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I was reading the "How did you choose your Femme Name" Thread and had an intresting thought.

How many of us were thought to have been born a girl?

Count me as the first, my parents had an extremely long scottish based name already to go and surprise they got me.

I did try to come out to my mom, alas it led to 10 years of no conversation with "My boy is wierd." Now we just don't speak of it and life is better.

Answer the question.

Interesting query. My father didn't care, but my mother wanted a girl, and I guess she treated me like one - at least until I was about 4 or 5. After that she discovered my attraction to feminine clothes. When she caught me with her lingerie, she beat me angrily. I ever did figure out what she really thought or her reasons for fearing I would be a homosexual.

The influence of parents on heir children is truly enormous in the early years - and even probably while in he womb.

Willy

Hi all,

I believe my mother was hoping for a girl and my father for anything that could eventually learn to walk on two legs. Good thing my resemblance to an ostrich is limited, I guess.

Love,
CJ

Just wanted to say I read it, but can't comment - It is a long long story,but me and the great American poet Rod McQuen were born into what a lot of people attempt to be all their lives!
Virginia

I asked my Mom what would have been my name if born a girl. She said she never picked one out for me or my 4 brothers. She knew we'd all be boys.

I am the eldest of three boys and it was only with my youngest brother did my mother express a wish for a girl.

We have one of each, My wife said she knew early on in her pregnancy what she was going to have. Especially with my daughter, she said she was a completely different pregnancy to her older brother.

Susan

They had both boy and girls names ready. I don't think they cared. At least I never thought they did, they seemed happy with the way things turned out.

Absaroka

It's kinda strange to think that I would have my sister's name had I been born a girl. My parents knew they wanted 2 kids- a boy and a girl, and that's what they got.

Well my mother thought I was going to be a girl for a long time. As it turned out I was supposed to have a twin. My mother did have a girls name chosen for me. Septima I think I spelled it how she was going to.

My parents never talked to me about my birth or what they wanted.

I think they only saw another mouth to feed, I was one of too many children.

Not only was I supposed to have been born a girl, I was also due on February 29th. My name would have been Nancy but I was a month late and a boy.

I have to take the 5th, but I know my mother wanted a girl. A story I have never shared. Carol Ann

Ummm, yes. My folks were expecting a girl (so was the midwife, based on mom's pregnancy--she was also the landlady) and had Carolynn May picked out (my dad had mis-counted; he should have picked April, but they were wrong by a month or so They were expecting me in January, but I was born in December instead).

As for a male name, (just in case but not serious about it) they thought they could use dad's first name (also my great grandfather's) and another to be determined later if I was born a male. I was born physical gender ambiguous, and it was 4 days before a doc determined I was closest to being a physical male, and made it so (or was that cut and sew?) . Anyway, for better or worse, that was when I began my male social identity. Doctors at the time believed in the blank slate theory of newborn minds, and thought gender was the same as sex orientation and was a matter of how you were raised. It has taken years to prove that concept wrong, and there are still doctors with that "God" complex that assign a gender and do the needed "minor" surgery to make an ambiguous newborn fit their bias.
They need reprogramming!

Bummed out when I think of it. A lifetime of lonliness, guilt, shame, anger, frustration, confusion and pain, all from one man's decision--even though it was the standard medical practice of the time. If any of you are ever in the position of having a kid or grandkid born with ambiguous genitalia, make them leave the kid alone for the first 3-4 years, until it can tell you who it is. Then cut and sew so the kid can be who they know they are in time to start school.
Carolynn

My name (if I was born a girl) is conflinting from one parent to the other. I will believe my mom over my dad as he does not have the greatest of memories. Merinada Shantell (I belive this is the spelling) but I was eventally named after two musians for the first name and middle name.

my mother had my name picked out if i was going to be a girl .and thats why i am named phylis ,that was the name she would have given me.