Fairness to our neutral gender

[Anne Bonny]

I have been wanting to lose weight and allow my hair to grow long enough to be styled masculine and or feminine as I desire. A huge part of the weight loss drive is so that I will be thinner and look better when I am dressed feminine, part is health and longevity too of course. I have desired pierced ears and sometimes my earlobes are crying out to feel the weight of ear rings as my breasts are screaming out for the snug caress of a bra - funny how that works. Anyway... I have not had my ears pierced because my generation of men and men in my family specifically do not have ears pierced hum...may ask my sister about that. I was raised in a military family and had a military career (20 years as a military RN) as a child I wanted a "Beatle hair cut" that really dates me!! man! or Woman ha! Best I could get away with was a "surfer cut" with long hair over my forehead. Still there are men who sport a longer hair style and they look just great but with no experience I suppose there is a learning curve in how to style it when it is over 2/3'rds of the ear. I saw pictures of myself and nearly gave in to go get it cut, but in fairness to my feminine side this time I am not going to give in, after all Anne deserves a nice hairstyle without having to put on my wig.

Wonder if any other part timers are compromising like this seeking gender peace for their selves?

[DonnaT]

Why conform to society, or your familial society, on one small point when you don't conform on any of the other points?

Go on, get your ears pierced! You'll love it!.

[Anne Bonny]

I have found out how to use a brush to fluff out my hair for more volume then lightly part centrally and to brush the side burns back over the ears (which I keep about the level of the ear notch on the front of the ear) and to brush the hair back on the sides - looks really nice (especially when I use a little brow powder, mascara and lipstick with my small gold clip on hoops. I do need to have my hair evened out as the barber (they do women's hair too but many more men) in cutting my hair seems to have it fixed to part on the side and then long enough to throw back over the top so it stays which has always been my preference (like the Jackle in the 70's version of that movie) sans the ascot of course.

I need to have it cut evenly on both sides like Dorthy Hammel - geeze have to quit dropping names that date me!

I am considering it seems I am melting in that direction...non conformity that is - it is part of what makes me a complex and interesting person (to some). A sodding bore to most....

I left my femm jeans, white taylored shirt, bra, strappy casual pumps, watch ear rings and bracelet sitting of the side of the tub...my wife's aid went in there to get a towel she does not know, in searching for a washcloth in the clothing on the foot of the bed fresh out of the dryer I am sure she saw a few pairs of panties...nothing said and did not throw he off her usual interaction with me even though it must have been patently obvious that all of these items were mine and not my wife's as she is much bigger than I am and in pull ups.

[Carol Esme]

Hair length, ear piercing, facial hair removal, hair transplant to fix bald spot, lash tinting and hormones are all points of dispute between my wife and myself. So far our compromise allows me to grow my hair longer, have occasional laser removal of facial hair and use hormones and I slipped in lash tinting without her noticing. Ears and hair transplant are for her a step too far.

[Anne Bonny]

It is true that there are plenty of men young and old who have pierced ears including one of my sons!
That is a point to raise....

[Davita]

When I first saw this topic title I'm thinking kids? babies? As I read the entries, it seems the discussion is more about unisex appearances so that, with a little shift in the styling we can depict more of one gender or the other.

It most be nice to have hair to have a unisex style.

Earrings? Yeah guys have them now even in both ears. I'm watching as they are slowly getting into hoops; I don't recall the last dangle in a guy's ear though. I see men's fashions this year and last trailing women's. And what I mean is that guys now have the colors and even the softer fabrics women had the years before. Men are getting manicures. Is the term "Metroman" still in use?

For me, I hate being neutral. I like being girly and expressing it. I own very little unisex anything and what I have is because I like how it looks.

On a side note, I noticed on my Avenue jeans I wore yesterday that the rivets had their name on them.

[Anne Bonny]

No I am not after unisex, I want hair that can be styled feminine when brushed out and styled, or Masculine when combed with a side part to do that I will need to allow my hair to grow a little longer which I am doing. My question is if I have the length cut the same on both sides will I still be able to comb it over into the man's style?

My gender shifts around alot, right now I am more masculine, but when I am feminine I prefer to style it feminine and wear women's clothing, make up, jewelry etc...I ordered some camisoles yesterday so I could wear them instead of a t-shirt when I have panties on and may or may not wear a bra under that.

I suppose I will have to find hair cutting place that serves men and women and discretely ask that question, and if I can have it evened out and still comb it male I will have it done.

[Ralitsa]

Yes, I do this same thing Anne.
I don't like unisex, to me that means plain and boring.
So sometimes I dress in very feminine fashions, sometimes more practical but still feminine enough, and sometimes masculine. It all depends on what I have to do at that time and what I feel like. I don't generally mix the clothes, but if it's jeans and a t-shirt then that is sort of like unisex anyway.
I've grown my hair out a little bit so that I can style it more feminine if I want. And I do use a wig sometimes, depending on what I'm wearing, just because I don't like my hair (the small bit that there is) and like to have the option of more styles. I don't feel like I need to wear one to be a proper woman but it's like any accessory, and one can never have too many accessories.
Anyway, I just don't like following rules, whether they are guy rules or girl rules. I don't know if you would call that a neutral gender or just a basic failure to comply.

[Anne Bonny]

I am wondering if my wife's sitter might help...but I am getting used to a style that covers most of my ears. What I do is shampoo twice, conditioner and when it is dry I use the wire brush to fluff out the sides and back as women do then part in the center and sweep the hair back on the sides, and of coarse bangs in front some to the sides, some whisps central over the forehead as I see women do and it looks great especially with small gold hoop clip-on's (cost about $30 for quality) mascara darken the eyebrows some, and lipstick. I also have a wig but I am really liking being able to style my hair so I do not have to don a wig. Same wig in my profile picture. I am so lucky to have hair, my father was bald on top - glad I did not get that gene.

Oh and I have also dropped 39 pounds since 1 October, and walking 2.5 miles a day that also helps - 2.5 pounds from my goal of 178 which at 5'9.5" and medium frame helps a lot! I feel so much better, more energy, more flexibility at 57 I am optimizing my health for the years ahead. Dresses and Chemises look so much better when you are thin.

[Rikki]

Way to go with the weight-loss program!! You're my inspiration, kiddo.

Happy Holidays,
Rikki

[Anne Bonny]

179.5 this morning and the sprint to maintenance continues!