my (so's) worries

Pauline · Post by **Pauline** » Sat Sep 18, 2004 5:12 pm

Hello ladies

my wife is starting to worry about if she would b classed as a lesbian when she is taking the woman in me to our bed.. i/we need some input/advice from both cd'rs and (co's) point of views who may have come across this situation. thanks

Pauline

Amelie-Laveau · Post by **Amelie-Laveau** » Sat Sep 18, 2004 5:50 pm

Your wife can not be classified as a lesbian, It doesn't matter how good you do your make-up or what kind of womans clothes you wear, you're still a man and she is a woman. You would have to chop off "little willy" before she can be even remotely considered a lesbian. We all have fantasies of being different people, and it's just that, a fantasy. Because you think you are having a lesbian relationship doesn't mean you are lesbians. It takes a little more than just wearing the clothes of the oppisite sex.
She should not worry, having a relationship with you can not make her a lesbian, it can not even label her a lesbian.

She should however watch out when she uses the ladies room, I hear you can catch the lesbian bug from toilet seats.

Love Amelie

Alexandra · Post by **Alexandra** » Sat Sep 18, 2004 6:05 pm

IMO, don't let labels get in the way of how you two feel about each other.

Elizabeth · Post by **Elizabeth** » Sat Sep 18, 2004 7:28 pm

Pauline,

Unless she her sexual preferece is women, than she can not be a lesbian. When you are intimate, I am sure she won't feel like a lesbian. I agree with Alexandra, don't get caught up in lables. You are still you, and she is still her.

Love always,
Elizabeth

Honey(SO) · Post by **Honey(SO)** » Sat Sep 18, 2004 9:32 pm

For some wives we question our sexuality because we are attracted to our husbands even when they are dressed as a woman. We know we will not become a lesbian because we make love to our husbands in girl mode. it is a mind game and can get very confusing.

We think of our husbands as the manly man especially in the love department and suddenly now he would like to wear sexy lingere to bed, breasts, makeup....on and on. Hey that was our role and now he wants it!
we are used to love with firm roles on each part, now the roles change alot. Each couple has to work on where the roles will go and what new play will get into it.
Give it time and patience, it can spice your love life up alot, talk about what you both want and no pressure on either side. In the long run even with the extra accessories it is still my man, my husband in bed with me.

Honey

Beauty · Post by **Beauty** » Sun Sep 19, 2004 8:29 am

Hi Pauline,

I was going to move this post to "A Place For Togetherness" so you could get more SO opinions, but Honey has done a great job of putting it all into a wonderful picture to explain how many SOs feel about this.

Wonderful job Honey!!!

I also agree with Alexandra and Elizabeth about labels. Labels bad, love of self good. Amelie also brought up a good point you can't "turn" lesbian or gay.

Beauty

Jassmine(SO) · Post by **Jassmine(SO)** » Sun Sep 19, 2004 11:12 am

Howdy Y'all

*Hugs & Love*

Pauline · Post by **Pauline** » Sun Sep 19, 2004 7:06 pm

hello ladies

thank you all v much for putting my wife's worry t bed as it were..lol

Pauline

Virginia · Post by **Virginia** » Mon Sep 20, 2004 7:55 am

Honey, Ya done good girl!!!! AS usual!!!
Pauline, take notes! \
Love,
Virginia