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A couple weeks ago you will probably all remember that I told about meeting some ladies, one of whom is a Mary Kay consultant, at a restaurant in Janesville WI. Well today I was at a restaurant in Bismarck ND, which is also a mexican place like in Janesville. I'd ordered a margarita, and after a long time it still hadn't come. Then the lady at the next table over came over and said hi, asked if I wanted a margarita and told me they had a pitcher of it they wouldn't drink all of, and a spare glass! Well of course, I accepted that offer!!!! She then told me I looked gorgeous, and that she loved my hat

I'm sure the mexican restaurant connection is just a wild coincidence. But of course I'm thrilled about the compliment, and the free drink So it just shows that there are nice people everywhere!

That was nice gesture on the part of the folks at the next table. It would make one feel good.

Just curious though did they ever show up with the one you ordered? It doesn't sound like a place I would go back to given the service.

Ralitsa,

What a special time that must have been. It is so wonderful to hear stories about nice people, no matter what the circumstances. There is hope.

Rikki

that's a really good point Sarah Beth, they never did show up with the one I ordered but they did charge me for it...... and since I'm a wuss I just paid it. But you're right, I probably will never go back there.

You may not go back to the Bismarck, however with your good fortune at two Mexican restaurants, will you be going to more?

Great to hearing that you are experiencing good time Ralitsa.

Many times a waitress will put in a drink order and assume it was delivered by someone else. It happens rarely and should not be taken as a personal offense.
I enjoy Mexican food also, and the margaritas.

It seems the other lady wanted to open a conversation. Nobody gives away free drinks without wanting something in return. She might have wanted to know more about you without embarrassing you. A spare glass? Definitely she wanted to have a chat. Too many of you gals still think with a man's brain.

Eileen

Oh Eileen, that's hitting below the belt

Carol Ann,
After over 40 years experience, nobody offers a drink without something expected in return. Men come on to me, and sometimes women, even when my husband is right there! Having never been a CD myself, I'll assume that this lady just wanted a conversation.
Certainly I could be wrong, but you all didn't grow up as female and may miss obvious attempts to make a connection.

Ralista doesn't mention how many people at each table. Given the fact that margaritas were flowing, it could have been a very interesting evening.

Eileen

I think you are very likely right Eileen, this probably was the opening for a conversation. She was there with a guy, I presume to be her husband, and I was alone. Where does a spare glass come from??? Yeah, it seems like it was NOT a coincidence. But I'm lame and didn't know what to say so I sat there like a fool.
As far as being charged for the drink, I ordered it from the kid who seated me and I never did have any confidence that he understood what I asked for; and the waitress likely saw the glass and just made sure it was accounted for on the bill. Maybe I could have argued it - if I weren't lame.
So you suggest that we think with a man's brain - that is not wrong, but I think misses the point.
I, at least (and probably others), lack the experience for dealing adequately with that situation. First (though I pretend the complete opposite) it is very intimidating to be out in public and be crossdressed. Second, until I've talked to the other person for a while I really never know what the deal is. And strangely enough it is more scary to talk with women, because you feel like you will be rejected by them, than it is to talk with guys whom you have essentially already rejected yourself. I don't mind telling some guy to piss up a chain and miss every other link, but I could never argue with a woman. And that means that I'm going to try to be friendly but not to be presumptious and you could say, will not speak until spoken to.
I don't know, maybe I will go back there. The food was good, and I like good food. Maybe I shouldn't hold a slight misunderstanding against them when the fault was 9/10th mine.........

Eileen (SO) wrote:Many times a waitress will put in a drink order and assume it was delivered by someone else. It happens rarely and should not be taken as a personal offense.

I also was shorted my drink - and some food at a Mexican Restaurant in a town 50 miles from where I live. The food was good (of what I got) the drinks were non-existent (except the water) and the service was poor. I never went back. It didn't stay in business long because they pulled this on a lot of people.

Perhaps it is a culture clash, but if one is in a service business, bad service is bad business.

Ralitsa wrote: And strangely enough it is more scary to talk with women, because you feel like you will be rejected by them,

You'll find that women are much more accepting of a Cd than men are, except if she's a spouse or bf.
The times I've been on outings with my guy dressed and girlfriends, curious strangers that introduce themselves are most likely other women.

Being by yourself in public, unless very experienced, must have been nerve wracking by itself. Don't fault yourself, learn from this experience and move on.

By intuition or experience, most women would have noticed the 'extra glass' right off. That's the woman way of thinking.

This subject is close to the 'passing or just ignored' topic. You were ignored or passed by most of the wait staff and other patrons. One lady was curious enough to engage. Good for you!

Eileen

Real courage is acknowledging being afraid and proceeding anyway. By that standard, Ralitsa, you have more than earned the respect of everyone on this sight. It's been years since I've been out crossdressed, but I remember well how intimidating it can be.

For one moment there I thought you were coming out as having dressed as a Mexican.

Hi Ralitsa,

So you paid for a drink you didn't get, but then got one you didn't pay for. So if I read your story correctly, you are "even Steven" as far as the money end of it is concerned.

Since I wasn't at the restaurant in person, I would have to question where the mysterious "extra empty glass" came from. I'm just wondering if maybe the woman who offered it to you got the wait-person to give it to her and then told the wait-person to cancel your original drink order. Is that possible?

Oh well, I guess the "Sherlock Holmes" in me is working overtime! Interesting story, however.

thanks for sharing
Deb

Ralitsa wrote:I don't know, maybe I will go back there. The food was good, and I like good food. Maybe I shouldn't hold a slight misunderstanding against them when the fault was 9/10th mine.........

I think you should go back... I'm sure if you told them that you didn't get the drink, they would have taken care of it right away. I find that most places want to make sure you are a satisfied customer. However, I can totally understand not saying anything about it. Even in guy mode, I try to avoid conflict - if I had the same self confidence to go out dressed, I probably would not have said a word about it either.

However... it does sound like it was a nice night out! Nice of the couple at the other table to share a margarita with you whether by coincidence or not. Good for you, Ralitsa!!!