Hi Maggie,
A very good and touching story. I think all crossdressers would ultmately love to have their male and female persona integrated into one but for some the journey is longer than for others. I know as Steffie little things don't bother me as opposed to when I'm male. I can't explain why though. I think in the last few days, though, Steffie (female side) is influencing my male side more and more. One small example is that in the past I have always been the neat one in our household and my wife not as concerned with cleaning and this used to bug me but lately even as a male it no longer bothers me: I still clean up but I no longer complain to her. It's nice that my female persona can take over in these situations. However, I still have a long journey ahead but maybe I (hopefully) took the first few steps. We'll see. Good luck to you (and all the other girls too) in your journey.
Steffie
New Insights on Why I Crossdress
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Linda S
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The motivation for my crossdressing seems to be different from what's been posted in this thread. It's not unique to me - I've seen it discussed elsewhere, but can't remember the details.
I dress to become attractive. And since our attractiveness is a quality defined by the people who see us, I try to look like the women I'm attracted to. In fact, when I go out, I imagine myself as one of those women.
As a man, I am not attractive. At best, I'm simply invisible to women when it comes to friendships and romantic relationships. After many years of rejection and loneliness, I've ended up feeling incomplete as a human being, not capable of experiencing the full range of interactions that better-looking people can enjoy.
So I dress as a woman in order to be seen by the world as what I can't be in "real life": someone who a few people (I hope) feel physically attracted to. The fact that those people are men doesn't matter - what's important is that I think someone finds me desirable. Of course, I'd prefer that women would be attracted to me as I really am - a man - but that just doesn't happen. Ironically, I can be more attractive posing as something I'm not.
Linda
I dress to become attractive. And since our attractiveness is a quality defined by the people who see us, I try to look like the women I'm attracted to. In fact, when I go out, I imagine myself as one of those women.
As a man, I am not attractive. At best, I'm simply invisible to women when it comes to friendships and romantic relationships. After many years of rejection and loneliness, I've ended up feeling incomplete as a human being, not capable of experiencing the full range of interactions that better-looking people can enjoy.
So I dress as a woman in order to be seen by the world as what I can't be in "real life": someone who a few people (I hope) feel physically attracted to. The fact that those people are men doesn't matter - what's important is that I think someone finds me desirable. Of course, I'd prefer that women would be attracted to me as I really am - a man - but that just doesn't happen. Ironically, I can be more attractive posing as something I'm not.
Linda
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Cathy L. Anderson
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When I used to go out to clubs in LA en femme, I'd get spontaneous compliments from both guys and girls. Nothing like that happened when I was dressed drab.