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So it came about that my wife was going away for a few days to take care of some business with family. While she has seen me dressed on many occasions and for the most part is ok with it I'm just more comfortable with things if I get "crazy" with it while she isn't around. I went to work on Friday morning and by the time I got home at lunch time she was gone. I had worked to clear my schedule so I could spend the next few days just dressing and enjoying myself.

My time was planned women's jeans and t shirt and do some work in the garden then switch to a dress for the evening and so on for the weekend. The first thing that happened was no sooner was I dressed and ready to eat lunch when I got call my son and his family were dropping by on their way through town. So the switch back to male mode happened. They didn't stay long but I got to see my month old grandson. Then back to the feminine things and enjoying my day. Worked outside, then changed into a bathing suit, I got one, my first which I hadn't worn yet, and went out to the hot tub. Didn't wear my forms as I am not sure the silicone and the hot tub would mix. The after that into some pantyhose and a dress with bra and forms. Nice evening watching movies on nerflix then off to bed in my pink and blue satin night gown.

Had a call early Saturday morning and had to go drab to do some work for a couple of hours then home shower shave and put on makeup in bra and panties. The parents call and I had to go help them out for about an hour so no sooner had I gotten the makeup on than it had to all come off. When I got home it was lunchtime so I ate before reapplying the makeup. Put a nice floral print dress and cleaned the kitchen and then went and got out all my Sarah things and went through them. I don't have a lot as compared to others but I have some things that I never wear and things that fit right so I am going to donate them to goodwill next time I go the "city". It was really fun because well I had to try on this and that to check and see if it fit or if I wanted to keep it and I liked posing in front of the mirror as long as I didn't spend to my time looking at my face. One thing I did notice was that my I hate my arms and shoulders when dressed, what can one do with broad shoulders and hairy arms. I do think I need to get some bracelets and things which I don't have as it might do something for my arms. I also think I need to stick to long sleeves maybe I don't know.

Spent the evening in a skirt and a top curled up in my chair watching a movie and reading. Then off to bed. Woke up Sunday morning and was anxious to get my day going so shaved and was getting ready to do my makeup when the doorbell dings. What the heck Sunday morning before 8 and someone at the door. I rush around getting into something I can answer the door in, it rings again and yet again and so I get presentable and get to the door no one is there. I go on out front and lookup up and down the street and no one around. So off I got, I did manage to get my makeup done and get into my dress the door bell starts in again, this time I just say to heck with it and sit down in the bedroom and wait, sure enough after a few minutes the doorbell goes off again but I just ignore it. After about half an hour with more from the doorbell I go on with fixing breakfast The rest of the morning was nice, just enjoying the feeling the dress moving across my legs as I moved about the, the feeling of the weight of the forms in my bra. I do think I'm going to look for a new wig though.

Well this got kind of long even after I pared it down a lot but just wanted to share, it was a really nice weekend even with all the interruptions.

And I bet no one has admitted dropping by Sunday morning, have they!?

Maybe it was a poltergeist, determined to wind you up because you were a CD.

That is the huge problem with being largely in the closet. As for large hairy arms...nair or neet to get rid of the hair. I do not have hairy arms, many men don't who if you got rid of the hair you would not be crossing any gender lines. You should go on amazon and order "The Lazy Crossdresser" by Charles Anders. This book is light-hearted but very practical and gives a wealth of information from make up to dressing for your body type. With arms and shoulders it is recommended yeah...sleeves, cap sleeves, flutter sleeves but never bare shoulders if that is a problem.

I do not know where you are in your life...worries about keeping a job/career and therefore feeling the need to keep your femm self hidden, meaning having to stay out of sight if there is a chance a friend or work associate could run into you and spread it all over town - our worst fear right? And wanting family or anybody to know...but hey this is who you are right? And you will be this way your entire life....right again!? If this is who you are how can you be expected to spend your entire life dodging into the closet to change at lightning speed, and using only make up which can be quickly removed with a wash cloth.

I would suggest you consider widening your inner circle beyond just your wife...if she is ok with it. I call it my radar...you have to develop your radar or use your sense about people you know and truly trust and have known long enough and been with enough to learn ....do they seem to be very open minded, accepting, laid-back? What are their attitudes when the topic of homosexuals or transgenders comes up...if they say things which reveal "a live and let live" or more accepting and diverse attitude of these topics there is probably a very good bet you could broach the topic with them. Or are they very traditional, set in their ways or serious about religious beliefs - those are warning signs that they would probably not be open or accepting at all and that you should not disclose your femm side to them.

Hey it's your home! Shouldn't you be free to be who you are in your own home?

If you are able to broaden your inner circle of people in your life who know then when they come over you needn't run and hide or duck into the bedroom for a fast change anymore. Just go to the door and let them in.

After that you can consider if a stranger comes to the door ... how much confidence do you have about who you are as a person. If you know who you are and are confident...most strangers are in no position to judge you when they are coming to your home. I have been dressed when a medical supply person has come to change a bed or an oxygen tank for my wife...they said nothing, did not react at all...I signed the receipts and they went on their way without a hitch.

I mean aren't you extremely tired of having to change every single time!? Why shouldn't family know. I have told a pragmatic sister, the other is older and more traditional so I did not tell her and plan not too, as far as I know the younger sister has kept my confidence and understands why.

In my case it all became so irritating that I started to widen my inner circle of people who know and around whom I can dress openly with no judgement at all...we just carry on as usual.

Well, just a suggestion, Anne

Sounds as if you had a wonderful weekend, even with the interruptions Sarah Beth.