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My rant from 5/11/04 - Deleted? I thought I had input here
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One last observation.
For the most part, everyone that I have come in contact with on this forum as been rather respectable and decent in manner and content. There are neighborhoods where the "F" word is used so often, I felt my ears bleeding. But, to the locals, this is acceptable and is part of their language.
I can only immagine that from time to time, we will have someone that employs words and or phrases that may not be part of "our" daily cultural scene. There are 600,000+ words in the formal English Dictionary. As a culture, we employ approximately 1,200 words in everyday use. These words are heard so often that we take them for granted as being typical of our culture.
Thinking back to my studies of other Countries, each has it's only special words and phrases that can be good or bad depending on the listeners experience and education. There are clearly words that I could employ here that one has never heard of but that carry a very nasty tone, meaning or both. You just would not know what I was saying until you took the time to look them up.
I am not nit-picking here, if you think about it, there are plenty of words and phrases that we all are not familiar with that have some rather condescending meanings. So when we see a word that we do recognize, it is not the word that is being censored but the context in which it is being used and by whom for what purpose.
Among the African American community there is the "N" word used in various ways among the community. But, this is highly inflammatory, derogatory and demeanning if used by someone of another race or outside of that community.
So, what we say, how we say it, and to whom we say it, can have a significant impact. Just how does one "monitor" such behavior and apply which standards? I admit that this can be rather destructive, so I choose to keep my 1,200 words in line with what I may say to my Mother and father for whom I have the upmost respect.
Stress comes out in many forms. No one form having greater weight than the "public forum." I feel compelled to "stradle" the fence rather than take sides.
Hugs
Danielle
For the most part, everyone that I have come in contact with on this forum as been rather respectable and decent in manner and content. There are neighborhoods where the "F" word is used so often, I felt my ears bleeding. But, to the locals, this is acceptable and is part of their language.
I can only immagine that from time to time, we will have someone that employs words and or phrases that may not be part of "our" daily cultural scene. There are 600,000+ words in the formal English Dictionary. As a culture, we employ approximately 1,200 words in everyday use. These words are heard so often that we take them for granted as being typical of our culture.
Thinking back to my studies of other Countries, each has it's only special words and phrases that can be good or bad depending on the listeners experience and education. There are clearly words that I could employ here that one has never heard of but that carry a very nasty tone, meaning or both. You just would not know what I was saying until you took the time to look them up.
I am not nit-picking here, if you think about it, there are plenty of words and phrases that we all are not familiar with that have some rather condescending meanings. So when we see a word that we do recognize, it is not the word that is being censored but the context in which it is being used and by whom for what purpose.
Among the African American community there is the "N" word used in various ways among the community. But, this is highly inflammatory, derogatory and demeanning if used by someone of another race or outside of that community.
So, what we say, how we say it, and to whom we say it, can have a significant impact. Just how does one "monitor" such behavior and apply which standards? I admit that this can be rather destructive, so I choose to keep my 1,200 words in line with what I may say to my Mother and father for whom I have the upmost respect.
Stress comes out in many forms. No one form having greater weight than the "public forum." I feel compelled to "stradle" the fence rather than take sides.
Hugs
Danielle
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Same here, Shannon... I have the same problem. Whenever I get very angry, my male side totally takes over. All I can see are rolling heads and blood shed. More often than not I will sometimes even get physical. Believe me, I am not proud of my temper. And sadly yes, it is hereditary. I grew up with my parents throwing heavy objects at one another during their fights.Shannon wrote:Well, first let me say I am sorry to anybody who was bothered by my rants... I must admit I am more Male than Female.... my abiltiy to get irritated and how I react to irritation is most definately male.
In our defense however, let us remember that we are all human beings. None of us are saints, gods or robots. We have bad days, we make bad desicions, we sometimes even lose control. Even after the "excrement" hits the fan, all we can really do is pick up from where we are and move on and try to be the best we can. But we must also remember the valuable lesson learned as not to allow ourselves to fall into the same pits in the future.
Live it. Love it. OWN IT.