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While my wife was away last weekend, I took an overnight trip to attend a TG support group meeting in a nearby city and to spend the following day en femme.

After the meeting, two girls and I drove to a gay bar for drinks. As I left, a cute black girl at the bar remarked, “You are very good! Sooo realistic!” Assuming that she was a transvestite familiar with the drag scene, I appreciated her compliment. Back at the motel, I took the pictures shown here – one with a self-timer, and the other looking into a mirror.



On Sunday morning I ate breakfast at a restaurant and returned to the Unitarian-Universalist church where the meeting had been held. Arriving early, I was invited to sit and converse with two other women. I met another woman during the service, and I was warmly greeted by several men and women afterwards.



Before checking out of the motel, I changed into my medium-length denim skirt and olive top. Through the day I interacted with sales women at several stores and waitresses at lunch and dinner. Men were friendly and helpful. I bought necklaces at an antique mall, shopped at a supermarket, and saw a movie. Everyone treated me very warmly as a woman.

If anyone suspected I was transgender, they didn’t seem to care. Perhaps they liked my positive energy. I thoroughly enjoyed myself every minute.

The post is upbeat, and I like the pictures. I hope that you and your wife are finding a way to make this all work.

Hi Maggie,
Very lovely pics, I wish I looked as good as you. And it sounds like you had a geat time and I hope you have many more.

Hugs,
Danette

Maggie, honey, I love it!!!!! I am soooooooo happy that you have found yourself so to speak!!!! Your pictures are so good, they show a beautiful woman, confident and happy with herself! Talk about keeping the faith!!!!! You have got to be happy with yourself and I know how you have struggled, now just don' t look back and keep on keeping on!
I am so proud of you and what you have overcome and accomplished. You are not only a true woman, but you are a perfect ambassador for us and you do make all of us proud to have you in our lives and on this forum. (Did I blow enough sunshine up your skirt??) Honey, it is well deserved!!!!
Proud of you, girlfirend!!!!
Virginia

Maggie sweetheart,
I can only agree with Virginia you do us proud.
Have followed your post from the beginning when you first came here,
your fight with yourself as to who you are and what you want. Long road girl but I do believe you have found yourself. Oh by the way wonderful pictures, I love your legs. Carol Ann

Hi Maggie!

It's wonderful that others treated you with respect in public places. Looking in the mirror and seeing who you really are can be challenging. Your photos show a reflection of self-confidence and pride in being Maggie.

Maria

Maria wrote:Hi Maggie!

It's wonderful that others treated you with respect in public places. Looking in the mirror and seeing who you really are can be challenging. Your photos show a reflection of self-confidence and pride in being Maggie.

Maria

I have no objective way of knowing which people, if any, respected me as trangender and which people, if any, simply accepted me a genuine woman. Over the past three years I have been refining my appearance, voice, movement, etc., to the point where I have been told by numerous people that I am totally passable, and I have been able to fool even people who know me as a male. So it's possible that at least some of the people mistook me for a GG.

While it is gratifying to be a convincing woman, I would prefer a situation in which people accepted and respected me and other TGs as individuals, regardless of how well we "passed." I would expect such acceptance in a Unitarian-Universalist church like the one I visited, because it advertises itself as a "welcoming congregation" with respect to GLBT's. So the people there could have acted warmly regardless of whether I "passed." But I received the same respect from members of the general public also. This makes me wonder whether the public is becoming more accepting of transgenderism (which I hope) or whether they simply assumed that I was female.

Yes, I am very proud and self-confident to be Maggie, and I love seeing myself in mirrors. During my trip, I went around a furniture store with a sales woman on the pretext that I was looking for a mirror to put on the wall of my foyer. This enabled me to have an extended woman-to-woman conversation while admiring myself in the mirrors.

It was sad when I had to return to my male persona.

you look fantastic maggie and your attitude is a great example, Thank you for sharing.

Wow, Maggie - - you look absolutely awesome!! Your happiness and confidence in yourself comes through in the photos, and combine those with the great night and day en femme - well, I think you're just going to have to do that more often!!

Thank you for sharing the news of your outings and your photos, Maggie - I look forward to hearing about future outings, too!



- SL

Hi Maggie-

But I received the same respect from members of the general public also. This makes me wonder whether the public is becoming more accepting of transgenderism (which I hope) or whether they simply assumed that I was female.

It's an interesting point, whether they're more accepting of transgender.
I get respect out there, when I'm shopping and socializing. My guess at this point in time is that I earn it as an individual TG. I don't think that people are necessarily becoming more accepting of TGs in general. BUT...TG gals that do a good job of presenting are accepted "on the spot," so to speak.

I think that you, Maggie, get some mileage out of passing as female, too. For me, that very rarely happens. Of course, I have no way of really knowing. I'd like to think there are nights where I come off as just a very tall and low-voiced woman, but I never know for sure.

Yes, I am very proud and self-confident to be Maggie, and I love seeing myself in mirrors. During my trip, I went around a furniture store with a sales woman on the pretext that I was looking for a mirror to put on the wall of my foyer. This enabled me to have an extended woman-to-woman conversation while admiring myself in the mirrors.

Now that's great! When I wore a wig, I needed to keep checking mirrors just so I could know that it wasn't riding too high or low. I still like mirrors, even now, just as reinforcement. I have a certain image of myself in mind as I walk along, but the reality of my appearance is still very dramatic and startling to me sometimes, when I catch a glimpse in a storefront window. Ah, vanity.

It was sad when I had to return to my male persona.

Somehow I thought that it would be that way for you, on this particular trip.
Can be very hard to deal with that feeling. I haven't had it for a while, but remember it well. It's for that reason I don't schedule any femme activities where I will have to "change back" on the same day.

As Silverlady says: "I think you're just going to have to do that more often!" I hope that you can find a way to do just that.

I'm glad you had a great time!

You are SO passable. I wouldn't be able to tell if you didn't say anything.

Kaeri wrote:You are SO passable. I wouldn't be able to tell if you didn't say anything.

That's what I thought when I first looked at the pics you look so convincing girl. Glad you had such a great time I wish I had half the confidence you have

Jess

I'm glad you had a good time Maggie.

Looking at your pictures I would have assumed you are a woman.

Absaroka