I have a new admirer

[Aileen]

I've been flirting via email with a new admirer of mine, who loves looking at pictures of me in some of my pretty dresses, and I've been sending him some pics of me. It's just harmless flirting, and I don't ever intend to have any contact with him. Despite the fact that I'm not gay, this flirting is kind of a turn-on for me. Anyway, I thought you might enjoy this flirting, despite the fact that posting this is just a lot of bragging on my part:

Admirer: Actually, I've read that one and I enjoyed both the story and the Pics. I would just like to see more of you. you look so wonderful in dresses, I can only Imagine what you look like out of them.

Me: Well, you're going to have to go on imagining, because I'm not taking off my dress and my pantyhose for you.

Admirer: What if I ask Nicely?

Me: Go ahead and try. We'll see if it works.

Admirer: Pretty Please with Sugar on top?

Me: No. But since you're a fan, I'll send you this one extra photo of me in the low-cut brown dress. Hope you like it.

Admirer: Didn't you wear this in the series of stories were you pretended to be your mother? You look fabulous in it either way. I don't know what it is about you. It's almost as if you put hidden layers of code in your stories to hypnotize your readers. I feel mesmerized by your legs. It's like they go on forever. Please stop me if I ever start to get creepy, its just that I think that your the most beautiful woman I have seen in a long time.

Me: More! More! I love it!

Admirer: I've never felt this way about anyone before. I don't know, maybe its your modesty that drives me crazy. Your choice of dresses, conservative but revealing just enough, its playful. I'd even go so far to call you a tease. I see it in your eyes. They're beautiful, by the way. Really Expressive. Even when your pouting, or trying to look upset, there's something shouting out at me, a sort of muted self confidence. That's what I see every time I look into those piercing green eyes of yours.

[Anita]

Hi Aileen--
That kind of writing has to go to your head, (just a little.) When I talk about this subject, my friends from my old life say, "Why would you WANT this kind of attention, anyway?" They have a right to be puzzled. Unless you're a sports celebrity or a rock star, you're never going to experience anything remotely like this as a guy. And you sure aren't going to be getting the attention from MEN. It's uncharted territory for sure.

One reason that I like it and understand it is because I have always been mesmerized by women, so I know the feelings your admirer is experiencing. I feel grateful that I can create an "image" that evokes those same feelings in others. It is quite a powerful thing to be able to give back something that always meant a lot to you!

My own feeling is that our DNA works mainly on visuals--if you see a woman in front of you, you react to her, even if you know she's not "real." I've never seen any contradiction in "straight" guys being attracted to us; they won't do anything about the attraction, but the visuals by-pass any intellectual judgments. Besides, it's like going to the theatre--you just want to suspend belief and enjoy the play. You don't keep telling yourself, "That's only an actor up there...that's only an actor up there..."

Be careful, Aileen. Even at a distance, email exchanges can start to get out of hand very quickly. I have learned to "drop out" of some of them, as much as I hate doing that.

[Virginia]

Aileen,
I think it is neat that you have this admirer, but you have to separate flirting and leading some guy on! There is a point where one stops and the other begins.
Also, it is my understanding that it is now possible for someone with the right expertise to track someone down from the internet. I hope I am wrong, but as Anita said, "BE CAREFUL!"
Love ya,
Virginia

[Amanda (SO)]

Yeah, care must be taken when dealing with people on the net. When I was 14 I had one of those "Admirerers" from an online game... One thing lead to another, and next thing you know I had a stalker. He would call constantly, send me really gross pictures, stuff like that...

We had to change our phone number and my father threatened him before he would leave me alone...Even so we would occasionally see his car parked out front of our house...

Everything is a-okay now though! Adora's been absolutely wonderful in helping me get over the residual effects of that nightmare (hugs, baby!). I'd really hate to see something like that happen to someone else .

Hope I'm not coming off sounding too preachy. Flirting and the such is quite fine, but if you do that to the wrong person...

[Becky]

great youre having fun and all the more power to you; just pays to be cautious as well. Dont give out any more detail thans necessary.