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This looked like the best section to post this, even tho Its not realy a "while dressed" post.
I just had a great 1/2 day off and decided to go and have my nails done. I first had a French manicure done while at SCC last year and was thrilled by the look and strength of the nails.That was my only time having my nails done anywhere. Not wanting to remove them totaly afterwards I trimmed them back to almost my normal length and went a couple weeks before they started looking kinda funny at the base of my nail.
Then I worked up the courage to have them "filled in" while in drab, and the girl talked me into a manicure at the same time,,,,,, WOW that was so relaxing and afterwards my nails looked smooth and even once again.
But after a couple more weeks went by I just did not have the time to get them done again so I soaked my nails in acitone to remove all the gel nail material.
So today I decided to splurge and have another manicure and the gel nails done again. while in drab. For those that have never done this and are worried about what the people at the salon think,,, dont worry !!!!!!!!!!!
The girl was very helpful and never flinched when I told her what I wanted!
She knew right off what type of work I do ,,as my hands realy show lots of damadge, cuts ect,,, but she did my nails at a very fem length, rounded them just right and finished them with a coat of base, clear, and quick dry polish.
I was happy to hear her say "you need to come back in 2 weeks for a fill in " :-)))))))
Sad to say ,, I had to trim them down quite a bit when I got home, so they would not stand out when I get back to work in the morning but
I hope to someday get back there as Cindy and get a pretty color done to match what I may be wearing. For now, this is a nice way to sneak in some quality girl time, and I hope to make this a normal routine from now on.
Hope this didnt bore anyone, but I know how long I thought about having this done ,and now it seems so easy/natural.
Cindy

I have my nails done every few weeks. I can relate to the way you feel about having pretty hands and nails. At first I told the woman at the nail shop I was going to a party. She has come to know that no one goes to that many "parties".
On one trip my wife went with me, helped me pick out a nice shade of polish, and we had manicures and pedicures together.

Julie

Hi there,

Great thread!

I've never had my nails done, but I'm thinking about it more and more.

Beauty

Great post Cindy!

I have a manicure and pedicure on a regular basis, and have had acrylics done while in drab on a couple of occasions. Both times, no one even seemed to notice until I was under the lamp while they dried, and even then it was to compare colors with some of the ladies. Maybe I've just been lucky, but I would definitely recommend trying it once, anyway.

Anyway, I usually have to reserve getting a set until I have a few days off to enjoy them. Otherwise, I have to trim them back or remove them too soon for me to get full appreciation value.

Hi! Cindy,
What a nice picture. You look to be a wonderful person.

I have still been too scared to go dressed. I went to a salon first time
last August. I read all the nice stories on CDDF. The shop was empty.
The woman was so understanding and kind. I had tears and just glowed after.
Her shop was closed when I went back. Brown maroon toes.

It took another two months to get up nerve to risk my feelings again.
I called a shop ahead. They too were more than professional. I got
another pedicure. This woman talked with me about things feminine that
I love, like an old friend would. I went to her new shop in another town
twice more. She thought people were more accepting that I came as a
man. That is what I thought also as I don't believe I can pass completely
always. That was inconvenient so I hadn't had my toes done for another
couple months.

Last week I got some time off, which is in short supply. I just walked in
a salon. I chose the place because I asked a woman friend at work
where she got her pretty nails done. I don't know what she would say if
she knew I was asking for myself.

This was the first time I was open and asked around other woman. She
was nice and had a sense of humor. She smiled and asked a second time
you want your toes polised with color. I smiled my best smile, which isn't
very good yet and said yes I would love that if it was alright and no one
would be offended. She did a beautiful job in dark plum. The other woman
clients pretty much ignored me. She asked if I would like a manicure while
my toes dry. First I said no and then on reflection said , can you do
anything with these rough hands? She said she could help them quite a bit.

I walked over to the counter being careful with my toes. The woman about
my age beside me looked grouchy. I told her I hope I don't offend her and
ruin her visit. She said, oh my no. We had a nice chat. She did wonder
why. I told her life is tuff and I did my own nails a couple times a year
because the color made me feel happier. I told her my wife has no interest
in doing her own nails. She said, which really surprised me, your wife
doesn't know what she is missing does she? I said no she doesn't. Then
she said it is so much nicer getting nails done professionally isn't it. I
smiled and said, yes now I understand. I enjoyed visiting with you very
much today. The salon woman asked if I wanted color on my nails. I told
her no, it probably would be a bad thing at work. The other woman said
that really is a shame.

