Telling my Daughter

[Kim D.]

I had my dinner last night with my daughter for her birthday and I told her of Kim. I was shocked she was as non-chalant about it as she was. To be honest Heather and I have always had a good relationship, better than I have had with my older daughter. She asked a lot of questions as I expected but the one she asked that almost floored me was when she would get to "meet" Kim. I told her whenever she was ready so she said she would come over for lunch on Saturday with Kim. She did say she would never be able to call me Mom and I told her I never expected that and she joked maybe I could be Aunt Kim and called me that a few times through the dinner. I guess to her I am now Aunt Kim. I did ask she not say anything to her sister which she agreed to but did ask when I was going to tell Amy. I told her soon but I had to work up more courage and she chuckled and agreed.

All in all it went a lot better than I thought it would, maybe not as good as I hoped but at least she is trying to understand all of this. Come to think of it, I guess I am too even after all these years.

[Kittie]

You are very brave & I wish I had the courage. I went out today to the shops dressed femme & felt perfectly normal doing it
. I am sure my daughter will be sympathetic & un derstanding

[Latanya]

sometimes it is very hard to understand all this ourselves
but bqaby steps in the right direction is good!

[Karin]

Aaaaw. That's awesome Kim Congratulations! Not only on making that huge step successfully, but on having such a good relationship with your daughter. The fact that she's so cool and accepting is testimony to the close relationship you must have. Love no matter what, and that's priceless!

I agree about baby steps, one at a time. It's easy to get carried away and if it were me, I'd get used to things as they are now, let that become the new norm for a little while,then plan the next stage?

Good for you Kim!

[Leeza]

Great Kim

It is so much better when some family members are accepting. I have been shopping with both my daughters, one of my daughter-in-laws and one of my granddaughters. The other DIL and granddaughters have all asked when they could go out with Leeza.

Some of them have refered to me as Aunt Leeza and others call me Leeza. The GD I shop with the most though needs more training as she calls me grandpa.

Although I don't get much time out with the family members, I realy enjoy the time we do get. For many of them, they get to see a side of me that they haven't seen much of (my fun side).

Leeza

[Anna]

Wow, Kim, there's a weight lifted from your shoulders!!!

I'm really pleased for you, and as others have said - softly softly.

Anna x

[Ginny Jones]

Hey Kim!

Well done you! You have been a brave girl! And your daughter sounds like a real poppet! I'm glad she asked lots of questions - "Um, Ok then!" probably wouldnt have been such a good response!

Of course - now you have to pick an outfit to wear! No pressure there then!

Hugs Ginny x

[DonnaT]

Good to hear it went well, Kim.

[Kim D.]

Thanks for all the kind words and encouragement. To be honest I am more scared of Saturday than I was last night. The girls were taught to be ladies and I could never picture one of them giving me a hard time in public. Have to see how t goes here. I was planning on making a salad for lunch for Heather and me and wearing one of my maxi dresses, sound OK to all of you?

[Karin]

Hmmm. I think if it were me, I'd probably ask a pre emptive question, of how much of Kim does she want to see? A lil bit, or full blown? Heehee. Is that cheating? Heehee. It woukd make it easier for me I think.

Not knowing the details, I think salad is an excellent choice. It's light, can be adaptable from a full meal to a light snack and it's easy to prepare etc....

Ohhhh wait! My bad, you meant the dress didn't you? Heehee. Sounds wonderful Kim, it's got to be something not overdone, yet girly enough to show who you are. Most of all something you're really comfortable in?

I can only imagine the nerves until this is done heehee. But honestly, the way the last meeting went down, I think the hard part is done already. First few minutes will be odd, then it'll be plain sailing IMO

[Kim D.]

Actually I meant both the dress and the salad Karin

[Karen Ski]

Kim, fisrt off both the salad and the dress sound lovely, very apropro for the situaton.

As for your fears, all I can do is relate them to me own experiences. I was never close to my parents, Dad died when I was 6 and my Mother when I was 19. However, I was close to my aunt, my moter's sister. Shirley kind of took over after my mother died and made sure I finished school and looked after me in a motherly way. Well I finally decided to tell her about Karen. I remember it well I was 26 and her words to me were "So what took yu so long to fess up?" She became my champion, mentor, and friend and helped me through more than af ew tough spots. Just relax and let your daughter discover how at ease yuo are as Kim and I am sure everything will work out between you and both of your daughters!