How comfortable and confident are you?

[Rader]

I am firmly in the old closet. My wife who was OK with my dressing said
please do not embarrassed me by going out. I am a real big guy, nothing
about me is remotely feminism. I have big hands, arms shoulders, legs;
well you get the picture.
This never stop me from dressing at home, and under dressing when I can.
I wear panties 24/7, and a bra about 60% of the time.
I do wish I could leave the nest, but the entire neighborhood knows me all
to well. I am afraid I will be spotted in a hart beet.
SO I will enjoy the closet, I made it a lot bigger 12 years ago, so I have more
room to roam.
Rader

[Martina Hall]

Rader, at least your wife is OK with your dressing at home. For some of us, the best-case scenario would be to do it in another town, because all your neighbors are nosy. I know, I've lived in a city of 950,000 another one of 260,000, and a real small hick town of 1500, and ALL of them are full of snoops.
The good news is, if I am somewhere that no one who knows me knows where I am, and I am dressed like Martina, and people see me, hopefully, I'm just another 'woman' they don't know. It's like being invisible, in a way. It's a lot easier to pull off away from my neighborhood. Bumping into someone I know is one of my worst worries. That, and getting pulled over.
Spring is finally here, and I'm rarin' to go. Know whut I mean?

[Anne Bonny]

I am just an average sized man, 5'9.5", 172#, with average shoulders. I walk and am fit but I do not lift weights so do not have huge muscles.

There are large women...I think of that line in the Princess bride when after knocking out Andre the Giant the Dread Pirate Roberts advises him to "dream of large women". I know some of my wife's cousins are tall, and well large - yet they aren't mistaken for men so I would study fashions for large women and see how they dress and adorn their selves. Even I have discovered flats. There are things you can do and I agree living in the house is not so bad.

[Noeleena]

Hi.

That is something that comes up a bit , weight height,and size shape.

Height 5,9. weight 11 stones give and take around 1/2 stone = 154 lb . in looks body over all female and shape . shoulders 18 in. waist 34- in. breasts or bust 41 in.= 16 d.bra
hips 39 in.

so as you can see im not to bad .

Now strength im very strong and had to be for my work. yet i never showed big around the legs or arms so when you look at me next to another female im no different and a woman i know i tryed her boots on and we are so close in size weight and fitting clothes shoes ,

Though what stands out to me is my strength . I did weight lifting in the 60's not your normal way yet same end result, strength was very good, now you know those upright Stineways panio's , well i can lift one end no trouble and move it,

Now i know a lot of men cant, so yet i did heavy work most of my life of cause meds had none or have any effect on my strength, yet many people who are on them have lost a lot some 50 % some more some less, i know whats going on in my case .

So of cause this brings up the ? of many here and the other forums im on , say they hate thier bodys hmmm , okay , because they wont to dress like a woman or change,

Im happy with my body and allways have been and still am.

so what you think, that i have a lot of advantages , just dont forget i allso have a lot of disadvantages, so no i dont have it all to gether as some may think. its just in different ways .

I know my best advantage is of cause is being female , because had i not had been or born this way, i can tell you i would have struggled in a major way.....doubt id be here yapping on as i do,

...noeleena...

[Wendae]

No longer a big deal. I'm comfident and comfortable after all those years of fear.

[Trudy]

I have been out of the closet since the 70's and gone out pretty much wherever and whenever I wanted since the early 80's so I would say I and very comfortable in who I am. As for confident in the beginning I had misgivings and some apprehension as we all do. As time progressed my confidence grew, not so much that I was "passing" or fooling anyone who I was but more that if you watch yourself most people are accepting. Perhaps the fact I lived in the SF Bay area at that time helped. As I think about I the confidence comes with being comfortable and being comfortable comes with being confident in yourself. They are not the same but they feed off each other.