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My wife has taken the kids and gone to her parents for the week leaving me home alone to work on our new garage and do my job. And so far I have had a good week and more to go.

They left last Friday and were a bit late getting out of here as they were going to be gone by the time I got home. But my wife decided to do a few extra things for me since they were going to be gone. I normally would have been out working on the garage, but stayed in the house and spent some time with them before they left and helpped them to finish getting ready to go. Well by the time they got off my garage work time was limited and I had been thinking of a top I had seen in a recent JCPenny ad. My wife said she would help me find a top for an up coming trip and she said that one might work. We were going to go shopping some time, but we have been so busy lately and no sign of things letting up. So I threw on a cami under my guy shirt and i was off shopping. Well a look through the store and they did not have the shirt anymore, but I took a quick look through the clearance clothes and nothing there either, so I was off. But on the way through the hosier department I caught sight of tights on clearance for .77 cents each. So I got 4 pair and then also seen some microfiber trouser knee socks, so I grab a pair of them also as i like to wear them in guy mode as they are comfy. Well I get up to pay and the clerk says that the trouser socks are $6 for one or $12 for 3 and plus on sale, so I go get two more and spend less than 12 for everything.

Well it is almost time for the mall to close, to I decide to take a quick walk around the mall for some exersize. Well just outside of Pennys in the mall is a shoe store, so I take a quick look as I am looking for some flats also. Well low and be hold looking through the clearance shoes there is a nice pair of black flats, in my size, and they fit nicely. And there is even some brown ones like them right next to the black one and they are cheaper... a clerk comes by and asks if I need help and I enquire about the price difference. She says that the black are usually more. She helps me look for my size in the brown, but no luck. I tell her then I will just take the black ones, and she says they look good on me, and as I take them off she boxes them up for me and we head up front for me to pay.

Well the mall stores are closing up right and left, so i decide to just head back to my vehicle. And upon getting in I decide to change into my new shoes. Well as I get ready to head home I remember that Target just down the road is open for another hour, they may have a top similar to what I am looking for. So off to Target.

Well a quick look through Target and I do not see what I am looking for, so I quickly check through the clearance racks as it is almost closing time. Well I come across some nice tank tops and select two, and then also see a nice cream colored top with a high neck line. I like that but they only have a size 16 or 22 or 24. hummmm I take a 18/20.... so I opt for too big over too small.

Well back home, still wearing my new shoes that are really comfy, I try on the rest of my purchases. I like the cream top, but I am surprised at how big it is on me. I guess I have lost some weight, so maybe the 16 would have worked. I really wish I could try things on in the stores so i would know if it fit in the store. I do try on unisex things, but with the oviously femme clothes, and being that close to home, I will not take a chance of going in or out of the fitting rooms and bumping into someone I know. My wife already thinks I take too many chances. Looking for clothes I can always say they are for my wife... but not if I am trying them on.

I get some smiles from the gals when I am shopping at times, and some looks from the older gals and guys. But I have never had any problems. Some of the gals will even make small talk with me while looking at clothes on the same rack or area.

Well I spend the rest of the night in femme things.

End of night one.

KimberlyS - CD

Now the big question, getting any work done on the garage?

Kimberly

Have fun with your week. I've done stuff like that a few times and it is a very nice experience. Sounds like you are out enough that you don't have to worry about isolation becoming a problem during the week which can be a downside.

please keep us informed-I always enjoy reading folks "vacation journals"

Absaroka

Absaroka, yes it has been a good week so far. And I will continue my account of my week more tonight and throughout the week if there is continued interest in me doing it.... I do not want to bore people.

KimberlyS - CD

Yes Donna I have been getting work done on the garage, read on.

Day two, Saturday morning: I put on a cami bra top and slip in a pair of enhancers and some work jeans, tee shirt and steel toe boots and off to the garage for my self lesson of how to install a garage door 101. And Yes I read the instructions as I have 4 doors to put in so I want the first one to be done right so the rest go faster and easier.

I will not go into the details of the day. I will just say door in. And slso a note to self. Enhancers do not stay put on a hot day with me all sweaty. By 11am I left them in the house. I wrapped up by mid afternoon, then quickly shower and pack two days clothes and head for supper at my inlaws with my family. And spend Sunday and Monday morning there.

Monday afternoon I head back home and decide to make a quick stop at a different Target store to see if they have a different size in the top I had got on Friday night. What luck yes they have a size 18. I get it and head home and spend the rest of the night in my new top with bra and forms, skirt, and my new flats.

I also remember that Tuesday night I have an appointment with my counselor. Something I have thought about in the past was going to an appointment dressed in femme clothes. And I figure now is the best time to do that. And I also decide to do what I want to do and not what I normally do when I go out. I am going to go as a guy in femme clothes. So I decide on a couple of options of things to wear and get them ready for the next day, as my appointment is right after work and I do not have alot of time to change and get there. I also read a pair of jeans to leave the house in as it will still be light when I leave.

