When is it time to come out to more members of the family?

Kittie · Post by **Kittie** » Sat Jan 01, 2011 2:52 pm

I am out to my wife but would like to tell some of my family in particular my daughter. how do I go about it. Ifeel she would understand. Cd is now an integral part of my life

Davita · Post by **Davita** » Sun Jan 02, 2011 9:43 am

Hi Kittie, you are asking one of the most difficult questions we girls have to deal with. Ro and I went around in circles about it and when to tell our daughter. I eventually opted to get in trouble and tel our daughter on my own.

Rather write a book here about telling our daughter and all the issues I researched on telling kids, let me give you my web page, http://davita-farley.webs.com/how_to/tel_chld.html. I also have some

experience coming out to friends and coworkers. This discussion can be found out, http://davita-farley.webs.com/how_to/howout.html.

Hope these links help. If nothing else, they may give you a few more things to think about that you hadn't considered. just remember, there isn't necessarily any reason to rush to tell other than you are gonna pop if you don't.

Good luck.

Kittie · Post by **Kittie** » Sun Jan 02, 2011 10:34 am

I found your site helpful for background,. My daughter uis not a child but nearly 39 & it is niot quite the same but we are very close to each other. I still feel I could tell her and she woulod understand

Post by **DonnaT** » Sun Jan 02, 2011 3:01 pm

Just sit down with her and tell her. Know what you are going to say, then say it.

She may ask why you are telling her now. Have a good answer. Some don't want their children to find out after they've died.

Michelle Miller · Post by **Michelle Miller** » Sun Jan 02, 2011 4:49 pm

Over the years, I've found out that more knew than I thought did. I thought I was being all slick, secretive and all that jazz around the ones not 'in the know'...turns out, I got read like a dime store novel by a few cousins and a few others I wouldn't have thought would have picked up on it...silly me...

Turns out, they weren't that worried about it in the first place, in that it didn't really bother them one way or another.

Kittie · Post by **Kittie** » Sun Jan 02, 2011 5:07 pm

DonnaT wrote:Just sit down with her and tell her. Know what you are going to say, then say it.

She may ask why you are telling her now. Have a good answer. Some don't want their children to find out after they've died.

I think this is useful advice and I will think deeply about following it