A common lady

[Robyn]

And, if I say so myself, they look good on me.

See, that's really what it's all about. Feeling good with what you're wearing.

[Virginia]

Never lose sight of this fact!

When Nature Gal rolls out of bed in the morning and her feet hit the floor ----- she is 110% female. We can only strive to be that which we admire!

Virginia

[Anne Bonny]

Wow I think we have very similar philosophies on this. Had I been female I would be dressing like the other women around me and this is what I do when I dress... I look around and observe women who are around me everyday. They are comfortably dressed with minimal make up, sure nail polish sometimes not. Dresses are kind of a rare thing around here unless the weather is very warm and they put on a sundress otherwise slacks or jeans or shorts and a top that can range form a blouse or shirt to polo to t shirt to a tank top. Ballet flats, flat sandals or running shoes. Just casual everyday wear. To this they of course add jewelry but it is not excessive, and sometimes they do not wear ear rings.
Dresses and skirts are not as common but in warm weather they will wear them, or if they are dressing up.

Neither do I put on any kind of an act I am not sure if I tone anything down, if I do it comes from inside I only dress when I feel more intensely feminine and it becomes more prominent than my masculinity. I am just my casual self the same self I would have been were I female.

"I’m definitely wired as a male. I am a guy, and I don’t wish to change that, but I also have a feminine side which I express through clothing (for the most part). Being able to present myself as a female “part time” fulfills me emotionally and spiritually. My difficulty is finding my comfort level. Getting to the point that is seemingly so easy for some, like yourself is not quite that easy for me. My goal is to blend in. In fact, not being noticed at all would be ideal for me. :-)"

Yes we are just alike it seems, you are inspiring me to go dress today...well for me it comes from within. Most of my clothes are casual. Your thoughts could be my own-wow! Finding that comfort level. I believe confidence comes from being who we are naturally and from that comes comfort. I really believe being accepted for who we are is more likely when we are at ease and it is possible we become more passable or more likely to just be accepted for who we are because we are just being who we always are - ourselves. Of course we want to look nice when we are feminine the key is to be yourself, to be comfortable and use just enough to highlight your personal features or assets but too much does not work really does it? It does take some experimentation to find what clothing looks good on us personally, what hair style is best for us. Finding the right grooming that is not over done a slight arch to the brows...Keeping my weight down is something I prefer, not biting at my nails but grooming them and they needn't be excessively long - most women's are just past the tips of their fingers.

I am having difficulty finding my comfort level...was doing well there are 15 people who know, add this site and anonymously on the web 16 (lumping all of it together as 1 it is all anonymous). But I only dress at home on occasion. When the son still living at home told me he really preferred I not dress around him it really put a damper on the great progress I had been making. Now I am back to having to wait for opportunity in my own home so as not to offend him I mean he knows and accepts me but just does not want to see Anne. Oh well I am getting way off topic but it is exciting to see your similar thinking here. Don't know why but it just makes me feel very good it is a reassurance I suppose that everything is going to be all right for me. I mean I am 57 and transgender and I am comfortable with it but have to keep working to find that comfort level with it. I wonder if I will come out fully that is where I really need to be...there is one sister I do not want to lose, parents never knew, or a 1/2 brother who is presumed dead we do not know what happened to him. I have moved back into agnosticism do not want to be in a church where I would be rejected just for because of who I am, so want nothing to do with them anymore they never knew. I am in the process once my wife dies (she knew too of course and accepted me) of constructing a new life surrounded by people who know all of who I am from the ground up...perhaps that is the way. But the neighbor?? sigh...I am independently solvent and retired so I am in an extremely strong position - If I came out fully to the world the risk of any real harm to myself financially or otherwise would be minimal - leaving just the public, people on the bank fishing when the weather gets warm...things like that this is the deep south. Oh sorry I do go on and on. Anne