So Tuesday I leave work an hour and a half early so I can also pick up some things for work. I think this changes things a bit, but just means I need to keep things toned down more. So I put on my 38NA bra, a cami and a long sleeve tee top. The top is a femme top but very unisex and great to wear in male mode. I alread have panty on, and add a hwpg, knee high trouser socks, pair of femme jeans and my flats. I also gather up flowered top i got on Friday night and my jean skirt, some extra shoes and my purse. I have on No makeup or wig. It is just going to be me as my male self... Then out the door. I stop at the store to get what I need for work, and rats they do not have it. So on to store two. This store has even less options, but has what I need. At either store no one was jumping up and down screaming that I was a guy in femme clothes, even thought they were fairly unisex looking, everything I had on was femme clothes. No one laughing or pointing. In fact I know that I looked male as I was called sir by several working in both stores as they asked if I needed any help with anything. But at the last store I did notice that the gal who was ringing up my things kept looking at my face and I was not sure what she was looking at, then I realized that I had alread put in a pair of smaller dangly earrings and necklace that my wife had given me for last Christmas. Now those were not unisex at all. Oh well.

Next I was off to find a place to change into my skirt and diffent top. Well being well after work now i pulled in to a parking ramp and found a quiet corner out of the way with a good view of any one that would be coming. Well I changed into my jean skirt and slip, but decided to keep my same top on.

So off to my appointment.... I was going to be penty early, but I like that as it gives me time to reflect on what has been going on since our last time together and also time to look back at what I had written in my journal.

I get to office and check in with the gal for my appointment. We make small talk as this is the gal who is usually there when I have a late appointment. She may not be able to see my skirt, but she can see my ear rings and my purse that I pull my check book out of and put my keys into. Then into the waiting room. I was quiet as usually, with just one other gal in there. At first glance she has no reaction. But after sit down and look up at her she has a bit of a confused look, but returns to reading her magazine. I pull out my journal and some of my other papers to review. After about ten minutes, what looks like this gals daughter comes out and the gal goes in. The daughter gives me a quick look over give me a smile and then takes out her cell phone and calls some one. About 15 minutes later another person comes in and sits down. She and I smile at each other, then she starts to read a magazine and I continue my reflection. About 5 minutes later the first gal comes out and then leaves with her daughter. And about another 5 minutes later my counselor comes and retrieves me.

We have the normal chit chat on the way to the office and as we both sit down. Then she take a unusual pause for her.... and then she says "so oviously you are dressed in female clothes tonight"... and our session continues....

My parting comment to my counselor was that I would not be going for my normal wander around the mall in my skirt, that I would be heading right home... And I think to myself.... why have I and so many other cders made such a big deal out of this. I picked a safe location and just did it.

Tonight I spent some more time working on the garage, and then I came in and cleaned up and got ready for bed and put on a nice vintage slip, which is what i have been wearing to bed. And that is where I am going to be heading now.

So for being a femme week for me, this has been nice. Yes I would have liked to have had more time spend in femme clothes, but I am real also and things need to get done... And besides I like being a guy, that is who I am... And I have two more nights to at least sleep in something feminine.... Oh and Friday night I need to do some laundry before the kids get home.... so I will have some more time on Friday. If I have not bored every one by now I will leave an update then.

KimberlyS

Kimberly that was not boring at all. I found a number of things you said very interesting, some of them with a slightly different perspective than I often read.

I have to agree about the forms. There have been times when I was all excited about wearing them for some relatively physical activity and discovered that they didn't work well and got to be very annoying. i chalked this up to the fact that I was using the JC Penney enhancers or the birdseed ones I made by I guess it holds true for all of them to some extent. Basically if it gets my chest sweaty the forms lose their appeal.

Also enjoyed hearing about the unisex look and the various reactions or lack of them to varying degrees of your dressing.

Lots of fun to sleep in a slip and to wake up that way.

Please keep us informed

Absaroka

Very cool Kimberly. Hope the rest of your enfemme time goes as well.

I like hearing about you having fun, Kimberly, and doing some things that are outside the routine. I have not dressed to go see my therapist in quite some time, and I'm glad you got to do it. It puts a different spin on things.

Well here I am Saturday morning and it does not seem like a week has passed. But it has. I spend thrusday night working in my garage wearing a tank/bra top, kinda of like a sports bra, with enhancers in. Quickly in to work I realized I needed something from the hardward store so off I went. Just in case I ran across some one I knew I pulled out my enhancers and put them on the car seat and covered them with a newspaper. I the way home I put them back in and finished my nite. But getting ready for bed I notice black writing on my enhancers. And it does not easily wash off. Opps, NOTE TO SELF: Do not mix silicone enhancers or forms and news print.

