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After not dressing for a couple of weeks, I found this forum Saturday. As I waited for my membership to be approved, I read and Read and READ the posts! Your suggestions, comments and stories got me so inspired and excited that I just had to dress. Unfortunately, my daughter was here this weekend, so that was impossible. She left Sunday evening, so I was finally on my own.

After fixing myself something to eat (I didn't want to be outside barbequing in the daylight in a dress *wink*) and waiting for it to get dark, I finally got dressed. As I'm sitting here typing this, I'm wearing my stockings and garterbelt, black panties and bra, breastforms, tucked as usual, with a spaghetti strapped, knee-lenghted maroon dress and my brunette wig. (Same outfit as my avatar, as it turns out!) No make-up, because it's late and I really don't plan on going any where except the back porch to drink a glass of wine later.

I love the posts about pushing wearing femme clothes on a daily basis! Although I underdress every day, I don't think I could go to work in obviously womens clothes, although my company is so "lawsuit shy" they wouldn't tolerate any discrimination. But, I do see the need to push myself further when I get home, as to changing into a dress or skirt and blouse, high heels, wig and make-up and buying more slacks and jeans, blouses, shoes and such. I think that once I get use to wearing clothes like that "out and about" it will make it easier for me to put on the wigs and make-up and be seen. But by then, I don't think I would even care about the wigs and make-up, except when I wanted to go out in a dress! I guess that's my point, to push myself further and further out of the closet and more and more into the public.

I had another point that I wanted to make, but I don't know if most of you think about it or even want to discuss it, so I'll save that for another post. (It has to do with S... E... X!!! shhhh!)

Thanks for your inspiration! There's a cool breeze and a glass of wine waiting for me on the back porch!

Hugs for now,
Min

Hello Mindy, to the forum.

Hi Mindy and welcome

I enjoyed your post and thought it was cute that reading our stuff made you feel you needed to get dressed. Your outfit sounds lovely by the way.

You talked about pushing things and this is maybe semantics. The idea that we ought to dress more publicly, ought to be more out and so on sometimes seems to unwittingly come across here. But these forums are more about self acceptance. Please do not feel urged to dress any more than you want to or in any situation that is less than comfortable for you. And also don't feel that you need to tell anyone you aren't sure you should tell. These are all very personal choices and who are any of us to tell you what is right for you in these areas.

Absaroka

Thanks for the welcome Donna and Absaroka!

As for your comments Absaroka, may I reply without you thinking that I am attacking you personally?

Absaroka wrote:The idea that we ought to dress more publicly, ought to be more out and so on sometimes seems to unwittingly come across here. Please do not feel urged to dress any more than you want to or in any situation that is less than comfortable for you. And also don't feel that you need to tell anyone you aren't sure you should tell.

You make some very good points here. I can't speak for everyone, but you may have noticed that I said, "need to", not "ought to". No one is pushing me to do anything. So far, not even myself. The more that I explore my feelings and desires, the more I realise how much this is really a part of me. Could I or would I feel the same way I do without putting on a dress or heels or make-up or whatever when I got home or dressing more femme on a daily basis? Of course... I've done just fine so far. But to me, I'll never be anything more than "stuck in the closet" and not the person that I feel like I am inside. I know that the clothes don't make the woman, but if I feel more comfortable in a silk blouse than I do in a cotton shirt, why not wear it? Because I'm afraid of what other people will think or say? I think it's that fear that keeps me from enjoying what I feel I want to do. And that's what I need to "push" myself past. I know that I'm probably my worst enemy in trying to explain this, so I hope that makes sense.

Thanks again for your kind words and for your concern!

Hugs,
Min

Hi Mindy! Welcome to the forum!

HI MIn,
Glad to have you particpating. I look forward to hearing more about and from you.
Virginia

Min I did not in any way feel attacked by your post and I think we are pretty much in agreement.

Sometimes the internet is hard to convey nuances in properly and I was concerned that I might have misunderstood something you were saying in your first post. What was better expressed in your 2nd post was the need to / ought to dichotomy. Ususally when I say I need to do something it is more urgent and is in opposition to want to. The sort of thing we sometimes get into lenghty discussions about here because our needs are different with different members.

Thanks for your response

Absaroka

Mindy Jean wrote:Thanks for the welcome Donna and Absaroka!

As for your comments Absaroka, may I reply without you thinking that I am attacking you personally?

Absaroka wrote:The idea that we ought to dress more publicly, ought to be more out and so on sometimes seems to unwittingly come across here. Please do not feel urged to dress any more than you want to or in any situation that is less than comfortable for you. And also don't feel that you need to tell anyone you aren't sure you should tell.

I know that the clothes don't make the woman, but if I feel more comfortable in a silk blouse than I do in a cotton shirt, why not wear it?

Why not wear a silk shirt? There are some silk shirts for men available from wintersilks.com, and they are fun to wear. I wear them all the time to work, and they feel great.

Aileen. I love Wintersilks. They are so comfortable. I wear them all the time.
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Aileen wrote:Why not wear a silk shirt? There are some silk shirts for men available from wintersilks.com, and they are fun to wear. I wear them all the time to work, and they feel great.

Thanks, Aileen for the comments. Although I work retail, my problem is that I might have to do something that would rip or otherwise make my clothing unwearable. Therefore, why spend $XX.XX on a (ugh) MAN'S silk shirt to wear every day, when I could spend the same money on a blouse that I could wear after work and at least not have to worry about it. The usual dress for the GG's at work is jeans and a blouse. Obviously, they don't want to have to worry about ruining their clothes either. In our work environment, a dress on a girl would raise just as many eyebrows as a silk shirt on a guy.

I think you don't have a realistic idea as to what these shirts look like. They are not fragile. I wear them every day, and they raise no eyebrows. This should give you some idea what they look like.

Aileen
That looks like a looking nice shirt. I could wear that to work without a problem. But, I would have to be careful working in the yard, yes?
Rose