restrictions

Kandy · Post by **Kandy** » Mon May 17, 2004 1:09 am

The wife will let me wear night gowns panties stockings. But she is not sure about me wearing anything more then that .can any of you give us some help in overcomming thes restrictions. She found pic and my wig and everythig else in my closet she didnt know that I had and was putting the on says she is not sure she can handle it.She says she dont want a sister.She has been doing some reading on the subject and is starting to understand about my crossdressing. any added advise will be aprecated.

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Mon May 17, 2004 7:06 am

Kandy,
Thanks for joining us! You are in a situation much like a lot of your "sisters" here. First, I would recommend that you spend as much time as possible reading the posts here. You will find that a lot of the SO's here say the same thing, it is not so much the CD'ing that will trouble your wife, but the fact that you tried to hide it from her! ON A VERY POSITIVE SIDE - THE FACT THAT SHE IS "READING- UP" ON IT IS A VERY GOOD SIGN!
I have directed my sisters and their SO's to a couple of great websites. One is entitled "Jung's Anima Theory and How it Relates to Crossdressing."
Carl Jung is described by many as the "father of modern Psychology."
http://ourworld.compuserve.com/homepage ... /anima.htm
The other is "Observations About Transgender People" by Lin Fraser
http://www.genderweb.org/experien/obstg.html
I hope you will stay around - you will be absolutely amazed at the talent and compassion of the sisters here, just ask and we are here for you!
Love,
Deborah

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Mon May 17, 2004 7:09 am

Hi Kandy,

I agree with Deborah. Please read the SO area. That will help you understand what your wife is feeling and may help you communicate better. Also there are threads in here that deal specifically with telling your wife.

In the area "A Place For Togetherness" there is LOTS of info to read there, that can also help.

Welcome to the forum!!!!

Beauty

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Mon May 17, 2004 7:33 am

Kandy, Just one more thing, you might want to go to the "New Members" and post some information and also if you have time put a bit of onfo under the area called "Your Beginnings" that will give us some insight into how we can best help you and your wife - OH! she is also welcome to visit too!
Love ya,
Deborah

Josey · Post by **Josey** » Mon May 17, 2004 8:25 am

Hi Kandy,

As another thought, you said your wife was reading a lot. Would she consider signing into this forum as an SO and posting her feelings in the SO section? She might get help from the other SO's who post here. Sharing sometimes makes it easier.

Honey(SO) · Post by **Honey(SO)** » Mon May 17, 2004 8:59 am

Since you say she lets you wear underthings then she must be somewhat accepting. Has she know for along time? Perhaps finding your stash was a shock to her since she now knows that you are more into the dressing than she thought.
it is time for some long conversations and some patience on your part. Ask her if you can add a little at a time, don't go crazy with it all at one time, this is a sure way to turn her off. It sometimes takes us wives a while to accept more, more dressing with our husbands when we are used to just the underthings they are usually hidden by male clothing but when you top it off with fem wear we are faced with it all the time. Plus we start to wonder how far will you be going and then the real worries start. We try to be as accepting as we can but we all have our own limits.
I am going to send you a PM with some information that would be helpful to your wife.
Honey

Loretta Ann · Post by **Loretta Ann** » Mon May 17, 2004 9:56 am

Hi Kandy,

You have been given some sound advise here. I just want to take this time to welcome you here.

Kandy · Post by **Kandy** » Mon May 17, 2004 1:14 pm

Thank you all for your input. will keep you up to date with progress.again thank you.{ Kandy}