Friday night i am walking with a friend, so decide I also better get my lawn mowed which is starting to make good hay in spots. I just have a spandex tank under my exercise things as I mow and then later walk. After that I then go shopping for a birthday present for my wife and also pick up a waxing kit to wax my chest and back. Back home i change in to a femme top and skirt and chat a bit online and check mail and then head to bed in a vintage slip.

I know some of you are thinking I did not get much femme time. And I will agree that it would have been nice to have more. But my ultimate goal is just to find some mix of wearing femme clothes that works for me and my family. As I am just a guy that likes to wear femme clothes at times. I will never be a 24/7 CDer or TS. So the more I can integrate into my daily life the better.

KimberlyS - CD

Sounds like you found the balance that was right for you. Glad you enjoyed it. I enjoyed the description of stuff like mowing the lawn-I find it is fun to do stuff like that en casual femme

Absaroka

Absaroka wrote:Sounds like you found the balance that was right for you.
Absaroka

Absaroka, Yes a balance for me, but I need to also think of my wife and kids, as in what would have happened if I would have been seen out in one of the stores. While it was comfortable for me, the outing safety factor was much higher than it should be. See post: http://crossdressers-haven.com/forums/v ... php?t=6784

So I guess it was not really as balanced as it felt.

KimberlyS-CD

Gwen, Thank you for your response.

I think we all get something we need out of our dressing. You say you are shaking in your flats? I started another thread here:

http://crossdressers-haven.com/forums/v ... php?t=6907

And the question for you and others is: What do you get out of it?

KimberlyS-CD

GwenMarie wrote:I can empathize with so much Kimberly! I go out in the yard and change my sprinklers, take the trash up to the road, I've even check mail (rural mailbox on the side of the highway) in full femme. I'm shaking in my flats when I do, but I have done it this past few months. I'm so waiting for school to start up this fall; my wife goes back to work. Even though she knows, I don't dress when she's on summer break. Gosh the wait is dreadful!

Take Care,
Love Gwen

Hello everyone. I have not posted for a long time - probably since shortly after I first became a member at the request of my husband (KimberlyS).

I have a few thoughts I want to share.

First - I want to thank some of you for helping my husband to become comfortable with himself. Him knowing that he is not the only crossdresser has really helped him. He is much more comfortable with who he is, as you can tell by his post.

Second - Before encouraging someone, have you ever asked a person if what they have done, or are planning on doing, is against any agreed upon boundaries they have made with their spouse? Of those of you who are married, and truly want to stay married, have you ever thought about encouraging each other to keep in check?

Third - I am not blaming your encouragement on any decisions my husband made. He is the one who has made the choices to step over the line that we have made together. Of those of you who are in the same situation as my husband and I, and you blatantly step over the boundaries set in your relationships, why are you then suprised when your spouse says she can't trust you anymore? How do you expect her to keep trusting you?

Someone, please share your answers. I truly believe relationships can overcome a lot of hurt. We can forgive and start again. --- I also believe, however, that it is okay to expect our spouse to not purposely jeopardize the relationsihip.

kaye(so)

Kaye(SO) wrote: Before encouraging someone, have you ever asked a person if what they have done, or are planning on doing, is against any agreed upon boundaries they have made with their spouse? Of those of you who are married, and truly want to stay married, have you ever thought about encouraging each other to keep in check?

Hi Kaye, a search of the forum for the word(s) compromise and compromises will show that many of us often encourage compromise in a relationship.

Some may not believe in compromise.

However, in view of your questions, no, I can't ever remember asking if someone, who has posted about an "accomplishment" they have achieved or is planning on, whether or not they are going further than any agreed upon boundaries.

Note that, IMO, in one aspect, forums like this are intended for support, and thus most of the time we, or at least some of us, respond with kudos, congratulations and support.

As for suggesting someone keep it in check, it usually depends on what the post was about. So, yes, at times some of us do suggest the CD slow down or rethink what they plan and even ask if their wife/SO was OK with something.

Kaye(SO) wrote: I am not blaming your encouragement on any decisions my husband made. He is the one who has made the choices to step over the line that we have made together. Of those of you who are in the same situation as my husband and I, and you blatantly step over the boundaries set in your relationships, why are you then suprised when your spouse says she can't trust you anymore? How do you expect her to keep trusting you?

I reckon trust, once broken, is indeed something that needs to be, and can be, earned again, if one steps over a line that both partners have agreed upon together.

It's important also to differentiate on whether or not there was an actual agreement based on compromise and promises, or was it based on a reaction to an ultimatum.

Kaye I think that is a very good topic you have brought up, really one that should have it's own thread.

THe issue of mutual boundaries is a very important one. Although I don't know that I have expressed it like that here I like to think that I have encouraged the men here to be very respectful of their wives feelings and sensibilities. It is the sort of thing that is very hard to have a good handle on hearing only one persons view and in my opinion one of the reasons that forums like these are not any kind of substitute for f2f interaction with both parties in dealing with couples.

Absaroka