very very hard day

Mellissa · Post by **Mellissa** » Sun Sep 12, 2004 3:44 pm

Well its sunday and my wife and I had a long long talk and at the end we both came to the conclusion that we both need time to get things straight
And figure some things out for ourselves
My wife needs time to learn to accept it if she ever accepts it
She was great she realy listend to me and to my deepest feelings how strange they might seem to her
So she needs time to figure out wether she'll still wants me or not
and if she wants to live with me as i am

For me i need time to figure out on how far i want to go in this and how i want to live on as crossdresser

So we decided it was best to go live apart from each other for a while
but not a divorce (yet)
sort of living apart togehter thing so i can do my thing when i feel the need
and she can have time to figure thing out for her self

It was hard on me but i do think this is the best solution
And i think its best for the kids so they dont live in a house with stressed and burned out parents
and were gonna work on our relationship and on how we gonna fit this new me in the marriage

Hope you'll understand and want to give some support or just a hug when i'm lonely

hugs and love Mellissa

Eloise Goth · Post by **Eloise Goth** » Sun Sep 12, 2004 3:47 pm

we're always here if you need us, Mellissa

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Sun Sep 12, 2004 3:50 pm

Hi Mellissa,

Things will get better!

Out of curiousity. How long ago did you tell her?

Yes you can always count on hugs from us!!!!

Beauty

Loretta Ann · Post by **Loretta Ann** » Sun Sep 12, 2004 3:53 pm

Hi Mellissa,

Lorna · Post by **Lorna** » Sun Sep 12, 2004 4:07 pm

Hi Melissa, we're right here for you hon...

Mellissa · Post by **Mellissa** » Sun Sep 12, 2004 4:44 pm

Well Beauty i told her last thursday (hardest thing i ever did in my life)

thx for al the hugs

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Sun Sep 12, 2004 5:31 pm

Hi again,

Ok. I was just asking because it's so new. Not the CD'ing part, but telling someone. You're right. you just need more time.

In the first year, please don't do anything too drastic (that you can control). That's a timeline based on nothing but experience of what a difference a year makes in the life of an out of the closet TG'd person.

I thought my wife and I were going to break up during my first year of officially being out to her and going to support meetings. The longer life goes on the more I realized my lifestyle is only one part of my life. Things changed and are better now. You seem to have a healthy mindset and that's half the battle.

Regardless of all of my armchair advice I wish you the best!!!

Beauty

CJ · Post by CJ » Sun Sep 12, 2004 7:48 pm

Hi all,

Melissa:

Love,
CJ

Calina_Leigh · Post by **Calina_Leigh** » Sun Sep 12, 2004 10:35 pm

Self Removed

Ginny · Post by **Ginny** » Mon Sep 13, 2004 3:33 am

We've chosen (or allowed ourselves to go down) a very difficult path.

The existence of this forum makes it easier to cope, but it'll never really be easy.

Take heart, we're all thinking of you.

Mellissa · Post by **Mellissa** » Mon Sep 13, 2004 9:22 am

I like to thank all of you for all your hugs and kind words
This realy means a lot to me and to my wife couse she thinks it's good i can talk about it with people who are like me hugs from her to

Mellissa

Jassmine(SO) · Post by **Jassmine(SO)** » Mon Sep 13, 2004 9:22 am

Hey Melisa,

*Hugs & Love*

Mellissa · Post by **Mellissa** » Tue Sep 14, 2004 4:36 pm

Well i must be dreaming or be on cloud nine

Tonight when the kids were to bed my wife and i talked about how we r gonna go on, like i said she was going to move out for a while so I said you need a house and lots of other stuff
But then she came sit close to me and said "No matter what you are or what you do i love just the way you are "
She said she still needed time to get used to the idea and that she's not ready to see me dressed up
But she said "I dont want to split up not even for a while I want us to stay together"
So we agreed we move to a new home together so we can get a fresh start and that i can dress up at night when she's to bed as long as i lock the door so the kids dont walk in on me
And she said to go more often to her mother and take the kids with her so i can have a whole weekend to do what i feel i need to do

For me this is like a dream come true no more hiding no more worries if they find out
I know one thing i found a little Angel on this planet and i'm holding on to her no matter what
I think i go out and buy her some wings
She's the best thing that ever happend to me
I only regret not telling her sooner
So here sits one happy "girl"but also a happy man
And i love her dearly

Just wanted you girls to know wish i could come over and say it in person
but you are a big help to me this forum realy helped me out
and i just want to thank you for that
I personally think your girls are the most open minded people i met and you can be bloody well proud of it dont let anyone tell you different
So a realy biiiiig hug from me and my wife to all of you
I love you, even do i never met you in person(to bad do i wish i could)
you people brightend up my life thank very very mutch

lots of love to you

Mellissa