Strange things evolve

[MsJoann]

Back twelve years ago when I first met my SO, she was a simple farm girl...just plain and simple.
Before being "seroius" with my dressing, I can remember her getting very excited seeing me "acting crazy" wearing garter belt/stockings and heels.
As I progressed, a few years later, she found tags from a bra set that I bought, I had a rough time trying to explain.
Since that point I have had a constantly rotating trove of clothing. Most of it is hidden from her, and a small percentage is out in the open for her to see and criticize.
She constantly complains about my naturally long hair as well.
I'm lucky to be self-employed so I exercise my option to wear womens fashions at work (toned-down though)...to my observations, no customers or associates have made comment (some very slightly).
My SO thinks that gay people are righteous but has absolutely no tolerance for a male who expresses himself in a feminine manner. In fact, when we have a normal conversation, sometimes I will mention that a special TG friend stopped by to see me at the office, her tone of voice goes stone cold.
I have also noticed that for the past few years, she has been buying clothing like it's going out of style. Not the old farm girl anymore.
What is this?? I'm changing and she's changing??? I'm really getting mixed feelings on how she views me and it's horror trying to explain myself to someone who will not discuss crossdressing.
She has asked me to explain but I already know that the conversation is going to be opposed.
Sorry ladies.....I'm frustrated and just letting off steam.

[Absaroka]

Maybe the first thing to discuss is that she asked you to explain but you feel like she will oppose the conversation.

Maybe she is afraid of you wanting to transistion. That would explain acceptance of homosexuality but not transgenderism.

Zari

[DonnaT]

A couple of things could be going on.

Her change in clothes could be a result of your CDing. Or could be a result of seeing how other ladies are now dressing. Or could be a desire to appear younger.

I reckon you'd have to tactfully ask why her style has changed.

As for the wanting to know and not wanting to know, I get this too. Can't figure the logic behind it either. So I rarely mention anything to do with TG. I figure she really doesn't want to know more than she does now, but wants it to appear that she does. Seems to work for us, so far.

[MsJoann]

Yeah....there's a lot going on. Could be the fact that she's getting older now. That could be part of it.
What gets me......we can walk into the local TJMaxx and buy underwear for each other without a glitch. She loves Derss Barn and often I go in with her. Her first words to me are "Don't go getting any ideas now". And then proceeds to pull off numerous items of clothing off the racks and asks me to comment on how cute they are.
Arrgh!!!!
You just gotta laugh sometimes. Hey, it's my life anyway!!!

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