sexual but she kinda likes ogeling me wearing her clothes.

To answer your question, she had seen me dressed before just not with all the makeup and shaved legs etc. she genuinely did like what she saw and found it a big turn on, she loves the fact that she can do my nails, sit and have feminine talks, she likes me sitting with her in her night dress and painting my nails and doing face masks tgether. Girl I am sooooo happy i cant even begin to tell you how much she means to me. she said she has never been with a woman properly but when she runs her hands over me when i dressed she starts to see what it is like, not sure wether that was a compliment but thats how i am taking it, any more thoughts would be appreciated.

I am sure that your SO will become more accepting in time and i am sure that all the thigns u want to do with her will become a relity. my SO does not want to call me claire yet and I have not really broched the subject i figure its just one day at a time and when she is ready she will try it. her motto is you have to try everything once and if u dont like it then at least you have tried it.

I am the luckiest, depeding on the time of day, guy or GIRL on gods green beutiful earth.

peace yall

Claire
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[Beauty]

Hi Claire,

My wife didn't do the things your wife did. Meaning, she didn't say, "Let me dress you up, pluck your eyebrows, put makeup on you, and paint your nails." I had to introduce things slowly to her and then she got to the point where she was like, "You're going to wear that? I don't think so." Then she went out and purchased clothes for me and helped me with my makeup.

I think my femme personality is more in line with a tomboy who people say is pretty. Meaning I like to be femme, but I'm a lot like a tomboy because I like sports, gaming and other male kinds of things. I said that because I had debated about pierced ears (now it's a go when I can plan it ok), I'm still kind of hesitant with the whole nails thing though.

I would say that I now have a wife who is similar to yours with aiding and talking about girl talk. She really doesn't leave the house without me ok'ing what she's wearing. CD eye for the straight guy, I guess.

One word of caution. SO's do really get into this, but they can also think about the man they met. They can remember the first time they saw you and fell in love. For most of us that moment was when they saw you dressed as a man, not a gal. So she could experience some feelings of regret. The fact that she's not ready to call you Claire yet kind of indicates that.

Also, like you Claire, my wife is attracted to my femme side too. I think this is a bonus.

I hope I didn't sound negative or anything. I truly believe you are very fortunate to have found a love who accepts you and promotes you being you. She's awesome!!!

Beauty

[Virginia]

Thanks Claire, I guess you and I are at the same stage. The feminine aspect is a stable part of our personna. It does not dominate us but contributes greatly to our overall character. I don't know if my wife will every allow Deborah to be in the same room with her, but I can live with that. My wife is, how can I say this, so much a woman, I guess it is difficult for her to accept "the other woman." Anyway congratuations on your achievements and I can only see the best for you and your SO.
Love,
Deborah

[Virginia]

Beauty, Honey, you may be required to get a license if the state found out that you are a practicing psychologist! You may have hit up on my wife's "problem" with Deborah. In out last family counselling session she brought up what I was wearing, what I looked like and how I acted the first time we met. Burned into her memory it was! And now to think she might have to deal with another woman in the house - she is stressed in "meeting her husbands needs" and having this image of "what is was "or is" suppose to be like! I will have to study this more. Thanks for bringing this up.
Love,
Deborah

[Jennifer]

Hi Claire,

You are certainly heading for a relationship that is second to none. My wife was not as quick to understand and accept my feminine side but once she did she was a huge help as I discovered myself. When we shopped she talked me into things that suited me where if I'd been on my own I'd have bought things way too young for me (assuming I would have ventured out without her). Had it not been for her I am sure I'd have never left the house.
So my question is......Do you think she'll want to take you out?

Jenn

[Geena]

Hi Claire, It`s so wonderful to hear how well your SO accepts your fem side. Alot of SOs, want nothing to do with this part of us. My SO, of 7 years, was very accepting, and supportive too. But, I made quite a few mistakes, that cost us our relationship, or a period of seperation. I spent too much time in girl mode, I wasn`t showing her enough attention, We just drifted apart, and became room mates, instead of partners. I did`nt see what was happening untill she moved out last week. Now, we`re trying to work things out, and hopfully... mend what was broken. I don`t type this to bring anyone down, or anything like that. But as a reminder, of how easy it is to get so into this side of us that we neglect the very person who gives us the love and support that we need.


Hugzzz,
Geena

[Claire]

I can see what everyone is saying especially geena btw i am so sorry to hear about what has happened and i hope it all works out for you.

I dont spend an awful lot of time dressed en femme as it were, but i do during the day wear girls jeans nice tight ones as my SO likes them, maybe a baggy t-shirt pants and a bra if the need takes me. my SO is o.k about that and if I look too girlie she always tells me that the look will either be very noticeable or i will get commented on which she does not want when we are out. which is all in all a fair comment, i am not sure that i will ever have my SO say she wants to go out with me dressed en femme as it is only her that knows totally. and she is not wanting anyone else to know yet although she is totally accepting of what i do and when i dont wear womens clothes i still use mascara and eyeliner and maybe from time to time a neutral coloured lip gloss which she is also fine with as she says it really brings out the colour in my eyes which is good.

as i dont spend alot of time fully en femme it is great when she helps me choose an outfit and then do me over from top to toe making sure everything looks just right for me. it does not really matter what i say to her she is totally accepting with me in all areas of my life and my family and anything which i want to try. her motto is as long as it is not hurting anyone else then where is the harm as i kinda like it. which i have no argument with.

anyway i gotta go do my makeup and choose what i am wearing this afternoon, am in man mode but she still want to have a touch of the feminine in which i have i come to accept and love

peace and love girls
Claire
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[Virginia]

Geena,
So sorry to hear about your "bump in the road" with your SO. If your sisters here can do anything to help, just ask! Perhaps, is she had not, she couild be directed here and read some of the posts?? We all wish you the best and hang in there.
Love,
Deborah