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Hi everyone,

I just wanted to share with everyone how wonderful my wife is. My birthday was last week, and she had bought me a long-sleeve pink button-down top, a lovely brown skirt, and a chunky necklace. In the past she has occasionally bought me tights, but this is the first full outfit. She told me she had fun shopping for me, although she almost slipped once or twice about who she was buying it for (her cover story was her "sister"). While the outfit itself is stunning, that's not what makes it a great gift: it is the sentiment behind it.

Also, we went out for a nice dinner together Friday night and talked about a lot of things: fun and serious. My CDing came up, and she said it really isn't a big deal for her now. I would just like to attest that the "baby steps" approach really does work!

Anyway, I wish that all of you can experience the joy that I am now feeling. Some of you already have wonderful, accepting spouses, but I know many are still struggling. I want you to know that I am rooting for you!

Jamie

Congratulations, Jamie!

Please stick with those baby steps, hon . . . even though your wife said that you being CD really isn't a big deal for her now, it will be very easy for you to want to take larger steps because of this joy you are now feeling. It's one thing for your wife to buy you a full outfit for your birthday, it's another thing for her to see you in it or be seen with you in public (if she hasn't done so already). Keep up the communication with her, if there are boundaries (or compromises) try expanding them little by little.

Either way, congratulations on having a great birthday, a beautiful outfit from your wife, and also congratulations to your wife for (possibly) stepping outside of her own comfort zone to buy you that outfit!

*Hugs*

- SL

Yeah!!! Jamie

Hope she gives you even more nice surprises!!

Virginia

Jamie,

I agree with you that the sentiment means more than the gift. My wife is fairly new to this also and with baby steps and advice taken from the wonderful people here she is getting more used to it and accepting. For our anniversary she bought me a wig. I cried when she told me what she wanted to do.

Now both my wife and my step daughter are "in my corner" and we've all gone shopping together. Truly a dream come true.

Hang on to that special lady. They don't come along everyday.

Lisbeth

Jamie, I am very happy for you and a belated Happy Birthday.

Yes, do be careful with the baby steps cause it does take a little while.

Speaking of presents my wife too surprised me the other day when I mention my panties were getting wore out, guess what? She got me all new ones. Now that's love.

Congrats and Happy Birthday Jamie.

Congrats on a great day and supportive wife. Although my wife has been supportive from the start (lucky I know) I do find that she is more apt to be okay with my shopping if she is along. I think it is rather funny that she picks things out for me to get so she feels less guilty shopping for herself. The downside is we spend way to much money covering each others guilty shopping habits....lol!

My wife now will tend to order me something from catalogs if she wants something for herself, which is just fine with me.

Hugs...

Darlene

Hi everyone,

Thanks for the comments. Silver Lady and Carol Ann, you make a good point about the baby steps. I certainly don't want to take advantage of her pushing her boundaries. I'm letting her take the lead. Since buying the outfit, she's only seen me try it on without wig and makeup. She hasn't asked for more, so I haven't pushed it. Just the other day, she said that she thought a brown belt and brown boots would go well with the outfit she bought me, and that she'd keep her eyes open for them. If she buys me something more great, if not, I won't hound her about it.

I'm not sure I need to push her boundaries much more than they already are. If she's comfortable occasionally seeing me dressed, and occasionally buying stuff for me, then I think I can be pretty happy. I think I would be too frightened to go out in public without an "excuse" (like Halloween). Perhaps, if we were visiting a town where no one knew us.

Jamie