I went over to the toe drier beside and across from a couple of other
woman. I commented to the one across that I loved her beautiful red
nails. She smiled and said, do you really? She was maybe 70. She said
that in a salon last year a girl told her that she was to old to have red
nails and that she went here. Each time I get a red brighter and hotter
than the last, she said. I told her I was going to try her color next time.

We visited some more and the other woman jumped in and said that she
has been trying to get her husband to come in and get his toes polished
for fun. She said, could I see. I pulled my toes out from under the table,
and she gasped and said you did get a color! I said I'm sorry, I just liked
the plum. She said no, I like it, but was just surprised. I said maybe you
could talk your husband into a cream or something light and work him up
to something more daring later. I was dry but we all talked a while longer.

The woman said to come back any time and not to worry. Two of the
technicians smiled and said to come back. One waved a small goodby.
I waved and said it was a wonderful hour, Thank you.

I can't remember names for anything but I always had the ability to
remember conversations and everything about people I talk to.
This is not a story or construction. It was one of the most wonderful
moments in my life. My therapist just smiled from ear to ear when I told
her what I did. She said I was really something. She meant it a loving way
and I have tears now remembering that moment.

Those that know me know I like to write long posts. I only hope this was
fun reading and I didn't bore you to tears!

I would like to thank a couple today that helped me to get this far in
myself acceptance. Thank you Sheila, Jamie Ann, Miss Carolyn, Beauty,
Anita, and Genifer Teal. And thank you to those I ommited. Thank you
to Sandy also whom I don't believe I have seen over here yet.

Hi Kersten,
Sounds like you had a great experiance also!
Its hard to believe more GG's dont take the time to get that little bit of pampering !!! I know my own wife wont have her nails done either ?
And thanks for the complaments :-)))
Cindy

Hi Kersten,

Wow.. what a great story.

I can't ever see myself getting up enough nerve to go into a shop of GG's and have anything femme. Kudos!!!

I was suprised by you saying thank you. I'm glad I could help. You've done the hard work yourself though. You should be very proud of what you've accomplished!

Beauty

Beauty,

Thanks for the reply. Like I said, I'm more afraid to go en femm. Could
it be just an unrational fear. Could I be just as accepted made up pretty?
For some reason I fear not.


Cindy,

Very interesting that your wife don't care about pretty nails. For years
it caused problems between us. It seemed so unfair that the things I love
I could not do and she did not desire. Some things attitude wise she is
more manly than I. With some of her attitude I could have been happier
at work. I have been shy all my life and people walk on me easily.

My therapist said that in the positive this gender balance between us
also made us compatable. My wife then was terribly upset that I now
thought of her as less than a woman, which wasn't true. It took us
another 6 months to be happy together again and be able to both look
at our gender balance honestly. It was strange that getting this in the
open made things worse when we unconsciencely knew this this past
29 years together. She finally believes me that I love her the way she
is. This was much more complicated and this is a simplification.

Is your experience this complicated or your wife just doesn't care for
polished nails? I won't think less of you if you don't answer. This is a
very invasive question.

I have enjoyed your writings very much this last week.

Kersten

Hi Kersten,
No I dont mind your question at all ! We are in a similar situation here also, yes its complicated, but maybe in a little different way.
I have always been the quiet/calm type in our marriage of 20 years, and my wife is more outgoing and a extrovert I guess you may say.
Its the opposite's that has kept us together im sure,, if I were more outgoing, we would have clashed personalities long ago.
I dont see my wife as manly, or unlady like, and she realy doesn't see me in a fem way, in fact she doesnt understand how totaly different my 2 sides realy are :-) One weekend I may stay in the mountians hunting, the next I may be gone for a girl event *S* I dont realy get it either but am happy as can be both ways :-)
My wife wears very little make up and thats good for me as I have inherrited several bags of un opened Avon stuff :-))
I would say our biggest problem is my love of shopping for girl stuff, you just cant be seen twice in the same thing right ?? LOL,,, but Im slowing down as I run out of closet space.*s*
ok off to work *sigh*
Cindy

Kersten Lee wrote:Beauty,

Thanks for the reply. Like I said, I'm more afraid to go en femm. Could
it be just an unrational fear. Could I be just as accepted made up pretty?
For some reason I fear not. . . .

Hi Kersten,

I re-read my post. It was kind of confusing. I didn't think you were dressed. I meant to convey that I couldn't be as brave as you are to walk into a shop of GG's to have anything done to me that would be femme.

Beauty